25/07/2022
Anyone who knows me, knows I am a quick-tempered person. I finally figured out how to never get angry when I ride.
I stopped having an agenda for my rides.
I started seeing my horse as another living being who:
- can wake up on the wrong side of the bed
- is in pain or anticipates pain they used to have
- doesn’t understand what I’m asking and is trying anyway
- would rather be hanging out with friends
So I ride with more compassion than I used to. And I want to end on a good note- whatever that happens to be that day.
When frustration turns into anger, many otherwise decent riders get into fights with their horses. Most of us, if we are honest, will know this, will have had this happen, but if those are rare and isolated happenings, it isn’t the end of the world.
But we know that for some riders, having these fights are almost daily occurrences. How can someone who is on this particularly damaging hamster wheel get off? Well, think about this---Does a scared and reactive horse get to be better trained? What happens is usually just the opposite. The horse does something that annoys the rider. So the rider retaliates with some sharp response, maybe a yank on the bit, a kick with spurs, a slap with a stick.
So the horse gets more nervous, more reactive, more resistant. For the already angry rider, this is seen as a provoking disobedience, calling for even greater response. A fight is the result. Overnight, after a fight, the rider broods, so the next day, not very long into the ride, the rider revisits the issue, the already apprehensive horse reacts, and the fight from yesterday is happening again today, in a long chain of bad days.
This situation probably needs outside intervention, but that is a dicey deal, because people with anger issues don’t appreciate being told that they are doing it wrong.
So here’s the question---How can this chain be broken? Is it even possible?