08/04/2025
Impressions count 🎭
Meeting Bevan was all about helping him feel understood. He is a 17yo pony who has struggled with chronic reactivity + stress levels for a very long time. Most recently, repercussions of this led to his human’s broken tail bone.
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Each nervous system has 3 Biological Needs;
- to feel understood
- to feel like they understand
- to feel safe
These being fulfilled, or not being fulfilled, are biological reasons as to WHY (“Bio Why’s”) nervous systems exhibit the behaviours they do.
Let’s dive into that!
When one or more of these needs is not fulfilled, the nervous system will produce the stress hormone Cortisol. ⚡️
Cortisol goes hand-in-hand with intensity of emotions. 🌪️
Increase cortisol = Increase intensity of emotions
Decrease cortisol = decrease intensity of emotions
Cortisol is critical for survival and it serves many purposes. But, it is for survival. Overexposure to high levels of cortisol becomes neurotoxic, killing off neurotransmitters that allow parts of the brain to communicate, relay and process information. 🚨
Instead of just looking at the surface level behaviour, we look at the emotions and cortisol that create the behaviour, which gives us insight into what parts of the brain are online/offline. 🔍
If Bevan doesn’t have the conscious awareness of his emotions, or the skills to navigate those feelings, he cannot find an emotional solution for himself. This further reinforces those Bio Needs not being fulfilled; “I can’t understand, I can’t feel understood, and/or I can’t feel safe”
This brings his nervous system closer to a state of subconscious survival mode (reactivity). Amygdala producing emotions, but limited access to the Prefrontal Cortex (PFC) for emotional regulation. This is also where problem solving, reasoning, risk assessment, empathy (“I want to understand you”, this is a huge one), etc are found. Some of these functions may go completely offline. ⛔️
Bevan is one of those ponies that is “fine when he is fine”, and absolutely “not fine when he’s not”. Black and white. From feeling Comfortable, to feeling Distressed.
He has a very low Uncomfortable threshold, as he is not comfortable in being Uncomfortable. Yet.
We are aiming to bring a little more grey into his life. A little more Uncomfortable.
The trick is getting him to feel like he can do it.
He doesn’t want to be in that high state, but he doesn’t know anything else. This is a neural pathway ironed out by his brain through his experiences, patterns, reactions, and reinforced thoughts + feelings over the years. He hasn’t known how to feel understood, how to feel like he could understand, or how to feel safe.
This is where we are starting. 🌱