
13/02/2025
Build that special bond with your horse as your happy willing partner.
Ways a horse may express their unhappiness include
• Hard to catch
• Difficult to halter or bridle
• Unable to stand still for saddling or mounting or the farrier
• Pushy
• Difficult to load in a trailer
• Turn to bite
• Kick out
• Buck
• Rear
• Bolt
• Lazy or dull to the aides
• Tense or resistant
These behaviours aren’t just problems to solve, they are messages. The horse is telling us something important to them, and it’s up to us to listen.
Horses communicate via their bodies and actions.
As examples of what they might be trying to tell us include
• A horse that resists being haltered isn’t just “difficult” they are telling us they don’t want to come with us. That could mean they don’t find our time together enjoyable, they’re feeling discomfort, or they don’t trust what’s coming next.
• A horse that won’t hold their feet quietly for the farrier isn’t just being naughty. They might feel trapped, unbalanced, or uneasy with the person handling them.
• A horse that fidgets during saddling or mounting isn’t just impatient. They might be uncomfortable, anxious, or resistant to the experience.
• A horse that won’t accept the bridle willingly isn’t just uncooperative. They might be telling us that they don’t trust the bridle, or they have discomfort we haven’t yet addressed.
None of these behaviours are acts of defiance, they are opportunities for us to refine our conversation and deepen our understanding.
Do you want your horse to see you as a positive influence in their life?
Learn the universal language all horses share to communicate with and better understand your horse and their needs so that you may experience
• a horse that enthusiastically participates in haltering
• a horse that relaxes when their feet are handled
• a horse that stands quietly for saddling and mounting, without being tied
• a horse that lowers their head and opens their mouth willingly for the bridle
• a horse that can be ridden on a loose rein at all gaits with understanding and confidence
These are not optional extras, they are the foundation of a safe and enjoyable partnership no matter what goals you have for yourself with your horse.
Developing a shared language with a horse takes time. It requires patience, consistency, and a willingness to hear what the horse is saying with their bodies and behaviour, even when the message is inconvenient in place or time.
By listening, adjusting, and respecting our horse’s perspective, we create a partnership where the horse is not just obedient but willing, confident, engaged and happy.
That is what the magic of horsemanship truly is.
Studying horsemanship with Fiona will give you the ultimate combination of education and support.
If you are seeking that special partnership with your horse, one that your horse chooses to be an active participant in, check out the events offered by Fiona Darling of Seven Keys Horsemanship empowering you with the knowledge and skills to create a happy horse and happy horse life together. https://www.sevenkeyshorsemanship.com.au/events-2025
Exerts included from a beautiful, thought provoking post by Kristi Smith.