30/12/2024
Beautiful sentiments by a colleague and friend in the Uk, so beautifully put and the way we work with you and your dogs ❤️
The start of a new year often feels like a fresh slate—a time to reflect on the past and set intentions for the future. It’s a season filled with motivation and a collective sense of renewal, encouraging us to embrace change and growth. Lately, I’ve found myself reflecting on something: the words we use and the incredible power they hold.
Instead of labelling behaviour as "attention-seeking" with its negative connotations, consider reframing it as "connection-seeking." As mammals—whether humans or dogs—we are biologically wired to crave connection. Our mental health thrives on these bonds, as our nervous systems respond positively when they connect with others. Amazing things happen when we experience this connection: a sense of calm, safety, and belonging. By shifting our language, we can better represent this fundamental human/ dog need and view it with the compassion and understanding it deserves.
Instead of dismissing behaviours like chewing the TV remote, digging up flower beds, or scavenging as "annoying" or "naughty" try viewing them as relief-seeking outlets. Chewing, scavenging, and digging are as innate to dogs as nail-biting or smoking might be to humans—ways to self-soothe and manage stress.
It’s important to remember that everything your dog does serves a purpose. These behaviours are their way of communicating an unmet need for comfort or safety or connection. When we view their actions as a form of language, we unlock a deeper level of understanding. Ask yourself: if this behaviour could speak, what would it be saying?
Once we interpret their actions with empathy, we can offer the right support—just as you’d comfort a friend who’s had a tough day. Through connection, understanding, and validation, we can guide our dogs toward healthier outlets for their natural instincts.
Instead of saying "just a dog," let’s reframe it as "it is a dog" recognising that dogs are on par with humans in their capacity for emotion and individuality. Historically, the dog industry was built on outdated studies and misunderstandings about canine behaviour. These early approaches often prioritised control and compliance over the emotional and psychological well-being of the animal.
Thankfully, a-lot of our perspective has shifted. Dogs are no longer seen as mere property or expected to "follow the rules" without question. Today, they are cherished family members—sentient beings with their own needs, emotions, and unique personalities. This evolution in understanding allows us to build deeper, more meaningful connections with our canine companions, treating them with the respect and empathy they deserve.
Instead of defining dog behaviour training as “stopping unwanted behaviours,” let’s reframe it as “addressing the emotion, not just the behaviour.” This means going beyond the surface to understand the underlying emotional drivers behind a dog’s actions.
While it’s possible to stop or change behaviours through training, if we don’t address the root cause, the underlying need remains unmet. For example, a dog might stop chewing on furniture if we continually redirect them to a ball, but the core issue—their innate need to chew as a form of stress relief or stimulation—hasn’t been resolved.
By focusing on the emotions and needs behind a behaviour, we can create lasting solutions that truly support our dogs. This approach allows us to meet them where they are, providing both the tools and understanding they need to thrive.
The start of a new year reminds us of the importance of connection and growth. By rethinking how we perceive and label our dogs' behaviours, we’re not just changing our language—we’re fostering a more compassionate relationship. Every bark, dig, or chew is a story waiting to be understood, a need waiting to be met. Let’s use this fresh slate to deepen our bond with our dogs, seeing them not as “just animals” but as sentient beings who teach us patience, empathy, and love. Together, we can make this year a kinder and more connected one.
Dog Behaviour and Training Neri says: "I base my work on the principles of animal psychology.
