16/12/2024
These simple words changed my perspective forever. (From my dear friend !! š)
I first want to quickly state that this doesnāt mean that Iām the cause of my dogās problems, and it doesnāt mean that youāre the cause of your dogās problems either.
Also āneedyā (my own word, reflected back to me) is a gross construct because we all have needs to be met and there is no shame in that.
A little background: Smithers gets very anxious (hyperactive, unable to relax, āneedingā my attention) while Iām on phone calls and video sessions.
On this particular day, I was in the middle of an energy session - and Smithers was more stressed than usual so I (probably) was apologizing for his āneedinessā when Ellen changed my whole perspective with one simple sentence:
āSmithers isnāt needy, heās responsive.ā
[insert mind blowing up here] š¤Æš¤Æš¤Æ
Most of my phone and video calls present some kind of uptick in emotions for me - whether itās virtual therapy sessions for myself, phone calls with friends or virtual behavior sessions where Iām holding space for my human clientsā emotions about their own dogās behavioral issues and the impacts they have.
Picking up the phone or tablet and starting to talk can be very emotional and Smitty RESPONDS to that.
Instead of adding more stress and emotions to my own plate, scrambling to suppress everything happening, it has now become a reminder to me to BREATHE and recenter. Just a few moments to re-situate and reassure Smithers can be all it takes for me to remember to acknowledge my own feelings rather than suppressing them.
Tl;dr: words matter. How we frame things matters. Behavior is communication.
[ID: black text on white background, reading āyour dog isnāt needyā¦ heās responsiveā]