15/02/2025
Brilliant. This is a good read for people who are considering working with a trainer.
The âReal Worldâ Myth: Why Some Trainers Are Stuck in the Flatland of Behaviorism
Welcome to the Flat World
Thereâs a common phrase you hear from obedience-based trainers: âWe train for the real world.â
Sounds convincing, right? The idea is that dogs should be able to function anywhereâon busy streets, in high-distraction environments, around other dogs and people. They showcase dogs in âproofingâ drills, performing robotic obedience despite competing motivators.
But hereâs the problem: their real world isnât actually real.
What they call the âreal worldâ is actually a flat worldâa world where dogs are reduced to stimulus-response machines, where behavior is the only metric of success, and where training exists within the rigid framework of rewards and punishments.
These trainers claim to prepare dogs for life, but they operate in a one-dimensional system that ignores emotion, choice, and relationships. They see a world of predictable inputs and outputs, yet fail to recognize the depth and complexity of what a dog truly experiences.
The Flatland of Behaviorism
The foundation of this flat world is behaviorismâa century-old framework that sees learning as a system of reinforcements and punishments. It works on paper and in controlled settings, but it falls apart in real, unpredictable life.
⢠It assumes that obedience equals stability. (It doesnât.)
⢠It believes that control equals confidence. (It doesnât.)
⢠It measures success in compliance rather than emotional security.
In the flat world, a dog that obeys under stress is seen as âwell-trained,â even if theyâre actually shutting down to avoid correction. They may look calm, but they arenât thrivingâtheyâre just surviving under pressure.
This is why so many dogs trained in compulsion-based methods develop deeper behavioral issues later on. When training is based on control rather than relationship, the cracks will eventually show.
The Round World: Where Dogs Actually Live
The real worldâthe round worldâis nothing like the controlled environments of obedience training. Itâs dynamic, emotional, and unpredictable.
A dogâs reality isnât just made up of behaviorsâit includes:
⢠Emotions (fear, excitement, joy, stress)
⢠Attachment and relationships (safety, trust, connection)
⢠Agency and choice (the ability to learn and adapt, not just comply)
A dog navigating the round world isnât just responding to commands; they are thinking, feeling, and engaging with their environment. They arenât performing because they fear a consequenceâthey are participating in a relationship of trust.
Thatâs why humane trainers donât just teach behaviorsâwe build emotional resilience, problem-solving skills, and self-regulation.
Beyond Behaviorism: The Missing Ingredients
Going beyond behaviorism means leaving behind the rigid, mechanical view of training and stepping into a holistic, relationship-centered model that respects the dog as a sentient being. This model isnât about controlling behaviorâitâs about nurturing well-being.
The Key Ingredients of a Beyond-Behaviorism Approach:
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Emotional Intelligence â Understanding that dogs are emotional beings, not just response-driven machines. A dogâs emotional state influences their behavior more than any reinforcer or correction.
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Secure Attachment & Trust â Building a relationship where the dog feels safe, not because theyâre afraid of correction, but because they trust their human.
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Autonomy & Choice â Allowing dogs to make decisions, problem-solve, and express themselves rather than forcing them into rigid obedience patterns.
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Resilience & Emotional Regulation â Teaching dogs how to manage their own emotions rather than just suppressing their instincts out of fear.
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Holistic Well-Being â Recognizing that behavior is influenced by diet, health, environment, stress, and past experiencesânot just training methods.
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The Mind-Body-Spirit Connection â Understanding that a truly balanced dog isnât just behaviorally compliant but emotionally and spiritually whole.
Beyond-behaviorism isnât about ignoring trainingâitâs about expanding it to include the full depth of a dogâs experience.
Why Trainers Stuck in the Flat World Canât See It
Trainers who live in the flat world of behaviorism often ask, âWhereâs the proof that force-free training works?â
But they only look for what fits their existing belief system.
⢠If you only measure success by robotic compliance, youâll only see success in dogs that are forced into submission.
⢠If you think behavior is just about reinforcements and corrections, youâll never understand emotional regulation.
⢠If you believe control is the ultimate goal, youâll never see the power of true connection.
They think theyâre working in the âreal world,â but theyâre trapped in a limited model that fails to account for the actual complexity of a dogâs experience.
They see dogs obeying commands, but they miss the trees for the logsâthey donât see the relationships, the emotional growth, and the actual well-being of the dog.
Breaking Free from the Flat World
The round world isnât built on obedienceâitâs built on understanding. Itâs a world where:
âď¸ Dogs arenât just taught to behave; they are taught to feel safe.
âď¸ Success isnât measured by compliance, but by confidence and security.
âď¸ Trust replaces control, and connection replaces coercion.
This is the real real worldâone that acknowledges the full depth of who dogs are.
So the next time a trainer tells you they train for the âreal world,â ask them:
Are they training for the flat world of obedience? Or the round world of relationships?
Because if theyâre still stuck in the one-dimensional thinking of behaviorism, they arenât actually seeing the whole picture.
Want to experience the round world of dog relationships?
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