03/08/2024
Somehow, the skill that is one of the most critical for a dog to have to in order to live harmoniously with us humans, is the skill that so many trainers and owners have missed.
Instead of developing a comprehensively well rounded dog, with both an on and off-switch, we focus obsessively on action. More commands, more play, more exercise—as if all that action will train a dog how to actually relax and be calm when needed, and not just the for the fleeting moments when they’re tired.
Folks, action—motion, doing stuff—is wildly easy for dogs. Being calm and still, especially in the face of tempting distractions, is anything but. And yet, most continue to blindly drink in, and act upon the old, overly simplistic adage of “A tired dog is a good dog.” No, a tired dog is simply a temporarily tired dog, and unless you’ve taught them specifically how to be calm, still, and chill when needed, you’re simply creating an athlete who doesn’t have an off-switch, and who will only need more and more action to be “a good dog.”
You’re creating a motion j***y, and you and your dog will pay the price.
Instead, teach all the aspects and skills your dog—and you—need to enjoy life together. While it’s counterintuitive, training dogs to do nothing for extended periods of time while the world goes on around them is one of the least taught and least understood aspects of successful dog training. And to be clear, this isn’t encouraging folks to not train action-based work, or play and exercise their dogs—no—what it is encouraging is to BE SURE to teach the less obvious but incredibly valuable skill of stillness and calm on demand. It’s encouraging folks to see that often what doesn’t look like much, and won’t impress your friends or colleagues, is the thing you’ll likely most enjoy (need!) when calm, quiet, and peace is desired.
If you’re struggling, and you’re doing all the action, perhaps take a step back and honestly assess how much time and energy and focus you’ve put on training stillness. In my experience, it’s the the thing most often missed, and as I said above, least understood.