02/01/2025
Smart advice from Amy Cook (The Play Way) for owners of sensitive or reactive dogs.
"I had a management question from a client yesterday and in giving her advice I realized that this is something that the rest of you might also need cleared up, especially if you are familiar with my approaches. [I just decided I’m going to let you puzzle through it at the end rather than tell you outright first!]
Do we let them approach, let them look, or redirect them and move away?
There are times I want you to let dogs go investigate things, so they can learn up close, through interaction. There are times I want you to let dogs look at things, so they can learn from afar, without direct interaction. And there are times when I want you to interrupt looking and move on, so they aren’t focusing on the thing and learning things I don’t want.
Which are those things?
Your cheat sheet is this: If the feared object is inanimate and unchanging, not dangerous in any way, consider letting them approach on their own time, giving them autonomy. Don’t insist or encourage, but support them as they need it.
If the fearful situation is social, as with strange dogs or people, then it won’t be unchanging and will provide a lot of challenge to negotiate. This benefits from letting them look and take stock of what is going on. You can either let them make their own choices there and give no specific feedback or guidance, or you may give reward or lightly interrupt to titrate that exposure, depending on how close you are.
If the situation, regardless of what it is, is close enough to cause a reaction that you don’t want them having, it’s time to step in and redirect their attention fully onto something else and get some distance.
I may make some exceptions if something totally pedestrian and inanimate causes them to bark, like a fire hydrant or flower, as they’ll likely find their curiosity very quickly and shift modes, but in most cases we just don’t want any of that reaction rehearsed and they do need us to direct their behavior.
So, what do you do with barking at the sounds outside your front door?
Can you puzzle it out based on the information above? Is it inanimate? Is it social? Is it too much? Do you let them go see? Do you redirect?