14/08/2024
Most mornings, I take this beautiful path along the Beaver Pond to immerse myself in the beauty of nature, and to find peace within my heart.
August used to be one of the happiest months of the year when the whole family, including son Tim and our two grandchildren who live in the U.K., came for a visit. That's when we, as a family, travelled to Nova Scotia to go camping in one of Canada's most beautiful natural environments on earth.
The last time we all went together was in 2015. The year after, on August 29, 2016, we lost our precious Siu-Ling when she joined her sled dog team across the rainbow bridge.
August 31, 2018, three weeks after we came back from a trip to Europe, where we celebrated our 60th wedding anniversary with our family, was the day my husband, Bing, was hit by a car when he was out for a walk. He suffered a life-threatening and life-altering traumatic brain injury and almost died.
I'd like to think that Siu-Ling was watching over her Dad, saving us from losing him only two short years and two days after we lost her. We have to be grateful that he survived, in spite of his serious injuries.
Five years later, on August 30, 2023, we had to put Parker, my precious furry friend, to sleep 😓 .
August 29, 30 and 31 are days that are edged in my memory. Days of pain and sorrow sprinkled with quiet moments of gratitude. Gratitude?
Yes, gratitude for the love and joy my wonderful daughter, Siu-Ling, brought me; gratitude that filled my heart with pride when I learned of her amazing accomplishments as a person, friend, wildlife biologist, environmentalist, and dog teamer to make this world a better place; gratitude for the outpouring of love, care, and support her many friends surrounded her with during her last weeks on earth.
Gratitude that I did not lose my husband and the father of my children when he was hit by a car and survived because if his strong disposition.
Gratitude that we had Parker in our lives, and that we were able to allow him to join Siu-Ling to whom he belonged, with love, grace and dignity.
Such are the ups and downs of our lives on earth. Things we learn to live with, and deal with because, believe it or not, we do have a choice. We can wallow in sorrow and feel sorry for ourselves, or look up, move on, as best as we can, one step at a time. Let's try to be kind, not only to others, but also to ourselves, and find acceptance, and peace.
To help you find solace in dealing with loss, please, read my book, "I Am With You Everywhere: Finding Solace in the Mists of Grief."