13/04/2024
FARLOW WEDDELL WEBB
d. April 10, 2024
Into paradise may the angels lead you. â€
We were just one month shy of having four years together. On May 11, 2020 (one month after Felix the Church Cat's death), a Napa rescuer from Whiskers, Tails and Ferals placed her faith in me and allowed me to take home the cat she'd rescued and named Farlow. He was an adult already; they thought maybe one or two years old, although he'd spent about a year in her care, and months of that waiting at Petco. Turned out he was closer to six or seven years old, probably -- old enough to have formed his own opinions and ways of being in the world. He was so highly sensitive that he'd spent much of his Petco time hiding in the litter box, and even though he'd clearly volunteered to come home with me, he freaked out at the actual loading to the extent that he temporarily stumped his rescuers.
I brought him home, and he headed for the closet, where he was when Bella joined us a day later. He remained in the closet for almost a week, only coming out under cover of darkness to eat and use the litter box. And so my intensive training began: Surrender, Julie. Surrender to this moment and stop trying to help or to make it better. Just be present and work with your own energy. As a pastor, I thought I had learned a lot about that already, but I'm still working on that lesson! I couldn't have had a more consistent teacher than Farlow cat.
What a sage (and an imp!) he was! He accompanied me all the way through my animal communication and energy work training, sat next to me for countless case studies and client sessions, and taught a number of animal communication classes. At the end of a class session, he liked to have me bring the laptop over and set it near him; he would walk over to the screen and stare directly into the faces of his students on the Zoom call -- in a way he never ever did at any other time when I was on Zoom -- absolutely blowing fuses in their heads as the cat who had just communicated with them showed them that he had meant it all. (In Joan Ranquet's school, we focus on the essence and favorite things of an animal to begin with, so they had listened for those things and had feedback from me on how accurately they'd heard him.)
He had several significant health challenges, and lived with metastatic mast cell tumors for the last year of his life. During this time, our beloved friend and his Aunt Indrani Das of Way of Artemis, my animal communication homework partner who had met him soon after his arrival in the household, did almost daily energy work on him. I'm not sure who benefited most from this! Farlow sure did: I know it extended his life and comfort significantly. I did, because my skeptical self got literally hundreds of examples of how real our connection is across time and space: Idee would let me know when she was about to begin a session, and when she finished, but time after time, I didn't need the notice, because I could see the change in Farlow. Session over? I already knew that, because my cat suddenly came swaggering back into the room all bouncy and happy. And I know that Idee benefitted, as her intuitions about him were confirmed over and over again.
I think he will continue to teach all of us, so I won't give away all his stories here; I'll leave them for future students to find for themselves. But I have some thanks to offer.
His last weeks were supported by literally hundreds of humans (and some of their animal companions), who offered prayer and energetic strength to our household. In fact, our sensitive energy wizard got such a boost of power whenever I posted online for support that I eventually stopped posting, concerned that he'd just never let go if we didn't wean him off the juicy energy! In particular, the Clergy with Cats Facebook Group and the Joan Ranquet - Communication With All Life school Facebook Group were so loving to us, as were many from the congregation I serve.
Vish Busawon sweetly took over and did a few Scalar Wave case studies with him at the last when Idee needed a day off. Lorrin Maughan held a couple of wonderful animal communication sessions with him when I wanted clarification, and she helped me tap (EFT/acupressure tapping) through some of my feelings about letting him go. Marie-Christine Lochot (of Animal Talk and Healing by MC Lochot) reached out in her own grief and accompanied us through the last days, offering a beautiful animal communication session on the day before he died, and supporting him, as so many others did, while he made the crossing. Rajashree Maa (Joni Dittrich, PhD), my spiritual friend and teacher of The Wisdom School: Home of Kali-Ki Reiki, checked in on us and held our household in love; she also offered Reiki that caused Farlow to curl up on his head in blissful relief! Rose De Dan of Wild Reiki and Shamanic Healing wasn't even aware of accompanying us, but she did, through Indrani's gift of her "Storytelling for People and Animals" series (available at reikishamanic.com): Farlow and I listened together to the whole series on some of the last nights of his life, and it helped soothe us both. Acupressure lessons from Jill Todd of Dr. Jill Todd: Complementary Veterinary Medicine and Jill and Joan Healing served us well when Farlow needed some relief. I used Reiki skills I had learned from Wendee and Friends and Animal Reiki Source to help me be present with him. Countless friends, family, and colleagues made me feel held in loving arms.
Dr. Joanna Holtz and Jenn of MIddletown Animal Hospital came to the house because they knew and understood Farlow, they made his leaving so truly peaceful and kind.
Joan Ranquet, you teach us the same lessons Farlow valued: to be present and "hold space" without trying to change things. You also teach the skills I and others needed to be able to support Farlow during this season of his life. It felt different to go through this dying process with him than it did with other cats, before I learned what you taught me. And I knew that you were holding space for us.
And Indrani Das -- words cannot express the lifelong debt of gratitude I owe to you for sharing the Farlow Experience with me, halfway around the world, from start to this particular finish. I know that you and your cats share the grief felt now by Bella and me, because you loved Farlow so well. A deep bow of thanks to you, my distant family members, with so much love.
Every night we spent together, I ended the day by offering Farlow, then Bella, my thanks for favorite moments we'd shared that day, and then singing this adaptation of an old Welsh lullaby. I whispered it to him as he went to sleep for the last time.
Sleep, my cat, and peace attend thee,
All through the night
Guardian angels God will send thee,
All through the night
Soft the drowsy hours are creeping,
Hill and vale in slumber sleeping,
I my loving vigil keeping,
All through the night.
P.S. The photos below don't show all the romping and all the attitude! I never had my camera ready to catch those. đ "Weddell" is a kind of seal, because Farlow was my Selkie cat.
https://photos.app.goo.gl/tRZMPF1eG89j4hEB9
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