29/11/2024
This attached article encapsulates how exhaustive and exhausting a search for a missing pet is.
In the search for Gracie in my town of Harpswell, many well-meaning folks have unintentionally deflated the spirits of not only me, personally, but of Gracie's family with statements/opinions outlined in this article.
I get it. No one really knows what to say to any family searching for a lost pet. Folks want to offer up some sort of solution as the weeks march on. Take a beat and stop yourself from saying how sad it is or how worried you are or how devastating it all is. And, for the love of pets, please stop offering opinions on what you 'think' happened.
The best thing to offer is encouragement. Tell them how their efforts have impressed you. Say how seeing the flyers they've hung inspired you to talk about their pet to strangers in the grocery line. Let them know that learning about all the steps they've taken has built up your own awareness of what rescuing a lost pet should look like. Tell them that because of the community coming together behind the pet search that you felt a sense of belonging and solidarity you haven't felt in a while.
Better yet, tell them specifically about the porch with the busted lattice you looked under or the creepy shed with the old rotted door you opened or the tarp covered boat you peeked into looking for their scared, lost, possibly injured pet. Tell them how you called your neighbor who you noticed buttoned up their seasonal home the first week of November and asked them to send someone to have a quick look at/in the property. A search, particularly in a rural setting, needs many eyes and many actions, not just thoughts and prayers.
You aren't giving the family 'false hope' when you do this. I guarantee you, searching families are grounded in the very harsh reality of a lost pet. But hope is something they can never have too much of. It is indeed the thing that drives them to replace a tattered rain-soaked flyer for the 4th time in as many weeks or to follow that seemingly impossible lead two towns away. And until the search is resolved, even as it may scale back so the family can reassemble some kind of new normal, there is ALWAYS hope.
Wigglebutts and purring vibes,
Shani
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