20/12/2022
"If they didn't want to do it, they wouldn't."
Have you ever heard that said about horses? Horses who are asked to jump impossible fences, run at great speeds, and ride through fear, pain, and discomfort...all because, "if they really didn't want to, they wouldn't...right?"
Horses are a peacekeeping species, meaning they really are not prone to antagonistic behavior - whether that is with other horses, or with us. If you observe horses in the wild, they spend the majority of their days in the herd grazing peaceably, mutual grooming, and calmly socializing with their herdmates. They truly don't want to fight.
Then if we consider a history of domestication, selective breeding, genetics, and training based in aversive methods and suppressing the horse's voice, we can see how the horse becomes even less likely to push back.
In the occasions where the horse finally explodes, and reaches the point where it is undeniable that they don't want to do it anymore, the depth of mental and physical trauma is severe and life changing. These are the horses who come to me, broken, surrounded by harmful labels, and prone to aggressive and defensive behavior because it is the only communication that humans will listen to. For years, they have done their job, despite not wanting to, hoping that someone will listen to their more subtle forms of expression.
When a horse doesn't want to, they might tighten their muzzle, and triangulate their eyes.
They might throw their head up before bridling, or pin their ears at the saddle.
They might hesitate before a fence, or shy at the starting gate.
Yet these signs of "not wanting to" are often dismissed, and in their great patience and grace, most horses can be pushed beyond their limits, their efforts of communication ignored.
So the next time you hear "if they didn't want to, they wouldn't do it" consider this. In order to survive, our horses can be pushed far past their comfort zone. Yet in order to thrive, we must respect their thresholds, honor their voices, and listen to their whispers of communication.