22/03/2021
Fido first... always ❤️❤️❤️.
“It’s amazing how little you care about what people think.” My client said during our lesson the other day.
“You focus on your training regardless of what people around you are doing.
I mean, the other day, you didn’t even notice the dog that was running around at your feet, trying to get your attention, because you were so focused on coaching your student.”
I laughed. It’s true.
I mean, I’m not going to say I never care about what people think of me - I’m only human after all.
But when it comes to training dogs, I NEVER worry about the opinions of strangers.
Because my dog needs my full attention.
And truthfully, the people who are passing judgment don’t.
But in this case my client was mistaken. Because I DID notice the dog.
Even though I didn’t acknowledge it or say hi…
I knew it was there.
My choice to ignore the dog was intentional.
Because if a dog approaches me, I ignore it…
Every. Single. Time.
And dog owners regularly misconstrue my actions when I do.
They think I’m being rude. They take it personally.
But the truth is…
I don’t do it because I don’t like the dog…
It’s not that I don’t want to greet them.
I ignore them out of respect for their owner.
Because lavishing a dog with attention that is pulling to get to me, or jumping around at my feet, is only going to teach them two important lessons…
- Other people in environment are a great reason to ignore your owner
- Being overexcited, pulling, or jumping about pays big
Not to mention, looming over dogs that don’t know me, making direct eye contact, thrusting my hand out, and touching them without giving them the opportunity to check me out first can make them uncomfortable.
Listen…
Anyone who has worked through behavior challenges will tell you how grateful they are when people ignore their dog.
When people don’t swoon, or touch their dog but instead, give them the space to reinforce their training.
And give them the space to say hi if they want to.
So when I’m in public, I offer others the same respect.
Despite my deep desire to scoop every dog up in my arms and kiss their faces (I am who I am)…
I ignore dogs when they approach.
I put their needs above my wants.
And I wish more people would do the same.