Scared to Ride Your Horse?

25/02/2024

Very important please watch

08/01/2023

Puts things in perspective a bit!
She is scared stiff, he is HUGE and a top dressage horse.

And here was me thinking visiting the dressage yard would be the easy video, stay tuned, and hope I sit tight...Head to my Instagram to enter the amazing Uhl...

01/01/2023

For anyone who has struggled in 2022, this is a great message from Charlie Mackesy ❤

01/01/2023

A good relationship helps you both

One of the more popular Internet horse searches begs the simple, sweet question, “Can a horse love you?” The short answer, of course, is a resounding yes. We know that animal love is a different emotion than that of human love. And we also know that the love you feel as a human can’t be...

18/12/2022

Before you get up... smile, a little one will do but aim for a big one. X

02/12/2022

This applies to your riding AND your life

28/09/2022

Helpful

The thing is, the harder we try to keep the legs from moving, the more they swing, tighten, and finally slide out of the stirrups! What to do? Here are three steps (pun intended!) to a quieter leg …

11/07/2022

Helpful fear webinar, if past try for replay: July 14 2022

Is fear holding you back with your horses?🙋‍♀️
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Jenny [email protected] via d34c.emsend3.com
Sun, Jul 10, 11:04 PM (8 hours ago)
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Ohhh la la sweet friend!

I know it's hot out, but, my gosh I love summer. This last few days we have had a bit of a reprieve from the heat, and some much needed rain. It feels sooo gooood!

And that's the weather report from Southern Illinois lol.

I have had a blast this week soaking in the momentum of the girls in the Horse Girl Summer Challenge it is so fun! If you'd like to jump in you aren't too late- grab a spot here. These girls have gotten me motivated to work with horses every day this week but one rainy day.

I am cooking up something so special that I can't wait to tell you about later this week! oooooo it's gooooood!

But! I disgress!

I am soooo excited... because I think it is going to be a breakthrough week for a ton of horse girls.

First a story & I will fill you in! Sorry, I have written you a small novel, BUT I have a point I promise...

➡Echoing through my mind, hundreds of times during the past 10 years, I have heard the echo of a memory of a sweet little 7-year-olds voice
..as I have stood at the end gate waiting for my turn to show...
..or felt anxious before teaching a class...
..or basically any time my nerves are getting the best of me.

"BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Beeeeelieve in yourrrrrrself!"

First...a little context for my story. And I promise there is a BIG take away for you lol.

So, I had a schedule I would follow when I taught summer camp years ago...

On the first day, I would teach the kids the importance of having the belief that they could do anything.

I mean, just imagine how excited a group of little people under 10 is to learn about motivation lol (I am being sarcastic)- they were not impressed & very ready to eat popsicles & ride horses ...

Each day of camp we would get to the good stuff of riding horses & learning riding skills (like steering & going forward) so by Friday we would invite the parents & the kids would show off their mad skills & ride through a little obstacle course by themselves.

This particular week one of my students was a precious little girl who cheered all her fellow campers on as they rode the obstacle course for the parents...

"Beeeeelieve in yourrrrrrself! " she would scream at the top of her lungs for each of her fellow campers.

We were all cracking up but I never forgot it. It's gotten me through some hard times.

See, I know better than to be nervous, I have been a coach for years, I teach this stuff for pete's sake.

And yet, I have been there, practically shaking in my boots many times.

You see, fear creeps in on us as riders in many forms.

✔Some of us it's the fear of judgment from our peers

✔ Some of us have been badly injured in a fall

✔ And sometimes we just fear we aren’t doing things right or not being fair to our horse.

Me as your coach and friend, yelling "believe in yourself" is not going to be enough to really help you, unless I also give you the skills/tools to dissolve & dissipate whatever it is that has got you worried.

So, my tip for today is a little saying Charlotte Cannon & I came up with last year.

That gives a solution to a lie we have been told time and time again...

Don't "feel the fear and do it anyway".

Feel the fear AND SOLVE IT.

Get to the root of it, horse girl.

Whether it is your fear or your horse's fear.

Whether you rate it as a 1 on a scale of 1-10 or a full-blown 20.

Once you figure out what it is that has you rattled, 99.99999% of the time you can create something to put into practice to create a solution.

Just like if you know your horse is scared of something, you create a path for the horse to learn to accept it- where it becomes nothing to them.

Little fears buried unaddressed add up to a BIG problem.

Big explosions in our horses and BIG anxiety and lack of confidence in us.

So a big picture view little checklist to take action...

1. put a name to it,
2. put a plan together of what you are going to do about it
3. take steps each day (mentally AND improving your skills)

And when you have the skills and the foundation to put the wind beneath your wings... if you still feel fear- and you name the fear- for example, "fear of judgment" or a "fear of vulnerability"

THEN and only then "you do it anyway".

This keeps you safe(er).

Make sense?

With horses, (in 3 out of the the 4 fear types) the advice "feel the fear & do it anyway" is a big fat lie, and a dangerous one at that.

There is nothing wrong with you if you have anxiety in any of your horsemanship and don't know what to do about it ... YET!

If you'd like some help and you have gone around this mountain long enough and are ready for a change, I totally got you covered.

Come join me for "The Plan to Ride Fear-lessly Guided Workshop"
this Thursday evening July 14th at 6:30 central

🎇This is an action-taking session- where I will teach you what you need to know and together we will fill in our EXCLUSIVE not found anywhere else, "EQUESTRIAN FEAR BUSTER" Worksheet, so you know what to do to move forward...

meaning YOU WILL LEAVE THE CLASS WITH A CLEAR WRITTEN ACTION PLAN NOT JUST HOPES & WISHES!

➡🤦‍♀️Not sure I can help you in an online workshop in 2 hours?⬅

I understand! It's a big promise!

🥛Hold my sweet tea! And let me tell you what I am going to teach you (as I compress your learning curves into a tiny chunk of time- instead of the years it has taken me to learn all this magic sauce)...

✅The Equestrian Emergency Work Through Fear System (with bonus worksheet) that every horse girl (& guy) must have to quickly create confidence with a fear defeating plan... so you can see on one page how to take action

✅To Name The 4 Main Types of Equestrian Fear... so you can stop "feeling the fear & doing it anyway" and start solving it

✅How to Become Friends with Fear ... so you can understand it & work together with fear instead of trying to fight it

✅The Indispensable Skill of Connected Leadership ... how to earn it even if you don't feel like a leader without force, chasing or submissive pressure ... so you can become the type of leader your horse LOVES to follow

✅How To Develop The Crucial Skills of Comfort Zones, Boundaries, Expectations & Balance ... so you know how to progress

✅Learn the C.A.P.E Technique To Understand Your Horse's Body Language & Become A Horse Listener... so you can keep yourself & your horse safe

✅An overview of The Equestrian Circle of Confidence... that gives you clarity of the essential skills to work on to handle, ride & train your horse with trust in yourself... to create trust in your horse so you can tell the voices of doubt in your head to zip it!

Jump over here to see the incredible amount of value you will get in the training...

I can't wait to help you in the workshop!
Click here for all the details
Whether you need to join me for the workshop or not, my message for you today is something I know for sure, and feel led to say for some reason.

When the world gets heavy we tend to doubt ourselves, I know I do.

Whatever it is for today you need to do... you have what it takes.

And I believe in you.

"You don't even know me", you say? Yep, I do. I know your heart. I know your horse girl dna down deep in your bones. And you got this.

p.s. We all struggle with some form of fear or anxiety in one place or another in our horsemanship & life.

So you know the first step to overcoming it? Putting a name on it.

Tomorrow night in our Momentum Monday Class, I will show you how. Join me at 7 pm central here on Facebook Live https://www.facebook.com/horsegirl.me

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06/07/2022

Do you have trouble getting your horse to go forward under saddle?

Before you automatically think it's a horse problem, check in with yourself.

I've seen many times that it is actually some type of fear within the person that is keeping the horse from going forward. They say they want to, but there is a fear of it somewhere inside.

Sometimes that fear is conscious and sometimes not. Until the energy, intention and physical actions all line up, a person could keep having forward issues.

Sometimes even just the acknowledgement that there is fear makes those things line up and then the horse will move forward, it's really quite simple.

Not easy, but simple.

Enjoy the Journey!

Warwick

30/06/2022

Hmm maybe next week

Day 37
365 days of Goldrush 💞

Alycia Burton & Goldrush

Specializing in live in youth retreats, weekend clinics & youth counselling.
Based in SE QLD.

29/05/2022

Start as you mean to go on

25/05/2022

Fun to try, anything that keeps you both occupied is helpful

Whenever you want to change directions, turn your horse or guide him in general, always use the "look, leg, rein" approach. You want to be able to use the smallest/lightest cue possible to get your horse to respond correctly.

When it comes to steering, that’s your look. Look up and focus on where you want the horse to go. If he chooses to ignore you and doesn’t follow your focus, then you’ll step up to the next level of pressure and insist that he follows your focus by applying pressure to his side with your outside leg. If he still ignores you, you’ll enforce your request by picking up on the inside rein and steering him in the direction you want him to go.

Always start with the smallest/lightest cue first, and if the horse doesn’t respond correctly, gradually increase the pressure until you get the response you're looking for. As long as you always start gently and finish gently, eventually that’s all you’ll have to do. - Clinton

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22/05/2022

https://horsegirl.webinargeek.com/webinar/replay/tINWw6DlpvCn4J1ELFx6pzr11h4sE1ir7ppqiT75w-I/

23/04/2022

Sort of helpful
https://www.facebook.com/100057652950805/videos/1171018693744725?utm_content=13497809&utm_medium=Email&utm_name=Id&utm_source=Actionetics&utm_term=Email

13/04/2022

Want to feel secure in the saddle? This video give you tips to help you stay balanced and secure in the saddle, so you feel grounded even though you’re on ho...

08/04/2022

More from Callie:

Myth #3 - 🏇 Just "toughen up and ride through it"
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Callie King [email protected] via infusionmail.com
2:34 PM (26 minutes ago)
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Hi

One day, when I was 12 years old, I fell three times in one riding lesson.

This is when I decided riding lessons were not very fun.

Actually, I wasn’t even sure riding was very fun.

Sometimes, “get back on the horse” is just the advice we need. Riding is a challenge, and we do need to keep at it, try again, and push ourselves outside of our comfort zones.

For me, it wasn’t just the falls that were making riding not-so-fun. It was the idea that riding had to be a lot of work, all the time - grit your teeth, put your leg on, and ride through it.

If I look back honestly at that riding lesson, I was scared.

I was scared because I was riding a horse that was too advanced for me, and trying to jump fences (we weren’t actually making it over many, hence “trying”) that were too big for my riding skills at the time.

Today, we will look at this myth of “toughen up and ride through it,” and how to discern when you need to push yourself, and when you need to step back and breathe.

By finding the “right” amount of challenge for you and your horse, you can progress and grow with confidence and curiosity instead of fear and anxiety.

Click Here to Join in the Workshop and watch this next training.

See you in the comments!

Callie

p.s. We have a LIVE Video Coaching Clinic on Monday, April 11, at 6pm EDT (US) where you will have the opportunity to get personal feedback on your riding from me! Join in the free workshop here and mark your calendar!

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I just finally got the chance to watch all the way through. This was so helpful in dispelling all of the confusion in the different things I have been hearing about riding positions in different saddles. I especially love the summary explaining that the positional differences are generated by a purpose within a discipline and not saddle specific. THANK YOU! and Please thank Callie for taking the time out of her busy schedule to answer!

- Laura Bashista

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30/03/2022

Comforting

18/03/2022

Tough to do in the moment so work it through in your mind until it is automatic.

I don’t mind if my horse gets frightened. What I do mind is when he gets frightened and then takes matters into his own hands. Instead of bolting, bucking or rearing, you want your horse to look to you for guidance. Prove to him that every time he gets worried, panicked and uses the reactive side of his brain, he can turn to you and you’ll help him survive the experience. You’re going to take control of the situation by moving his feet forwards, backwards, left and right until he calms down and starts to use the thinking side of his brain. Every time you take control of the situation, the horse builds confidence in you as a leader. If you punish him for being reactive, he’ll get defensive, more frightened and lose confidence in you as a leader. - Clinton