04/08/2024
“I’m keeping my hands soft and passive whilst using lots of leg so I don’t have to use the hands. I’m not going to worry about the horse’s headset” explains Susan, as she see-saws her hands left and right pulling the bit from one side of the mouth to the other, and pushes strongly with the legs, until Shadow drops her head, bringing the nose behind the vertical, “Good girl!” exclaims Susan, pushing more enthusiastically with the legs to hold her there.
“I wish I could get her to do that!” laments Anne. “You make it look so easy!” 20 minutes earlier, she had been struggling to even get Shadow to move forward, crooked and stuck, resisting and swishing the tail as Anne asked her to trot, before her coach asked her to dismount, tightening the noseband a couple of holes. Susan had got on and walked a few strides, sitting elegantly and not seeming to put much effort in. After a bit of head shaking and tail swishing, Shadow was soon trotting around, looking straighter, and seemed to be moving willingly forward. Susan trotted round for about 10 minutes before pausing for a rest.
“Don’t worry. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just that I can only get her to do this because I’m really fit and used to riding lots of horses” says Susan. “I have strong legs!”
Shadow, who isn’t fit, is sweating and blowing. Susan pats her kindly.
Anne is left with mixed feelings. On the one hand, she is full of admiration that Shadow is moving more forward and seems a bit more relaxed and straight than before. Susan seems kind: She pats Shadow and says nice words to her, and she just laughs when Shadow stops and doesn’t punish her. Shadow seems to like her. Anne doesn’t like doing up the noseband so tight, but Shadow doesn’t seem to mind it: surely she would protest if she did? Surely someone as kind as Susan wouldn’t do anything to make Shadow feel uncomfortable? Shadow was swishing her tail and wrinkling her nostrils as she trotted round, but she has always had a tendency to do this. “It’s hard work for her” explains Susan “But it will do her good.” Look how much better she is going than before!”
Susan is so much nicer than the last coach Anne had who used to yell at Anne and hit Shadow if she stopped. Anne doesn’t really understand what Susan is saying about the hands, as it looks to her as if Susan is moving her hands quite a lot, but she doesn’t really want to ask: she doesn’t want to feel stupid if she has missed something obvious. So she pushes it to the back of her mind.
And yet… a part of Anne would like to explore what she has read about. Moving the horse off light aids. Loose noseband and steady, light hands. But how’s that going to help when Shadow is crooked and stuck? Anne’s tried and it doesn’t seem to help. Maybe that’s not something that people really do. After all, Susan says her hands are passive, but Anne can clearly see her using them left hand, right hand, to get the head down. The nose is behind the vertical, and Anne has read that this is a bad thing. But Shadow does seem to be going much better than before, and is Anne really entitled to an opinion as she couldn’t even get her to move?
Susan is happy with Shadow’s progress. She loves horses and is passionate about helping horses and their riders. She rides how she was taught when she trained as a coach. The horses at the training centre were all ridden in tight flash nosebands. She was never specifically taught to see-saw the hands, but she was taught to get the head down by using more leg: this never seemed to actually work and she used to get yelled at frequently for letting her horse go around with his head in the air. After watching and copying the other riders who were achieving this and not getting yelled at, she gave a few little surreptitious tugs until the head came down. It worked, her coach praised her, and after a while she forgot she was doing it. Now it is so habitual that she doesn’t realise she does it: she genuinely believes her hands are passive. Susan tries her best to be kind to her clients and their horses. She speaks kindly to the horses and pats them often. She never yells at the clients like her coach did at her.
I was once like Susan, training at a big exam centre (though I always refused to tighten nosebands: I would surreptitiously loosen them and spend the whole lesson terrified my instructor would notice!) And then one day I found someone who showed me that it is actually possible to ride with a feather light contact and soft, steady hands. To straighten the horse without the use of strong aids using a completely different, almost opposite, approach to what I was taught.
Now when I see lessons taking place Susan and Anne style, I can empathise with Susan, Anne and Shadow. What I find really difficult is that, with the horse abuse being completely unintentional and so much more subtle, it is very hard for people to realise that it’s a problem. It’s easy to see a problem with someone hitting their horse or losing their temper, but the Susans of this world are trying to do a good thing, and the Annes are trusting them, and then the Shadows lose out. And I can so much see what could be done to help: Susan has the skill and empathy to easily learn a kinder and more effective way, but she has just never had the exposure to even know this exists.
I do get super frustrated when everyone else gushes at how well the horse is going and nobody seems to be able to see the problems - they just listen to the words of the coach and believe everything they say without using their eyes!! So many of you owner riders have such little confidence in yourselves, but it is you that have spent years building beautiful connection and understand your horse like no other. Trust your eyes and intuition! You don’t need to be an expert for your observations to be entirely valid. A good coach helps you to build on that connection and respects you as a voice for your horse: we can offer our perspective which may be different from yours, but as coaches we must always listen and take seriously those observations and questions.
Photo: This is the year I first experienced a completely different way of riding which changed everything. Riding beautiful Sudi with Heather Moffett.