31/03/2024
A longish read but important if you are thinking of adding a puppy to your older dog's life.
OLD DOGS AND PUPPIES
This is becoming one of the most common issues I am called out for. And it's when folks have an old dog/s, they get a puppy and the situation goes from bad to worse quickly.
Let me explain why this happens:
Puppies are full of beans, the have very little bite inhibition, impulse control, and are usually just plain rude. If you get a puppy less than 8 weeks old, you can worsen these traits and possibly add issues.
Then old dogs are not full of beans. Most old dogs have health issues such as arthritis, other joint issues, skin issues, immune problems etc. And a lot of these issues, especially pain issues, aren't picked up because dogs are brilliant at hiding these things. Old dogs want to go for a slow amble, sniff, and usually sleep. Because of their creaky bones they are deemed "grumpy" which means they're a lot less tolerant than what they were when they are young. Old dogs usually haven't been continuously socialized either. They might have been to puppy class, went for the odd social outing, but old dogs rarely keep seeing different strange dogs and enjoy (the keyword) the company of other dogs.
So now we pair the two together and we have a variety of issues.
The old dog corrects the puppy for their rude behaviour often. Because they're less tolerant and in pain, the corrections aren't proper corrections, they're bites and they're usually way too harsh for a young puppy to handle without some kind of trauma. The puppy being innocent and just wanting to play, doesn't understand this and will keep trying different approaches to play, but keeps getting corrected every time. The old dog will start associating the puppy negatively and might start guarding their food and safe spaces, such as their bed. The puppy just walking by, or trying to get some extra food, will again, receive a bite, lunge or snap.
From the puppies side, they came from a litter of playful siblings, a mum who will be teaching social manners firmly but not harshly, and has been thrown into a household with an overly corrective dog who confuses them at every step. They're also in their critical socialization period which shapes their entire world view. They learn that their "safe" dogs at home, are not safe. So how could any other dog be safe? They're also now living in an environment that induces chronic stress, in this critical socialization period, which can cause life long anxiety and trauma related conditions. The puppy also has a big chance of learning this behaviour from the older dog. They learn to over correct, resource guard and be protective of their bubble, which doesn't set them up for success with any socialization.
So, what do I advise with this situation?
Firstly, don't get a puppy. If you have an older dog, let them live out their life in peace. If they had an older companion that passed, a puppy will not replace that older companion. They need to grieve. You will be their company now. There is a big chance an older dog shows signs of depression, get a behaviourist to help you with that. Not a puppy.
If you do decide to get a puppy, make sure the environment is set up in such a way that the older dog gets plenty of alone time. They eat separately and sleep separately. They can be together if the older dog allows it, but the puppy is kept on a leash and harness so that the puppy doesn't jump all over the older dog. If this sounds like too much management, it's because it is a lot. And it won't get easier. As your puppy grows up, gets bigger and stronger, your older dog is getting older and weaker. The management will only increase, not decrease.
Are there exceptions? Sure.
Do I see exceptions a lot? Absolutely not.
Please let your older dog live in peace.