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Dr Shelley Appleton Calm Willing Confident Horses Shelley will profoundly transform your relationship with your horse via her books, courses & advice.
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Dr Shelley Appleton is an expert in human learning and performance. Shelley combines her specialist knowledge and horse training skills to teach people how to help their horses be calm, willing and confident to ride. Her approach shows how training starts with groundwork and progresses into ridden work. Her approach can be found in her books, online courses and through her coaching and clinics. If

you want to solve your horse problems, build your horse riding confidence, or improve your competition performance, Shelley is unique in her ability to transform you and your horse. Shelley is also available for private consultations, editorial work, presentation or interviews to interested groups or parties. Find out more from www.calmwillingconfidenthorses.com.au or via email at [email protected]

NEW CANTER THERAPY EPISODE IS UP‼🐴☘️It is all about equine nutrition and key insights to help people understand what a b...
22/09/2024

NEW CANTER THERAPY EPISODE IS UP‼🐴☘️

It is all about equine nutrition and key insights to help people understand what a basic diet for a horse should consist of!

A fascinating discussion and explanation by Carol Layton❤

NEW EPISODE: EQUINE NUTRITION WITH CAROL LAYTON📣‼️

In this episode we talk to the amazing Carol Layton from Balanced Equine.

Carol is a well known and respected equine nutritionist who has brought mineral supplementation into the everyday horse owners repertoire.

We talk about the importance of specific minerals and their place in our horses diets as well as how to put together a basic diet that suits the average horse.

If you want to find out more about Carol Layton, her brilliant educational resources or the products she has available, her website is www.balancedequine.com.au

To listen:
https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cantertherapy/episodes/90-Equine-Nutrition-with-Carol-Layton-e2omu05

My turn to be interviewed instead of being the interviewer 🎙️😜. I had a great time chatting to Daniel Dauphin Horsemansh...
15/09/2024

My turn to be interviewed instead of being the interviewer 🎙️😜. I had a great time chatting to Daniel Dauphin Horsemanship on his Adult Onset Podcast ♥️
Check it out…he has some great guests and I am honoured to be one of them 😃

Tomorrow morning Ep. 54 Dr Shelley Appleton Calm Willing Confident Horses will go live! Dr. Shelley has a PhD in Human Learning and uses that understanding to teach horse owners. She's intelligent, engaging and funny. This is another really fun and insightful episode.

If you're not already clued in on where the action is, search for "Adult Onset Horsemanship" on your favorite podcast directory like Apple Podcasts, Youtube, Spotify, Podbean, etc, or you can stream it from the link to the episode's webpage from our website.

Welcome to the Equestrian Imposter Club🤓I am going to start this club because I have no doubt it will be filled with the...
12/09/2024

Welcome to the Equestrian Imposter Club🤓

I am going to start this club because I have no doubt it will be filled with the most incredible people.❤

They will be brilliant, hard-working, and dedicated to their equestrian pursuits.💪 Their only flaw will be that they don’t think they are good enough🫤.

But they will be good enough… in fact, more than good enough❤.

Impostor syndrome is such a suffocating thing. It is the dark side of everything that makes you dedicated and disciplined🖤. It’s this mix of perfectionism, high expectations, societal pressure, fear of failure, and the worst of the worst – disappointing others😫.

Even if they did for a second have an inkling they may be good enough…there would be backlash for sure because who the heck do they think they are⁉️

I have a three-step (3) plan to prove to club members that they are indeed good enough😁.

1️⃣The first step is for them just to meet each other so their minds can be boggled by who else thinks they too are not good enough🥹.

2️⃣The second step is going to involve getting everyone to examine the actual evidence that they are not good enough and whether any proof exists… or maybe, just maybe, that evidence says the opposite😎.

3️⃣Finally, we are going to go on a field trip to the Equestrian Dunning-Kruger Club. The Dunning-Kruger effect is when you know so little about something that you don’t even realise how much you don’t know. I am doing this so all the imposters can experience a weird sense of relief to be members of the imposters club and not this!😆

To all the imposters out there, I hope one day you can find a way to see you are no fraud, you are the real deal and are way more than good enough❤.

➡️Anyone want to join⁉️

PS. This photographer has described this photo as - "Beautiful sensuality elegance woman cowgirl, riding a white horse. Clothed blue jeans, pink plaid shirt. Has slim sport body"...possible evidence of Dunning Kruger effect in assessing horse photography??🤔🤪

Dougal: A Story of a Difficult Horse 🐴❤A long but meaningful read....I get to meet lots of special horses. Some of these...
09/09/2024

Dougal: A Story of a Difficult Horse 🐴❤

A long but meaningful read....

I get to meet lots of special horses. Some of these horses have stories that need to be recorded and told because they hold important messages that need to be shared.

I have asked Dougal's owner Charlotte, to tell the story, because Charlotte is pretty special herself. She is one of the most dedicated and devoted owners I have ever come across. Dougal's story is so special because of her sheer determination and effort to help this once troubled horse.

Before I hand this post over to Charlotte I will explain that when I met her Dougal was difficult, spooky and borderline dangerous. However, Charlotte followed my program and she turned him around but there was a glitch in his progress. Charlotte then switched her attention to finding what was interfering with Dougal's ability to fully relax on the trails and use himself. After multiple vet visits arthritis was found. With this treated Dougal became the relaxed fun trail horse she hoped.

So this story is about being open to trying a different approach, identifying evidence there can be an insidious soundness issue interfering with progress....and a bittersweet reality of the management of soundness issues.

I hope you enjoy this tremendous story of perseverance and the turn around of a troubled horse ❤

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By Charlotte McIntyre

My introduction to Dougal was somewhat unorthodox.

Recovering from surgery and therefore forced into idleness for the first time in my life, I found myself responding to a random Facebook post.

“Wanted: quiet confidence builder for timid rider. Will swap for 2 year old gelding.”

I had just such a confidence builder; my stoic brumby who I had acquired as an ugly duckling 2 year old, and was now 16 and a perfect gentleman.

What was I thinking? My nearest and dearest enquired. I couldn’t really answer, I just wanted a challenge.

When I first met Dougal he was doing bog laps of the yard he was in at full gallop, screaming like a banshee.

The seller explained - “He hasn’t been away from his herd mates before.”

No kidding! Despite him ignoring me completely I managed to pick up his feet, check him all over and manhandle him back to the paddock, where he took off without a backward glance. Yes, can’t see any red flags here, I’ll take him.

My stoic old gelding moved home without batting an eyelid. His new owner (who I am now good friends with) worshipped him from day one and made very few demands apart from a gentle ride to the farm next door and back again. He thought he had landed in heaven.

Once we knew that part of the swap was good, Dougal arrived. I had high hopes of an immediate and loving bond between us. So, when I entered the paddock that evening and he came at me with pinned ears, standing on two legs and demanding I relinquish the bucket I was carrying, I was a little taken aback.

Over the next few months he slowly gave up trying to intimidate me. The time came when I wanted to start some serious groundwork and build on those new found vibes. For that we would have to go to the equestrian centre. No way was he going on the float and in one afternoon he reverted to the aggressive feral horse who had first arrived!

After many tears (mine) and escalation of objectionable behaviour (both) I resorted to calling in help. A friend of mine and horse trainer got us started, but it would be many journeys and gnawed horse float panels (him) before he was entirely comfortable with travelling.

When he turned three and a half it was time to put a saddle on. My friend was the crash test dummy and after a relatively short round penning session he was sitting on a calm looking Dougal. No explosions, no drama.

But then things got complicated.

From the very first day he responded well to a squeeze of the legs by moving forward – until he didn’t. He would simply stop sometimes and no amount of escalation could get him to move. My friend was exasperated. The hardest horse he had ever backed, he said, sweating away trying to kick Dougal into a trot. I was frequently stuck as we very publically ground to a halt and well meaning passers - by would shout out ideas as to how to get him moving again.

Each of the gait transitions took months to accomplish, trot to canter being the most hit and miss. I tried hard to make my cues as soft and predictable as possible; kiss first, then squeeze, then kick. The frequency of the refusals became fewer and fewer.

I began to take Dougal out on little forays into the bush and quickly realised this was a place he was not keen on. Any time he went near rustling trees, blind corners or dense vegetation he would tense up and start looking for things to spook at. He found plenty: sticks, birds, leaves, anything, nothing. For a horse that didn’t like to move, he sure had the 180 degree spin down pat. While unnerving, I was grateful that he didn’t follow through with a buck or bolt. He was much better in company than alone, but this was not always possible.

I persevered with the notion of ‘practice makes perfect’, convinced that if I just spent every spare moment doing something with him he would improve. But it didn’t. The spooking, even on the ground, did not go away. He would spin and mow me down and sometimes he felt unrideable. Such a contrast to my old horse, with whom I could plod round the hills, or on the beach, even in just a headcollar.

In desperation I subscribed to an online horse training video program. I went to clinics in nice safe arenas and I kept telling myself that he would get better in time, I just had to keep exposing him to new things.

Two years ago I attended a clinic with Shelley. I was in one of my lowest and most sceptical moods. “This isn’t going to change my horse!” I thought, “We are hardly even working them!” But then I began to understand Shelley's very methodical approach and realised all the minute steps that I had overlooked in my haste to just get out into the bush. Dougal had been expressing his anxiety to me and rather than give clear directions to provide him with a sense of safety, I had either been just as scared as him but for different reasons, or just plain angry. No wonder he chose to block me out and find his own way to cope with his fear.
So, I set about unpicking all the damage done, which was surprisingly straightforward.

Shelley's online courses appealed to my process driven brain, and I could see that Dougal appreciated the clarity – and the lack of emotion. As he began to believe in me, I began to believe in him. Covering less distance, but with more relaxation we edged further out into the bush. But there was still something ‘not quite right’ about the way he moved which Shelley identified in that first clinic. Dougal’s gait was stiff, especially in the hind. While he now did transition upwards, it could be that this was preventing him from really wanting to move.

The first vet did a perfunctory lameness test and diagnosed arthritis. Dougal was put onto supplements and showed an improvement in his gait. His behaviour slowly stabilised.

But It wasn’t all plain sailing. We had a couple of setbacks: the first when I was leading him along a narrow lane and a truck came the opposite way. It didn’t slow down on approach and Dougal was overwhelmed. He tried to escape by rapid reversing, hit the end of the lead rope and fell over backwards. The truck just sailed past. His fear of large vehicles was magnified after that, so what did I do? Took him down the same road a few weeks later hoping to ‘desensitise’ him, only to have the same thing happen again. Unbelievable!! It took many weeks of careful exposure to trucks, getting closer but not so close as to cause him to panic before he could even cope with the idea of trucks.

With lots of work today he doesn’t mind them now at a safe distance, but we would be in trouble if caught in a tight squeeze on that narrow lane.

The second setback was that his stiffness returned, despite the supplements. He was, as the second vet described “not lame, but not sound.’

Shelley had convinced me of the link between soundness and the horse’s ability to cope with its environment by then. It wasn’t going to just be a case of riding him through this. After months of veterinary investigation and a small fortune in vet bills, bodywork and extra gear the conclusion was that he does have an arthritic hock, which has responded well to steroid injection. He also has a small bone spur. Neither of these will get better, but can be managed for the next few years by regular injections and careful riding.

So, last weekend Dougal relocated to his new home, a small family run riding school here in my home town. I know the owners, they care for their horses brilliantly and they are completely aware of Dougal’s physical limitations. He has already been for a few trial lessons and behaved angelically. All that is required of him is three one hour lessons a week on flat firm ground and strictly no jumping. It is a safe and predictable environment where he will always have company and he is already a firm favourite for the dozens of teenagers who ride there.

When the arthritis no longer responds to treatment, I will take him back, which the vet believes will be in about 4 year’s time.

I have made this difficult decision because it is a good outcome for Dougal. But also for me. If I kept him here he would still probably only have two or three more years trail riding before he had to retire, which would leave me having to start a new horse as I turn sixty. I need this time now to put the gift of knowledge and skills that Dougal has given me into a young horse that I will be able to enjoy into my later years.

So, I farewelled dear Dougal with regrets, but having learned much more from this little horse than I could ever have imagined ❤
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Thank you for reading this story. Charlotte and I hope you too can learn from this very special horse.

04/09/2024

I NEED YOUR HELP🫵‼

Why We Get Stuck & More Questions🤔🤓

I recently created a survey where I asked my audience this question⬇️:

"Why do you think people are getting stuck with their horse in a world of easy to access information and advice at their finger tips?"

While I am not exactly surprised by the responses, I did find the responses thoughtful and fascinating. I have conducted an analysis of themes and the number #1 most prevalent issue identified was "conflicting advice" and not knowing "who to believe".

⚠️Therefore, I want to know more about this - I want to know WHAT EXACTLY IS THE CONFLICTING ADVICE⁉️

What is the conflicting advice out there about the management, training and riding of horses - or is it just about horse's themselves? I need help in understanding this more!

I have created another survey to collect your thoughts on this matter and would be grateful if you could share to your friends or clubs etc. so I can identify what these conflicts are and then investigate them!

➡️Here is the link to this survey:
https://poll.app.do/conflicting-advice-about-horses

EDITED: OMG the responses to this so far are amazing, such an extensive list is being revealed😳

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Please HIT SHARE - so we can investigate what conflicting advice people have discovered!❤🙏

Shelley will profoundly transform your relationship with your horse via her books, courses & advice.

NEW CANTER THERAPY PODCAST EPISODE🎙‼The fabulous Anna Minogue The Bit Fitter returns for the second time!  Our first pod...
02/09/2024

NEW CANTER THERAPY PODCAST EPISODE🎙‼

The fabulous Anna Minogue The Bit Fitter returns for the second time! Our first podcast with Anna is ranked in our TOP 5 favourite podcasts 🏆

If you enjoyed the first one, you will love this one too ❤

Links to listen are below!

Make sure you hit follow and subscribe to Canter Therapy on your podcast app so that you can keep up new episodes 😃

NEW EPISODE: ANNA MINOGUE IS BACK‼️📣

Our first podcast with Anna Minogue The Bit Fitter ranks in our TOP 5 favourite podcasts....and this one will not disappoint🤩

In this episode we talk about everything dentistry and bit fitting from the differences in mouth shape between breeds to the different actions of bits.

To listen click here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cantertherapy/episodes/89-Questions-for-the-Dentist-e2m30da

What Are Your Thoughts ‼🤔This is a question that needs collective thoughts to get a good overall picture of the issue.We...
22/08/2024

What Are Your Thoughts ‼🤔

This is a question that needs collective thoughts to get a good overall picture of the issue.

We live in a world of information and advice at our fingertips but people get stuck.

Is it a matter of too much information...or are there other life factors at play such as a lack of time.

OR are people not getting stuck at all and this is simply a negative perception?

I realise it is a complex thing of many dimensions. I have my own thoughts but it is good practice to be open to listening to others.

I have created this simple survey. I would be grateful f you could complete it and maybe share it to gather as many collective thoughts as possible. After a 4 days I will stop collection and post the common and interesting ideas the survey reveals 🤓❤

Here is the link:

https://poll.app.do/why-are-equestrians-getting-stuck-with-their-horses

What Actually is Connection?🤔When I first saw the image that is now the logo of my business, I initially dismissed it. I...
21/08/2024

What Actually is Connection?🤔

When I first saw the image that is now the logo of my business, I initially dismissed it. It was not until a good friend and client made me stop and pointed out that this was the only image the graphic designers had produced that actually reflected what I did. Everything else I had been presented with was just a horse image and words, but this was powerfully symbolic of what connection with a horse means.

The word “connection” gets thrown around in the context of horses regularly. It’s a nice idea, but what does it actually mean?

Connection is defined as a relationship or link between people, things, or ideas. It can refer to a physical or abstract bond that joins or associates two or more entities.

Your horse can be connected to you based on ownership, or they can be connected to you by a lead rope or reins. However, this design reflects how it can be deeper than that, but at the same time, simple.

In a way, it represents that well-known saying, “make your idea the horse’s idea,” and how this transforms us into a partnership that works together as one entity. An entity created by two species where the human superpower of thought is combined with the horse’s superpower of movement—a combination that has had a pivotal role in the advancement and existence of civilisation as we know it.

There are many dimensions that require mastery to create this connection. There is much to learn about the horse, skills to develop, decisions to be made, and a high level of self-awareness required. The horse has to learn how to pay attention, identify your ideas, and accept and follow them.

It is certainly not something that is created once and set. It is created between each person and a horse. It can only be poorly transferred to another and deteriorates over time if not maintained or ruined by ignorance or unfortunate events.

Connection is fluid and dynamic. It is continually forged, created and balanced… and this is my role—teaching people how to create this connection and how to both preserve it and expand it.

It is the horse’s foundation training that creates the connection, and all problems people experience with a horse will have a disruption in this layer of the horse’s training. Connection is destroyed or fails to exist when there is confusion, frustration, lack of motivation, fear, distrust, restriction, imbalance, and discomfort.

Some people perceive a horse coming towards them, standing close to them, or the horse allowing themselves to be kissed, hugged, and rubbed as signs of connection. However, I hope that everyone one day gets to experience the feeling when you can pick up on a lead rope or rein, and a horse seamlessly identifies and takes on your ideas, allowing their body to be guided by your ideas minus brace, worry, or concern. Then it gets even more special when you realise you can feel their thoughts coming back at you and connection isn't just a one way thing.

It is not just a special thing to experience a connection with a horse; it is a great honour and privilege. Everything else is superficial❤🐴

➡️Respect to Rachel Kim the designer and artist that created my my logo🙏

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Image📸: Here I am, wearing one of my new t-shirt designs. I like how I can remove my name from logo, and it stands alone as a special and meaningful representation of what connection with a horse means. If you are interested, you can find them here:
https://www.calmwillingconfidenthorses.com.au/shop-2

Helping the Overweight Horse 🐴 Lysette Smith from Candid Equitation has always been a master at helping overweight horse...
15/08/2024

Helping the Overweight Horse 🐴

Lysette Smith from Candid Equitation has always been a master at helping overweight horses. I am so happy to see her posting about her process.

If you struggle with an overweight horse please read this….also please share this to others.

The key points are:
- You do NOT starve these horses
- Movement is KEY and that includes what they do in the paddock and exercise.
- The type of exercise use you do with them it’s important.

Thank you 🙏 Lysette for sharing these valuable insights ♥️

15/08/2024

📣We have Merch‼️💖👕🧢👜

Simon has been busy designing and creating some very cool t-shirts, hoodies, caps & tote bags!😍

For over a year we have been trialing different materials and designs to come up with the right mix of quality and affordability.

I have a hard time seeing my name plastered on clothing (its weird and awkward😱)...however, I do love my logo😍 and I do know that my sayings get in people's heads and help them....so these designs have my approval...especially with the beautifully coloured "freedom rider" motif 😃

For Canter Therapy Podcast fans, you will also now be able to wear the t-shirt, hoodie and cap 🎙😎

Here is a video of Simon giving you a tour of the collection ❤

Here is a link to the shop ❤

https://www.calmwillingconfidenthorses.com.au/shop-2

Enjoy ❤

PS. 🌏Currently Australian sales only, if you are from overseas email us [email protected] as shipping gets complicated!

When People Wrap Their Identities in the Horse 🪢🐴It can get ugly...Want to know why horse people can get so up in arms o...
14/08/2024

When People Wrap Their Identities in the Horse 🪢🐴

It can get ugly...

Want to know why horse people can get so up in arms over their beliefs?

Because we tend to tie our identity to our involvement with horses.

Therefore, our identity can get wrapped in horses and our ways and opinions about what we do, how we do it, and why. Then if someone says something that challenges our ways or opinions we get confronted.

We either launch a defence to correct the unenlightened person or we come out swinging!

It can be serious stuff.

Friendships destroyed, fall outs with coaches, committees, organisers, competitors and key board warrior attacks galore.

People get hurt, their confidence can be knocked, they can get offended, angry, righteous and a whole lot of other not very nice stuff.

What can we do about it?🤔

Get humble🙌

Be prepared to be a student of the horse because each one is going to teach you something whether you like it or not!

Detach yourself from your methods and be someone who is prepared to evolve your understanding and ways as you learn more about how to help horses.

But what about other people...😬

Understand people's reactions when their beliefs or ways are challenged.

They have just had their ego swing into action to protect the fortress of their identify. They need to save you❤️‍🩹, defend themselves🤺 or bring you down🥊.

This is how I handle it:

1️⃣ I accept that people have their own learning journey with horses. I can put ideas out there but I can't make anyone accept them if they are not ready to accept.

2️⃣ I make friends. I learnt quickly that if I gave unsolicited advice to people it always went pear-shaped. But if I just did my thing and made friends, people got curious about what I did and would ask me questions or ask for help.

3️⃣ I respect there are many different roads to Rome and most controversial topics are not black and white. Hence why I collect methods and value my extensive tool box of approaches.

4️⃣ I have boundaries with how I allow people to engage with me. If I trigger someone into defence or attack mode and they are not constructive in their approach, I hit the block button.

Finally, don't lock yourself in echo chambers that purely validate and agree with your ideas. Delve into alternative thoughts. Listen, study, observe and experiment. But do so in a way that uses critical thought. There is that saying - "be opened minded, but not so open your brain falls out". 🤯🧠

Everyone should have an aim that we can look back at our past selves and tell a story about how much we have changed in what we know and what we do....and feel proud of the story ❤

PS. Credit to Erin Rose for the fabulous photograph😍

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Human Ignorance⚠️There is no doubt that horses suffer because of the ignorance and stupidity of people.It is very easy t...
09/08/2024

Human Ignorance⚠️

There is no doubt that horses suffer because of the ignorance and stupidity of people.

It is very easy to be frustrated by people and have no patience for them. When you see horses suffer at the hands of someone being ignorant, it can be infuriating.

This discomfort can escalate when you see these people refuse to listen to good advice, blame others instead of taking responsibility, and repeat their mistakes, all to the detriment of some poor horse. Wilful ignorance is an ugly thing, and you can find it at all levels of the equestrian world.

Back in the day, I was one hell of an equestrian vigilante. I raged battles against every stupid horse person on the internet. My favourite quote at the height of my equestrian vigilantism was by Martin Luther King Jr.:

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”

Therefore, believe me, I absolutely understand when you say you have zero tolerance for ignorant humans. However, I am about to present a case as to why you may wish to reconsider this.

My case will make a claim that giving up on people effectively means you give up on their horse as well.

The only way to help any horse is through the human connected to them. If you care about horses, you need to influence the human. The worst way to influence a human is for them to perceive criticism or feel that you are being contemptuous towards them. That just makes people defensive and hold even tighter onto their bad ideas.

We like to think our human superpower is our intelligence. Well, guess what... it is not. Our superpower, and the reason we are still here and haven’t gone extinct, is that we have this tremendous ability to adapt to our environments. We work stuff out. But to work stuff out, we need to fail a lot. Therefore, we are hardwired to be overconfident because if we weren’t, we would have been too overcautious and too scared to leave a cave each time we perceived danger, and our species would have died out millions of years ago.

It is why we suffer from distorted thinking such as cognitive dissonance, hold onto beliefs in the face of contradictory evidence, and can do very stupid things.

We are also wired for connection with other people and are heavily influenced by those around us and what they do and think. If you are surrounded by ignorance, it is hard to be different!

We are not born wise; we need life experience to teach us that, and here is where we really get interesting...

When we learn something and our perspective changes, a really intriguing thing happens—we completely forget what it was like before we changed. So, once you learn to know something or see something, you cannot un-see it or un-know it… it is all part of that same superpower of adapting to our environments, but unfortunately, it makes us extremely intolerant and impatient towards people who have not yet crossed this learning threshold to see or know things differently. It seems so obvious that you get incredulous!

We also tend to learn things in layers of different levels of understanding and depth.

Therefore, not only are we prone to being overconfident, we are prone to being arrogant. Unfortunately, it takes many cycles of being overconfident, failing, learning something new, transforming, becoming arrogant, then overconfident, then failing again before we have a chance of learning the right thing and developing some self-awareness and humility! Many times we never make it past the first failing stage, and we just keep repeating the same mistakes!

So, how do we influence overconfident, ignorant people?

You make them curious and treat them like a cat!

A cat😺?! Yes, a cat… let me explain…

Because we have this burning sense of autonomy, or free will. It is why unsolicited advice is so ineffective at helping anyone. Humans are best when they feel like they have control of what they decide to engage in and who they listen to.

If you lead by example and ride and manage your horses in a way that allows them to flourish, people who are struggling with their horse due to their ignorance and incompetence will look to you with curiosity. Just like a cat that is ignored, they will eventually get curious and come and check you out!

Now, please do not think I am saying there is no place for outrage, challenge, laws, and rules. These are essential and important. But these can be made a hell of a lot easier if we influence from a community and individual level.

Therefore, remember—overconfidence, connection, arrogance, curiosity, free will, and treat like a cat😺! Understand these things about our species, and we have a chance of getting to the horses that we can only help if we influence their owner first✊

Are You Really Having Fun?I have a friend who is a vet, and today she told me a story that made me feel both sad and fru...
08/08/2024

Are You Really Having Fun?

I have a friend who is a vet, and today she told me a story that made me feel both sad and frustrated.

My friend had an appointment to visit a property to assess and treat another horse. While she was there, she struck up a conversation with a lady who had recently moved her horse to the same property.

The lady was telling the vet how her horse was so much happier at the new property than the previous property. She explained she had been able to ride the mare and she was so much more relaxed.

The lady then mentioned that she was worried about a skin lump that she had found on the mare's back. My vet friend offered to have a quick look at the lump and asked for the horse to be brought up to the stable area.

My vet friend then watched the lady struggle to catch the horse, halter the horse, and then walk the horse from the paddock up to the stables. The lady was clearly terrified of the mare who, once out of the gate of the paddock, became very tense and agitated.

My friend went and met her halfway as the situation was becoming dangerous but could not really get near the horse as it was so agitated. They agreed to take the mare back to the paddock where the horse calmed down and my friend was able to inspect the lump, which turned out to be nothing to worry about. The lady apologised and explained the mare had not left the paddock since she had arrived a month before.

My friend asked her if she had ever done any groundwork with the mare. The lady responded that this was her first horse and, no, she didn’t do any groundwork as she only had enough time in the week to ride the horse. The lady then went on to describe how at the other place she had kept the horse, the mare had been quite scary to ride but here she had just been walking the mare around her paddock and she was so much better.

My friend then asked her if this was her first horse, and was she enjoying the experience?

The lady responded that she was; in fact, she was having so much fun with the mare.

My vet friend responded that she could get some help with the horse if she was difficult to handle. The lady made an excuse that the horse just had "bitch days."

Hearing this makes me feel so sad for the lady and the horse.

Let's examine all the unnecessary conflict and stress in this simple yet common scenario:

1️⃣The mare had not left the small paddock it had been placed in for a month. Even when it was ridden, it had only been ridden in the small paddock. Confining a horse to a small paddock and decreasing the horse’s exposure to the world will shrink a horse’s comfort zone and decrease its ability to process the environment and regulate its stress and emotions.

2️⃣An inability to feel safe and reliably handle a horse on the ground around the property it lives in. Handling your horse should be something you feel incredibly confident in doing. It is for both your welfare and that of the horse. If it is disconcerting handling your horse, that needs to be addressed and resolved. Gaining ground handling skills to be able to teach and influence horses to be safe and easy to handle is something all equestrians need to learn and practise.

3️⃣Not having an interest in groundwork because you only have time to ride a horse is actually a very common thing that many people who own horses think! It is something I used to think myself and it is so strange to think of myself back then. I could not see the purpose of groundwork because I didn’t understand what it was or why it is important for both safety and fairness to the horse. It shows how little idea of horses we have. It is like we have this inbuilt assumption that they are born to be ridden by humans with special installed buttons and it is no effort for them at all! Once you truly understand horses and what we are actually nurturing between ourselves and them to be able to ride them safely and ethically - the idea that we only have time to ride is crazy on all levels!

4️⃣Owning a horse that you can hardly catch, struggle to lead, cannot remove from its paddock, and that can be scary when you ride it - equals fun and meets your expectations for a fulfilling experience of horse ownership is depressing. None of that is fun, and the horse definitely does not think this is fun. That is an example of cognitive dissonance, which is the term used to describe why people sometimes act irrationally or hold onto beliefs that are contradicted by evidence. It is a protective way of thinking to protect individuals from the harsh reality of their choices or deal with contradictory evidence of what is occurring in their lives.

On one hand, I can say it is strange that with so much information at our fingertips online, so many people like myself sharing good ideas about how to influence and care for horses, that we still have such ignorance in the equestrian world.

However, on the other hand, it is not surprising. There are still way more poor management, handling and riding practices going on that it depends on what a person has been exposed to as normal! There is still so much ignorance about the horse.

I can’t even talk because I was not much different to this lady. It really takes a reckoning to shake you out of your delusion that you need help. Then the outcome of the reckoning depends so much on the people you are surrounded by.

As my vet friend showed, unsolicited good advice can be rejected. However, what can be more powerful is to be a person that lives good practices and care of their horse. I hope that at this property, this lady comes across someone who demonstrates good care, handling, and riding of their horse. I hope that this lady will one day get interested in what this person is doing and get curious and approach this person and start asking questions.

I hope that…because I hope this lady can one day discover just what a meaningful and rewarding experience owning a horse can be. You just need to learn how....and that is enjoyable in its own right❤

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