
22/08/2025
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Thoughtful Thursday: What promises are you making?
Over the last several months I've been out teaching and had over 50 students at the Foundation for various events. Now that the dust has settled, there has been the chance to sit and reflect, adjust my training, and think about many of the lessons I have learned. The interesting thing is most of them have not been about dog training. Okay, they are, but they aren't.
A lot of what I have learned is about how we are working with people, which relates to how we work with dogs. Before I was a full time dog trainer and human coach, I worked in the world of philanthropy and was lucky enough to go to large conferences where I saw some amazing speakers. One of them was Alex Sheen, the founder of Because I Said I Would. His story and use of Promise Cards was profoundly moving and inspired a lot of reflection. (Here is the history of that story: https://youtu.be/ob_VJYystJk). In fact, fifteen years later I still have the shirt, use it for pajamas, and think of it often. It was an incredibly moving keynote speech. I regularly look up the website and watch his TEDx speeches.
Why was it so moving?
One simple concept.
Make a commitment.
And keep it.
People want us to keep our promises.
Dogs want us to be consistent.
I often watch handlers talk to their dogs, constantly. Or tell me the behavior they want is one thing then cue something totally different when in the heat of the moment, sometimes even using a totally different word. Our mechanics are so important in dog training. If we do not have our mechanics squared away, how can we be consistent for our dog?
Every time we train we are writing a contract, not only with words but with actions. Our dogs read our body language so much better than listen to our words, so it's important for us to be body aware.
When you say you will do something, do it.
And know that we are making promises to our dogs.
And we need to keep them.
Because we said we would.
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