11/06/2025
๐งก ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE? ๐งก
Connection and relationship building are becoming a much bigger priority in horsemanship, a huge step forward in acknowledging that there is more to training than just obedience.
But is it enough?
I loved my first horse with everything I had, I worked two jobs, alongside going to college, to pay for her and never skipped a night with her, no matter how late. I wouldnโt have done anything intentional to harm her in any way, I meticulously made up her stable every night making sure each piece of straw was in its place, I saved up to buy her matching saddle pads, buckets, brushes and rugs. I groomed her until she was spotless, oiled her hooves every night and sat with her while she ate dinner.
But there are plenty of things I would do differently if I had the chance, particularly around the way I trained, my expectations of her and the way I interpreted her behaviour.
She was known for being extremely hot, she had bucked and bolted with her previous owner, but back then it didnโt faze me, I was able to just โride her through itโ and I attributed it to her being โsassyโ and โmare-ishโ.
She didnโt know how to hold herself in a frame and was probably too weak to, so I used training aids to get her โroundโ.
Today my perspective would be very different.
We really owe it to our horses to better understand them, to educate ourselves, upskill and expand our knowledge. Just because things have been done a certain way for a long time doesnโt make them right, and without science, evolution and a growth mindset we wouldnโt have many of the creature comforts or simple things we take for granted that make our lives easier every day.
The first step to a good partnership with a horse is definitely connection, since this builds the trust needed to take and follow direction, HOWEVER teaching them to manage their own mind and body is paramount to creating confidence and maintaining motivation.
In my opinion connection and self confidence are both needed in equal measure for a well rounded, strong partnership.
๐๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐๐ค๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฉ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐๐ซ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ๐ง๐๐ซ ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฅโฆ
โฆ๐ฃ๐จ๐ข๐ง ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง & ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐, ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ญ๐ก, ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐จ๐จ๐ง ๐๐๐
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