09/06/2024
This is a Rudolph appreciation post 💗
Whilst it’s always great when cats are affectionate regardless of who you are, not all of them have big, confident personalities and sometimes it can be easy to take it personally when they are overly timid, but they all have their own life stories and reasons for being the way they are.
I’m told Rudolph’s past is a bit of a mystery but that there is suspicion of abuse and that even though he is spending most of his time avoiding me, he can’t cope without someone being in the vicinity. However, I have still spent the first couple of days feeling awful being in his space and have been doing my best when I do see him to ignore the urge of wanting to smother him with love, and just give him the time and space he needs in the hopes he’ll eventually feel safe with me.
Yesterday he was missing for 15 hours. This morning I woke up to see him by the bedroom door, but as soon as he noticed I was no longer asleep he ran off. So even though he seems most comfortable being in the house/close by when I’m asleep, it’s clear that in his own little way he is trying his best to be brave.
Cats really teach you the art of patience, the importance of trust and the meaning of consent and although I’m yet to be able to get that close to Rudolph, I really appreciate the little moments of his trust, whether that be when he sniffs my hand, takes treats from me, or even feels happy enough to sit on the stairs 8 steps away from me.
A lot of people struggle to like/understand/really bond with cats, but before being quick to paint the timid/fearful ones as ‘unfriendly’ or ‘not liking you’ try to give them the grace they deserve and not take it personally as you don’t always know what kind of trauma they’ve come from, and in a cats world trust really is earned.