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Empathy Over Ego Dog Training and Advocacy 𝕋𝕣𝕒𝕚𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘, 𝔼𝕕𝕦𝕔𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝔸𝕕𝕧𝕠𝕔𝕒𝕔𝕪 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕕𝕠𝕘𝕤, & 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕨𝕙𝕠 𝕝𝕠𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕞.

(っ◔◡◔)っ ♥ I specialize in helping puppies, adolescents, newly adopted rescues, fearful and reactive dogs. ♥

Sunday Funny 😁 Time isn't real 🤭💞🤪✨️Be kind to your dog🐕Be kind to yourself💖
09/03/2025

Sunday Funny 😁
Time isn't real 🤭💞🤪✨️

Be kind to your dog🐕
Be kind to yourself💖

🎉 FUNNY FRIYAY 🤪If your dog was an emoji, which one would they be?! 🤔🐶I’m guessing Ragnar would be... 👽 (because let’s b...
07/03/2025

🎉 FUNNY FRIYAY 🤪

If your dog was an emoji, which one would they be?! 🤔🐶

I’m guessing Ragnar would be... 👽 (because let’s be real, he’s on another level of intelligence and weirdness).

Drop your dog’s emoji below—I can't wait to see! ✨💖🐕🐾💞🤟🤭🫶

📸 Ragnar, my familiar & Empathy Over Ego’s spokesdog, flashing his best smile.

We're all doing the best we can with what we have. Human kind, be both 🫶✌️💖🐕EmpathyOverEgo
06/03/2025

We're all doing the best we can with what we have.
Human kind, be both 🫶
✌️💖🐕
Empathy
Over
Ego

05/03/2025

Muzzle training is a skill all dogs should have 💞🫶🐶
Get 10% off your Muzzle by sending me a DM with the word "muzzle" 🐾

Way back— a decade ago, to be exact— my home was a revolving door of foster dogs. ❤️🏡 It was a privilege, an education, ...
05/03/2025

Way back— a decade ago, to be exact— my home was a revolving door of foster dogs. ❤️🏡 It was a privilege, an education, and an experience I wouldn’t trade for anything. I miss it and hope to be able to have that again.

Even better than the fostering itself? Running into those dogs and their people, years later—seeing their families, hearing their stories, and flipping through their latest photos. It’s a full-circle kind of magic. 🌎✨

To fosters, adopters, clients, and all the kind souls who make this world better for dogs (and for me)—thank you. You keep the world spinning in the best way. 💛

Photo of a foster, Addison, enjoying her first ever beach trip, 2015.

Put good in to get good out 💓💖🫶
03/03/2025

Put good in to get good out 💓💖🫶

It’s inevitable that we are sometimes going to take withdrawals from our relationship. Out of frustration, necessity or welfare. But providing we put plenty of deposits in, those withdrawals will make much less of an impact.

Proud to be force free! ✨️🫶💞🐕
01/03/2025

Proud to be force free! ✨️🫶💞🐕

How can you be your dog’s best advocate? 🤔✅ Learn to read dog body language!Every dog is unique, but understanding the b...
01/03/2025

How can you be your dog’s best advocate? 🤔

✅ Learn to read dog body language!

Every dog is unique, but understanding the basics of canine communication can mean the difference between stress and a bite. Subtle signs often come before the growl—ears back, lip licking, whale eye… are you paying attention?

When we know better, we do better. Let’s set our dogs up for success.

Gratitude to for this invaluable infographic!

Forever sharing Zak George wisdom and ability to stand up to bullies and abusers so poetically 🫶🐾📢🐕⚖️💞
28/02/2025

Forever sharing Zak George wisdom and ability to stand up to bullies and abusers so poetically 🫶🐾📢🐕⚖️💞

There’s a persistent myth circulating in dog training circles, promoted by “balanced” trainers who say they start with positive reinforcement but escalate to punishment the moment it “stops working,” implying that positive methods alone are insufficient.

They often claim to understand positive reinforcement as "rewarding behaviors to increase their frequency," revealing they don’t actually grasp the comprehensive approach that modern training demands.

The argument commonly adds, “We only use leash corrections or shocks when the dog already knows the behavior but ‘chooses’ not to listen.”

The problem? This reasoning entirely overlooks the dog’s emotional state, neurological thresholds, and environmental stressors, making it embarrassingly out-of-touch with modern behavioral science.

Neuro-affirming dog training, backed by decades of research, offers a far more sophisticated approach.

It involves a deep understanding of a dog’s emotional state, cognitive abilities, and neurological limits helping them learn comfortably without stress or coercion.

Successful training is never just about rewarding behaviors or distracting dogs with treats.

It requires thoughtfully managing the dog’s environment, structuring scenarios that encourage desirable choices, and helping dogs regulate their emotions to ENHANCE learning and overall wellbeing.

These dogs aren’t “stubborn,” “dominant,” or “defiant.” In reality, they’re often neurologically overwhelmed and emotionally unable to learn effectively in that moment.

Skilled modern trainers and behaviorists recognize this, adjust their approach, reduce stressors, and keep dogs within their learning threshold. They do not escalate situations that trigger a cognitive cocktail of stress hormones, impairing productive learning.

For example, imagine a dog lunging aggressively at passing dogs. An outdated trainer might punish this behavior by yanking a metal collar around the dog’s neck or shocking them, which not only increases immediate stress but can also create negative associations with the environment, intensifying fear, anxiety, or aggression toward passing dogs over time.

In other words, punishment may temporarily suppress the lunging, but it often makes the underlying emotional reaction, and therefore the aggressive behavior, significantly worse in the long run.

In contrast, a neuro-affirming trainer would manage the environment first (creating distance from the passing dog), reinforce alternative behaviors like calmly looking back at their guardian, and gradually build genuine coping skills rather than forced compliance.

These methods empower dogs by providing agency, significantly lowering stress and dramatically improving learning outcomes.

Scientific research consistently demonstrates, across species, that this significantly reduces aggression, anxiety, and other behavioral issues compared to punitive methods.

To trainers who claim positive, neuro-affirming methods fall short, please consider answering these questions:

👉How specifically did you manage the environment to ensure the dog’s success?

👉What body language indicated the dog’s emotional and neurological thresholds, and how did you proactively respond?

👉Which clear alternative behaviors did you consistently reinforce, and how?

👉How precisely did you provide genuine agency, allowing meaningful choices and safe opportunities for the dog to opt-out?

👉In what concrete ways did your approach actively support the dog’s cognitive and emotional wellbeing?

If you’ve fully addressed these points and still experienced genuine failure, please share your scenario; I’m sincerely curious.

In short:

Effective, neuro-affirming dog training means proactively managing environments, recognizing emotional thresholds, reinforcing clear alternative behaviors, supporting emotional wellbeing, ensuring a dog‘s underlying needs are met , and empowering dogs through meaningful choice.

When done correctly, this approach doesn’t just occasionally succeed, it reliably transforms behavior and enriches lives.

To see these principles in action, check out my ultimate guide to reactivity (video included in the comments).

Sources and interesting reads:

1. Does training method matter? Evidence for the negative impact of aversive-based methods on companion dog welfare
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7743949/

2. Improving dog training methods: Efficacy and efficiency of reward-based training versus punishment-based training
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7895348/

3. Exploring relationships between dog training approaches and owner-reported behavior problems in companion dogs
https://academicworks.cuny.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2053&context=hc_sas_etds

4. The use of punishment and negative reinforcement in dog training
https://www.ava.com.au/policy-advocacy/policies/companion-animals-dog-behaviour/the-use-of-punishment-and-negative-reinforcement-in-dog-training/

5. Dog training methods: Their use, effectiveness and interaction with behaviour and welfare
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/261106650_Dog_training_methods_Their_use_effectiveness_and_interaction_with_behaviour_and_welfare

6. The Effects of Dogs on Learning: A Meta-Analysis
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341337725_The_Effects_of_Dogs_on_Learning_A_Meta-Analysis

7. Stress and Dog Training
https://www.petprofessionalguild.com/barks/barks-magazine-blog/stress-and-dog-training/

ECONOMIC BLACKOUT 🗣Don't buy stuff today.If you're paying for goods from small businesses, pay cash💲🐜🐜🐜 This quote from ...
28/02/2025

ECONOMIC BLACKOUT 🗣
Don't buy stuff today.
If you're paying for goods from small businesses, pay cash💲

🐜🐜🐜
This quote from Antz (1998) about the ants realizing their collective power against the grasshoppers summarizes today well:

"You let one ant stand up to us, then they all might stand up! Those puny little ants outnumber us a hundred to one, and if they ever figure that out, there goes our way of life!"

Use your powers for GOOD.
Empathy
Over
Ego

YEAH!! 🫶🐾📢🐕💞"Can we be blunt? Muzzle stigma is exhausting. 🙃We’ve saw it firsthand with Tolly… those judgemental looks, ...
28/02/2025

YEAH!! 🫶🐾📢🐕💞

"Can we be blunt? Muzzle stigma is exhausting. 🙃

We’ve saw it firsthand with Tolly… those judgemental looks, the whispered comments, the assumptions that a muzzle somehow equals a “bad” dog.

But here’s the thing: Tolly wasn’t bad, and neither are any muzzled dogs.

They’re loved. They’re cared for. And they have guardians who put their safety first. (despite the stigma).

We like to think… well we hope that with our muzzle positivity, we’ve helped shift some minds around the world, even just a little.

We’ve experienced first hand people stop us to ask questions instead of making assumptions. We’ve had conversations that turned “Oh, I thought muzzles were only for aggressive dogs” into “Wow, I never realised how useful they can be.”

Have you noticed a shift in how people react to your muzzled dog? Or are you still battling the same old misconceptions? Let’s talk in the comments. 👇"

Can we be blunt? Muzzle stigma is exhausting. 🙃

We’ve saw it firsthand with Tolly… those judgemental looks, the whispered comments, the assumptions that a muzzle somehow equals a “bad” dog.

But here’s the thing: Tolly wasn’t bad, and neither are any muzzled dogs.

They’re loved. They’re cared for. And they have guardians who put their safety first. (despite the stigma).

We like to think… well we hope that with our muzzle positivity, we’ve helped shift some minds around the world, even just a little.

We’ve experienced first hand people stop us to ask questions instead of making assumptions. We’ve had conversations that turned “Oh, I thought muzzles were only for aggressive dogs” into “Wow, I never realised how useful they can be.”

Have you noticed a shift in how people react to your muzzled dog? Or are you still battling the same old misconceptions? Let’s talk in the comments. 👇

From a toddler mom, I get it! Dog meets baby gets it better!Follow them for more 💞🐕🐾🫶
27/02/2025

From a toddler mom, I get it! Dog meets baby gets it better!
Follow them for more 💞🐕🐾🫶

Zak George speaking that truth✨️💖🫶🐾🐕LOUDER for the ones in back 📢"Ever notice how the loudest, most aggressive voices in...
27/02/2025

Zak George speaking that truth✨️💖🫶🐾🐕
LOUDER for the ones in back 📢

"Ever notice how the loudest, most aggressive voices in dog training tend to be the ones defending pain, fear, and intimidation? That’s not a coincidence.

There’s a pattern to the hostility toward force-free training, and psychology helps explain why.

Studies show that people with inflated but fragile self-esteem react with hostility when their expertise is questioned.

It’s not about what works or what is more advanced. It’s about protecting their identity. Trainers who have built their reputation on dominance-based methods see the shift toward humane training as a threat to their credibility, so they fight back. Not with science, but with fallacious outrage.

People don’t just overestimate their expertise, they actively resist changing their minds when confronted with evidence that contradicts their beliefs.

This is called motivated reasoning, a well-documented cognitive bias where people interpret information in a way that supports their existing views, even when it’s demonstrably false (K***a, 1990).

For example, when studies show that force-free training is more effective and less harmful, trainers who rely on punishment don’t engage with the data, they dismiss it outright or twist it to fit their existing beliefs, claiming that “real-world training” is different or that “science can’t train dogs.”

Additionally, cognitive rigidity plays a major role. Studies show that people with rigid thinking styles struggle to adapt to new information, especially when it challenges something they’ve built their identity around (Cañas et al., 2003).

This explains why some trainers, despite overwhelming evidence against punishment-based methods, double down instead of evolving, it’s not about facts, it’s about identity preservation.

I already know the counterarguments:

“Aren’t YOU the one lashing out?”

“Isn’t this just ego on your part?”

Here’s the difference between advocacy and ego driven aggression:

Advocating for humane training isn’t about personal dominance, it’s about aligning with the most credentialed experts in the field.

The ACVB, AVSAB, BVA, and ESVCE, the most respected bodies in animal behavior, all state unequivocally (based on scientific evidence) that force-free methods are superior to punishment-based methods.

That’s not my ego talking. That’s the consensus of modern science.

The people attacking force-free trainers aren’t debating, they’re ignoring every major body of expertise in favor of personal pride. That’s the difference.

I don’t call out harm because my feelings are hurt. I call it out because it’s necessary.

The difference between cruelty and advocacy is intent. They attack to protect their egos. We advocate to protect dogs and the public.

Cruelty isn’t strength. It’s a lack of imagination. Trainers who claim force is “necessary” aren’t proving strength, they’re exposing mental rigidity.

Modern research shows that punishment damages trust and isn’t more effective than humane methods. So why do some trainers refuse to change?

Because they can’t imagine another way. And that’s human nature.

But here’s the thing: it’s one thing to struggle with new ideas, it’s another to actively reject them, to lash out at those who present them, and to fight for the right to keep using force when better methods exist. That’s where the problem lies.

People use force when they lack the patience, creativity, or skill to train differently. The same is true in human interactions, those who resort to personal attacks do so because they don’t know how to engage meaningfully.

And this fight is bigger than just dog training. The same people who insist on hurting dogs also attack people, harassing, belittling, and ridiculing those who challenge them.

There is a well-documented connection between normalizing cruelty toward animals and a brand of male violence (also adopted by women in the industry as well) in human society, particularly in the U.S.

Historically, the same justifications used to defend violence against animals, control, dominance, submission, have been used to excuse violence against marginalized groups, including women and children. This isn’t a coincidence.

They operate in the same way with both dogs and humans: force, fear, and control.

The best trainers, the most skilled, respected, and knowledgeable, aren’t the ones jerking dogs around by their necks or shocking them. They’re the ones who can adapt. Who are open to learning. Who understand that dogs aren’t meant to submit out of fear but to thrive through trust.

Sources:

Relation of Threatened Egotism to Violence and Aggression: The Dark Side of High Self-Esteem
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8650299/

Unskilled and Unaware of It: How Difficulties in Recognizing One’s Own Incompetence Lead to Inflated Self-Assessments
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/12688660_Unskilled_and_Unaware_of_It_How_Difficulties_in_Recognizing_One%27s_Own_Incompetence_Lead_to_Inflated_Self-Assessments

Threatened Egotism, Narcissism, Self-Esteem, and Direct and Displaced Aggression: Does Self-Love or Self-Hate Lead to Violence
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/13599643_Threatened_Egotism_Narcissism_Self-Esteem_and_Direct_and_Displaced_Aggression_Does_Self-Love_or_Self-Hate_Lead_to_Violence"

Ever notice how the loudest, most aggressive voices in dog training tend to be the ones defending pain, fear, and intimidation? That’s not a coincidence.

There’s a pattern to the hostility toward force-free training, and psychology helps explain why.

Studies show that people with inflated but fragile self-esteem react with hostility when their expertise is questioned.

It’s not about what works or what is more advanced. It’s about protecting their identity. Trainers who have built their reputation on dominance-based methods see the shift toward humane training as a threat to their credibility, so they fight back. Not with science, but with fallacious outrage.

People don’t just overestimate their expertise, they actively resist changing their minds when confronted with evidence that contradicts their beliefs.

This is called motivated reasoning, a well-documented cognitive bias where people interpret information in a way that supports their existing views, even when it’s demonstrably false (K***a, 1990).

For example, when studies show that force-free training is more effective and less harmful, trainers who rely on punishment don’t engage with the data, they dismiss it outright or twist it to fit their existing beliefs, claiming that “real-world training” is different or that “science can’t train dogs.”

Additionally, cognitive rigidity plays a major role. Studies show that people with rigid thinking styles struggle to adapt to new information, especially when it challenges something they’ve built their identity around (Cañas et al., 2003).

This explains why some trainers, despite overwhelming evidence against punishment-based methods, double down instead of evolving, it’s not about facts, it’s about identity preservation.

I already know the counterarguments:

“Aren’t YOU the one lashing out?”

“Isn’t this just ego on your part?”

Here’s the difference between advocacy and ego driven aggression:

Advocating for humane training isn’t about personal dominance, it’s about aligning with the most credentialed experts in the field.

The ACVB, AVSAB, BVA, and ESVCE, the most respected bodies in animal behavior, all state unequivocally (based on scientific evidence) that force-free methods are superior to punishment-based methods.

That’s not my ego talking. That’s the consensus of modern science.

The people attacking force-free trainers aren’t debating, they’re ignoring every major body of expertise in favor of personal pride. That’s the difference.

I don’t call out harm because my feelings are hurt. I call it out because it’s necessary.

The difference between cruelty and advocacy is intent. They attack to protect their egos. We advocate to protect dogs and the public.

Cruelty isn’t strength. It’s a lack of imagination. Trainers who claim force is “necessary” aren’t proving strength, they’re exposing mental rigidity.

Modern research shows that punishment damages trust and isn’t more effective than humane methods. So why do some trainers refuse to change?

Because they can’t imagine another way. And that’s human nature.

But here’s the thing: it’s one thing to struggle with new ideas, it’s another to actively reject them, to lash out at those who present them, and to fight for the right to keep using force when better methods exist. That’s where the problem lies.

People use force when they lack the patience, creativity, or skill to train differently. The same is true in human interactions, those who resort to personal attacks do so because they don’t know how to engage meaningfully.

And this fight is bigger than just dog training. The same people who insist on hurting dogs also attack people, harassing, belittling, and ridiculing those who challenge them.

There is a well-documented connection between normalizing cruelty toward animals and a brand of male violence (also adopted by women in the industry as well) in human society, particularly in the U.S.

Historically, the same justifications used to defend violence against animals, control, dominance, submission, have been used to excuse violence against marginalized groups, including women and children. This isn’t a coincidence.

They operate in the same way with both dogs and humans: force, fear, and control.

The best trainers, the most skilled, respected, and knowledgeable, aren’t the ones jerking dogs around by their necks or shocking them. They’re the ones who can adapt. Who are open to learning. Who understand that dogs aren’t meant to submit out of fear but to thrive through trust.

Sources:

Relation of Threatened Egotism to Violence and Aggression: The Dark Side of High Self-Esteem
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8650299/

Unskilled and Unaware of It: How Difficulties in Recognizing One’s Own Incompetence Lead to Inflated Self-Assessments
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/12688660_Unskilled_and_Unaware_of_It_How_Difficulties_in_Recognizing_One%27s_Own_Incompetence_Lead_to_Inflated_Self-Assessments

Threatened Egotism, Narcissism, Self-Esteem, and Direct and Displaced Aggression: Does Self-Love or Self-Hate Lead to Violence
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/13599643_Threatened_Egotism_Narcissism_Self-Esteem_and_Direct_and_Displaced_Aggression_Does_Self-Love_or_Self-Hate_Lead_to_Violence

DO YOUR RESEARCH!!!!
27/02/2025

DO YOUR RESEARCH!!!!

27/02/2025

Check the dog’s body language in those famous reels you’re watching 👀😳

If it doesn’t look happy, it probably isn’t—meaning it’s aversive and doesn’t feel good to the dog.

This dog is happy to train (wagging), looking at his person (trust, connection) and eager to see what comes next ✨️🫶

Dogs feeling good matters to some of us—you know, those of us who love, respect, and treat dogs as sentient beings with real emotions…

Or keep applauding abuse disguised as “immediate results.”

Know better. Do better.

Be part of the solution, not the problem.

1 of the many reasons to use Positive Reinforcement ✨️
27/02/2025

1 of the many reasons to use Positive Reinforcement ✨️

Here at Dog Nerd Training we know it is important to train our dogs force-free, but why? ❓

Imagine you have been pulled aside by a security guard at a foreign airport, they are yelling angrily at you in a language you don't understand to do something. You think they may want your papers so you hurry to get them out, but they only gets more and more irate and aggressive. You try something else and it just gets worse, you are worried about what might happen if you don't figure out what they want, will you miss your flight? Or worse will you be arrested for some reason you don't know? 😰

Now obviously if you knew what to do you would just do it, it isn't your fault you don't understand, and yelling at you isn't going to make you figure it out any quicker, nor will scary consequences hanging over your head, particularly with a language barrier there.

This is what it is like for our dogs, they aren't being disobedient they just don't understand what we want. It is fundamentally unfair to punish them for things they had no clue about in the first place.

But this isn't the only reason punishment should be avoided and force-free training should be encouraged...

🐶 You can damage your training relationship with your dog (and their attachment), and make them more wary of people in general through using punishment.

🐶 Your dog will be more hesitant in training to try new behaviours, as they will worry the consequence of getting it wrong, rather than being excited to figure out what you want.

🐶 You can inadvertently make a negative association with something outside what you are training, such as a child passes when the dog pulls, and the dog receives a 'correction' the dog may associate this with the presence of the child rather than the behaviour.

🐶 Punishment can also change the dog's temperament, so they become more withdrawn and less playful.

There are also many more reasons on top of the ones mentioned above, and in the quoted study, that show training force-free is the better, and more ethical, option for us and our dogs.

You can find out more about the study mentioned in the graphic here: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0168159111000876?via%3Dihub&fbclid=IwY2xjawIgSl1leHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHcvU--NFwdA5Z4RF1JwVvA3_VtFP93pstFg5hpZjbuce3tLDNmbPju_xRg_aem_TAy9m20ygBl4zB5uQY41-A

🤩OBSESSED with .muzzle.movement photos and mission 💓   If you're looking for the best fitting, most comfortable muzzle f...
25/02/2025

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