14/06/2026
Three weeks ago, taking Otis into a busy coffee shop would have been completely out of the question.
This is a young Cocker Spaniel with endless energy, hormones flying about, and a brain that was constantly looking for the next thing to do. Everything was exciting. Everything needed investigated. Everything demanded a reaction.
Yesterday, we headed into a coffee shop for the first time.
The video shows him sitting patiently while we waited on our order, then settling down and relaxing while I enjoyed my coffee. Around him were people coming and going, conversations, movement, distractions, and even other dogs.
And for the first time, he was able to keep his cool.
Now don’t get me wrong, he’s not a finished dog. Far from it. He’s still young, still immature, and still has plenty of work ahead of him. But this is exactly why it’s important to celebrate the small wins.
The biggest change hasn’t been teaching Otis more.
It’s been teaching him less.
Over the last few weeks I’ve stripped everything right back. Less pressure, less expectations, less trying to cram too much into every session. Instead, we’ve focused on slowing life down and teaching him that he doesn’t need to engage with everything around him.
As trainers, I think we’re often guilty of moving too fast. We chase the end goal and forget that the dog needs time to process, learn and mature. Owners then feel disappointed because they’re trying to achieve goals that simply aren’t realistic yet.
The reality is that the best training often happens when you slow everything down.
You stop chasing perfection.
You allow the dog to breathe.
You give them time to take the world in.
And when you do that, you start seeing moments like this.
A young dog sitting quietly in a coffee shop, doing absolutely nothing.
And for Otis, that’s a massive win.