05/12/2024
This. The horse is never naughty. Their brains do not function in that way.
Reposting one of my favorite graphics until it reaches every corner, mind and heart.
There is always more to behavior than what most people think. We can’t assume that animals (and children too, for that matter) always share their needs with us in a constructive way - how could they? Animals don’t even speak our language. So behavior is their way of communicating with us.
Saying that behavior is ‘naughty’ and ‘on purpose’ is so short sighted and does a terrible injustice to animals and children.
Horses are incapable of doing things to us ‘on purpose’. They only do what they think they should do. If you don’t like it what you’re seeing, then you have to find out WHY the horse does it and to what extent YOU evoke that behavior.
Because communication is always a two way street.
Guilt has no place in a relationship. So, if you want a true relationship with your horse, stop the blaming. Watch your words. Be brave. Ask questions. And face the answers.
It will tell you a lot about yourself.
You might grow here.