26/12/2025
👉I here it all the time: “I want a female because they’re calmer.” After training 500+ puppies, I’ve found the opposite. Males consistently calmer, more eager to please, practically velcroed to your side. Females more independent, less needy for constant attention.
➡️➡️Plot twist: females ARE more emotionally sophisticated. When your stress hormones rise, female dogs’ cortisol follows faster and higher than males. They’re not calmer they’re MORE attuned. Reading your emotional state constantly, mirroring your nervous system more intensely.
👉This explains why some female puppies seem “reactive” they’re not. They’re hyper aware. Picking up on owner’s anxiety about socialization and amplifying it. Meanwhile male puppy oblivious, just happy to be here.
I’ve watched this play out hundreds of times: Anxious owner gets female puppy, puppy becomes anxious. Same owner gets male puppy, puppy stays steady. Not because males are “better” because they’re less emotionally contagious. Female dogs feel everything you’re feeling, males more buffered from your emotional state.
Royal Society study confirmed females show greater obedience, but here’s what study didn’t measure: emotional cost. Females working harder to read you, please you, predict you. Males just doing the thing because it’s fun.
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