05/11/2024
It’s not an easy job, holding a sign and asking for help.
But there he was. Him and his dog.
He wasn't very good at it. His sign was too small. And where he was standing, he was easily overlooked.
And his dog, all he did was sleep.
But from what I could tell, the dog was really good at sleeping.
He was not a big dog and not a small dog, just a right sized dog. Laying on a blanket with a leash and harness attached to the man’s wrist.
The man holding the sign was older. Not sure how old but I guessed him around 70 something.
I was parked next to him and could not avoid the moment of conversation. I asked about his dog. I thought that was a good starting point. His sign said they needed dog food, so learning about his dog seemed to make sense.
Because for me, if you need food, I’d like to know what kind of food. Wet or dry? Chicken, Turkey, Lamb, Fish, Beef or something else. Big kibble or small? If wet food, pate or stew or something in between.
So many questions.
So I asked him. He fumbled the answer. That could have been for any number of reasons. But fumbling the answer also tells me something.
So I got down on my hands and knees and asked the dog the same question. The man did not know the answer but I thought the dog might know. But before he answered, the dog instead rolled onto his back with all four legs in the air and told me that before he’ll answer, I needed to rub his stomach.
So I did.
And while I rubbed his stomach, he fell back asleep.
The man held his sign.
The dog slept.
And I just sat there, not sure what to do.
It turned out, the reason the man fumbled his answer to my question was because this was not his dog. The man I guessed to be 70 something was actually 76. And the dog was 14.
The dog belonged to his neighbor. She went into the hospital a couple weeks earlier and the man was taking care of the dog. There was no conversation about it. He just did it. That’s how he grew up.
During those two weeks, the food bag had run low and would be gone in the next couple of days. Both of them, the man and his neighbor, lived in a low income apartment building and he did not have extra money for dog food.
The neighbor was still hospitalized and he did not want to worry her about money for dog food.
I asked him if he’d ever held a sign before.
He said he had not. He asked how he was doing.
I told him he was doing great.
I made a comment about his smile. Told him that not everyone holding a sign asking for help smiles as much as he did. He said he knew that and apologized.
He apologized for smiling too much.
He said he saw a lot of people holding signs and they always looked sad. He said he was just a really happy person and couldn’t help but smile.
I asked him how the collection had been going. He said not very well. Only a couple people gave him money. But then he said, he had wished at least a hundred people a good day.
This man holding a sign asking for dog food for his neighbor’s dog was such a happy man.
He knew he needed money to buy the $40 bag of dog food. But even more, he wanted to make sure and wish everyone a good day.
I asked him if he knew there were places he could get dog food for free. He said he did.
But he said those places were for people who really needed the help. I said people like him. People doing incredibly good deeds for others without pause.
He said there were too many people who needed the help more.
So this is what I knew.
An incredibly happy older man with a sleeping dog who loved belly rubs was willing to stand on the sidewalk holding a sign asking for dog food rather than go to a place a few blocks away and get it for free because other people needed it more.
And the dog wasn’t even his dog.
During the conversation he told me where he lived. I knew the building. We sometimes dropped food there for several of the residents and their pets.
I asked him what his goal was for the day. Based on how things were going, he said he didn’t think he was going to get enough money for a bag of food. I asked him what else he needed besides dog food.
He said a really fluffy dog bed would be good too, since he knew the dog had some arthritis and his dog bed was really flat and he thought an older dog should have a really fluffy bed.
So dog food and a fluffy dog bed. What about wet food?
He laughed and said wet food was only a dream because he knew wet food was about $4 a can and there was no way he could afford that.
The entire time I was with him, this man never stopped smiling. It wasn’t a fake smile. He just smiled. And in his dream world, he dreamed for dog food and a fluffy dog bed.
And for his neighbor to feel better.
But he dreamed of nothing for him.
I didn’t have any dog food with me. But I had another idea.
I asked him how he would feel if he opened his door one day and found bags and cans of dog food outside his door, stacked inside a big fluffy dog bed.
He laughed and laughed and laughed.
I have a feeling he was still laughing the next day when he opened his door and found all that dog food and the big fluffy bed.
“Many eyes go through the meadow, but few see the flowers in it.” -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
For this man and this dog, they were the flowers.
Truly beautiful flowers.
Being a helper.
And this is why we Pongo.
Sit. Stay. Eat. Live. www.thepongofund.org
The Pongo Fund / Portland, OR.