29/11/2025
“The real victory begins in that quiet space between what you feel and how you choose to respond.”
Chamod Senevirathne
One of the greatest lessons horses ever teach us is the value of emotional neutrality.
Not suppression.
Not force.
Not lip service.
But the discipline to feel something… and still choose how we respond.
John Saint Ryan often spoke about “the pause” that tiny moment between the question and the response.
A moment of stillness.
A moment of awareness.
A moment where feel and thought meet.
That space is where horsemanship is either made… or lost.
Because a horse doesn’t judge us for what we feel they only respond to what we bring.
If we react impulsively, emotionally, or from old habits, the horse feels it instantly.
If we offer clarity, softness, and intention, they feel that too.
And so much of the magic happens in that small still moment where we choose:
• Do I react the way I always have?
• Or do I show up differently this time?
As the saying goes:
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.”
This applies equally to riding, groundwork, relationships, and the way we walk through life.
Horses mirror the world within us, not the one around us.
If our internal landscape is chaotic, rushed, frustrated or distracted, the horse becomes unsettled.
If our internal world is calm, clear and deliberate, the horse finds peace in our presence.
Strength in horsemanship has never come from controlling the horse
it has always come from mastering ourselves.
When we stop letting impulses guide our hands, our voices, our decisions,
everything becomes clearer:
• our timing
• our boundaries
• our feel
• our leadership
• our relationship with the horse
• and our relationship with ourselves
The quiet discipline of choosing neutrality again and again is the kind of power no force can replace.
So today, and every day, may we practice the pause.
May we stand in that space between emotion and response,
and choose to show up a little softer, a little clearer, a little better than yesterday.
Because that’s where the true horsemanship begins.
And that’s where transformation for both horse and human - becomes possible.