
15/06/2025
What happens to a horse who no longer serves the role we assigned them?
Recently, a video surfaced of yet another elite rider responding to a horse’s refusal with violent force. The justification? That the horse had become dangerous to ride, and this was his only chance at “being saved from the knackery." As if compliance through domination was a rescue.
I think we need to look more closely at what we define as value in a horse.
We’ve built a culture that equates usefulness with worth. That says: if the horse can’t be ridden, he doesn’t belong. That a horse’s right to live depends on his ability to tolerate being used.
But what if a horse becomes dangerous because he’s overwhelmed? Or hurting? Or simply trying to communicate the only way he knows how?
I’ve worked with horses who shut down so completely they barely breathed in your presence, who dissociated to survive. And I’ve also worked with horses who fled, bolted, spun, or fought with every ounce of their body. These aren’t opposites. Freeze, flight, and fight are all expressions of the same root: fear, confusion, and a lack of understanding or adequate preparation. It's not disobedience. It's survival.
When we stop demanding obedience and start listening instead, really listening, we begin to see just how much these horses have been trying to tell us. Most horses did try telling us politely until they learned they would be ignored, so instead did one of three things: fight back, run away, or freeze and comply.
Yes, it takes time. Yes, it asks more of us. But the relationships that emerge from that place, where the horse is not forced, but invited, are the ones that change you.
Because the real measure of a horse’s worth has nothing to do with what they can do for us, and everything to do with who they are, when they finally feel safe enough to show us. Their value was never in their usefulness. It was in their being, all along. ❤️🩹