14/12/2021
Cyber bullies - Yes, Over Your Dog!
I've not said but last week was very tough on my family.
We have a 10 year old dog that we love very much (2 rescues in fact). She was a rescue and cannot be neutered as her mother and grandmother died from anesthetic, so as you can imagine, we have never risked it and were advised not to by vets. Apart from that, she's never had a day’s sickness in her whole life!
She recently managed to get pregnant (which we thought impossible), much to everyone's shock and surprise! It literally happened in a second outside and not by my dog.
The pregnancy was a worrying time but mum was fit and well throughout.
Mum gave birth in the middle of the night last week and sadly had one giant puppy that didn't make it...she was devastated (as were the family). She was full of milk, cried non-stop and was taking small toys and trying to feed them.
She refused to eat or drink and cried 24/7. It was heart breaking - we thought we may lose her. The vet said there was nothing physically wrong with her, she was scanned and checked over. The next step would have to be to have her in and to sedate her and put a drip in her for fluids. She just wanted to be a mum...
I was up all night with her, trying to get her to at least drink something and soothe her cries when, I thought I had a brain wave...a way to turn the tragedy around!
I wondered if there were any orphaned pups nearby who needed nurturing as I knew my girl would feed and mother them. I thought it would make her happy and perhaps save a puppies life. So I posted on my local FB group, explained and asked if anyone needed help with a motherless pup or litter? My girl would nurture them and return them once weaned. (IMHO - there should be a national database for this- to put people in touch)
Most people were lovely... but two random women decided to tear into me.
One accused me of being 'a back street breeder' out of nowhere. The other said I should have risked her life and got her neutered...I was a 'terrible owner for not doing so'. One repeatedly said she needed to see a vet when I clearly posted that she had but she chose to ignore this and kept repeating it and the other kept saying 'you shouldn't breed a dog more that 3 times'? When no one had! They just continued to post lies regardless. Not interested in the truth, just in trying to make themselves look big I guess?
I'm no wilting violet and bit back of course but I shouldn't have had to at such an upsetting time. I'm afraid I don't believe in ignoring cyber bullies and allowing them to continue unchallenged.
Their comments got worse, more personal and vile; my inbox was also filled with 'vile comments', from one of them. Maybe I'm naive but I was totally shocked that 2 strangers decided this behavior was ok and vilified me.
Luckily, Facebook removed their comments for being so vile and against community standards without me having to do anything and after 2-3 days of this, it finally stopped.
I expect they are both cyber bullying someone else now.
Interestingly one of the women admitted that "her mother was a dog breeder!" So was somehow claiming this fact gave her special wisdom! It beggars belief really...
I have never cared (still don't) what anyone says about me, but this was something else! You hear about celebs and non-celebs getting this but until you experience it - you can't quite believe how vile some people can be.
I'm 100% sure they wouldn't dare behave like this in person, so why do people turn into 'nasty, bullying, vile 'keyboard warriors' from the comfort of their own homes? Cowardice perhaps? Anger management issues? I have really no idea as it's alien to me, it really is.
Anyway, happy ending. We couldn't find a newborn in time but we did find an older pup, one that also needed a home after. Mum is eating and drinking and no longer cries; we also have one very pampered happy puppy!
Meet the new family member who will stay with us for life.
Cyber bullying - just don't do it and never accept it being done to you either.