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film featuring 9 home waterbirths plus a narration feature and two features on keeping boys intact.

Please educate on this barbaric device which is often inflicted on an "almost born" little human being.
10/31/2024

Please educate on this barbaric device which is often inflicted on an "almost born" little human being.

Dr Michel Odent's food for thought.Quote:  WILL DOGS SURVIVE HUMANIZED BIRTH? This is a follow-up question after the pub...
10/30/2024

Dr Michel Odent's food for thought.
Quote:
WILL DOGS SURVIVE HUMANIZED BIRTH?

This is a follow-up question after the publication of "Will Humanity Survive Socialized Birth"?
Recall that in this semi-clandestine book I provided several reasons to classify Homo as an endangered species:
- In the age of modern caesarean section techniques and effective pharmacological agents, love hormones have become almost useless in the critical period surrounding birth.
-In a growing number of countries, where caesarean section rates are very high, the number of children per woman can be close to 1 (2.1 are needed to stabilize a population).
Today, most human beings are not born among a wide variety of familiar (and therefore friendly) microbes. The programming of the immune system is at stake.
-Reproductive medicine neutralizes the laws of natural selection.
Canines have been the companions of humans since the Paleolithic eras. There are therefore reasons to wonder whether they should not also be classified as endangered species.
There are commonalities in caesarean section rates.
Today, among some dog breeds, caesarean section rates can be over 50% (Norwich Terriers, bulldogs, etc.).
It is becoming increasingly difficult for female dogs to find an isolated and almost clandestine place to give birth: dog births are becoming more and more socialized. It is also important to note the influence of the increase in the average age of pregnant females on the incidence of caesarean sections in both species. And what about the expansion of clinics specializing in canine fertility?
For futurologists, human-canine cohabitation is an inevitable subject." end of quoted material. Michel Odent
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Protesting obstetric violence in Vancouver B.C.
10/27/2024

Protesting obstetric violence in Vancouver B.C.

Our second Birth Rally at BC Women's Hospital, held on July 10, 2012 in Vancouver, Canada. We want to raise awareness of obstetric violence against birthing ...

Speaking up for the human rights of infant boys.  By the late, Jessica Austin, Vancouver,, B.C. Canada.  Quote: Why Circ...
10/16/2024

Speaking up for the human rights of infant boys. By the late, Jessica Austin, Vancouver,, B.C. Canada. Quote: Why Circumcision Debates Matter
by Jessica Austin on March 8, 2012 in Circumcision, Newborn Care https://www.birthtakesavillage.com/circumcision-debate/

Ah, circumcision, such a fire-y topic you are. Write an article or post an opinion about circumcision, and all sorts of feathers are bound to get ruffled. From accusations of bad parenting on both sides to claims that we should all just worry about our own children and stop talking about it, circumcision is something that gets people all riled up.

I think how we take care of our children is something that everyone should care about. And people should care about ALL children, not just their own. It’s by discussing our opposing views with one another that our own beliefs get challenged and we have to really take some time to evaluate if we want to hang on to our current beliefs and traditions or make space for some new ideas. In our current legal system, infant circumcision ultimately is the mother and father’s choice. I really think it is important to give the topic the energy and thought it deserves before making the decision to circumcise, and understand the implications of this choice.
Here are some reasons the circumcision debate matters:

Ge***al integrity is an International Human Rights issue
According to governing bodies such as Health Canada and the College of Physicians and Surgeons of British Columbia, modern evidence does not support performing circumcision for prophylactic health reasons
There are medical risks outlined by Health Canada associated with circumcision
Even though babies are inarticulate, they are still conscious beings who have experiences and form memories, and it is important to consider the psychological impact a potentially painful or unnecessary surgery may have on a newborn child
Fo****in has a purpose, and removing it has functional repercussions

Do women have a place in the circumcision debate?

It can actually be really common to hear people argue that the decision of whether or not to circumcise should be up to the father. Should women have a say over what adult men do with their fo****in? Absolutely not. Should they have a say over what happens to the bodies of their newborn children? I think yes, of course they should!

Dad’s are important. My own father is one of my favorite people in the whole world, and his parental choices definitely made a valuable impact on my childhood and who I am today. However, let’s face it: generally speaking, women are the nuturers, the caregivers and the ones who were responsible for baby’s health since the moment of conception. They have a mothering, natural, innate and vested interest in their son’s physical and mental health, including the impact of parental choices on his fo****in.

Sometimes it seems that there are more women out there who vocally oppose circumcision than men. I was speaking about this topic with a local “intactivist” a few months ago. He reflected that perhaps more women seem to vocalize the problems with circumcision because women have such a protective instinct built in to care for the baby they’ve been growing inside of them for the last 40+ weeks.

I read a quote the other day that summarizes part of why I am so passionate about birth and maternal health care:

“If we can fix things for mothers ~ and we can ~ we can fix so many other things that are wrong in the world. Women are at the heart of every family, every nation. It’s mostly mothers who make sure children are loved, fed, educated. You just can’t build healthy, peaceful, prosperous societies without making life better for girls and women.” Sarah Brown, White Ribbon Alliance

Yes. I think women have a place in the circumcision debate. Because I believe women have a huge responsibility when it comes to our children and our world.
Why might circumcised men be more likely to defend circumcision?

For circumcised men to embrace the idea that cutting off fo****in is wrong, they might think it means accepting that something “wrong” happened to them, that their own ge****ls are somehow not-quite-right. It can be much easier to say “Well, this is just what we do. I seem fine. We might as well keep doing it.” Like many things in life, often people are much more comfortable with status quo than really digging into an issue and forming an opinion based on facts, particularly when the issue involves their own personal experiences or their current belief system. This is not to say that circumcised men are inherently incapable of coming to intelligent conclusions. I’m just saying there is potential for emotional bias.
Debating circumcision as it relates to health

Here is a statement from the College of Physicians and Surgeons of British Columbia on the health impact of circumcision:

“Infant male circumcision was once considered a preventive health measure and was therefore adopted extensively in Western countries. Current understanding of the benefits, risks and potential harm of this procedure, however, no longer supports this practice for prophylactic health benefit. Routine infant male circumcision performed on a healthy infant is now considered a non‐therapeutic and medically unnecessary intervention.”

The prophylactic health benefit this quote refers to is the medical reason that used to be given for infant circumcision. It used to be thought that removing fo****in would prevent urinary tract and other infections in boys. However, current research no longer supports this. According to Health Canada, “The overall evidence of the benefits and harms of circumcision is so evenly balanced that it does not support recommending circumcision as a routine procedure for newborns”.

You may have heard of instances where older boys or men end up having their fo****in removed for a medical reason. This definitely happens, although it is rare. I like to compare this to performing surgery to remove any other part of our bodies:

Generally speaking, we wait for organs to show signs of distress before surgically removing them. This is because, although we can go on mostly fine without them, we accept that it’s better to have most of your organs intact when possible. Just like surgery to remove an appendix, something our bodies can function without, we don’t send our newborns off to surgery to get those organs removed right away to prevent them from developing a medical problem later on.
Circumcision and HIV

There were randomized trials conducted that indicated circumcision can reduce HIV transmission by up to 60%. This is part of the basis for a recent campaign to promote circumcision in Africa as a way to fight the AIDs epidemic. The study that’s being quoted here is an extremely controversial one. As outlined in a paper on the methodological, ethical and legal concerns of this particular study, there are problems that make its outcome questionable. Another research paper, from the Journal of Public Healath in Africa, actually shows that promoting circumcision as a tool for fighting HIV may actually increase HIV infections.

It is also important to note that studies looking at the rates of HIV infection in circumcised vs. uncircumcised males in Africa cannot be extrapolated to “developed” countries, because there are multiple compounding cultural and educational variables involved that also contribute to HIV risk which differ significantly between the developed world and African countries.
Male circumcision as it compares to female circumcision

The ge***al cutting of young girls is illegal in North America. In the circumcision debate, we often discuss whether female circumcision is comparable to male circumcision, and question why one is legal while the other is not. However:

Neither female nor male circumcision have medical benefits that support it as a routine procedure
All children have certain universal rights as outlined by the United Nations, regardless of their s*x, some of which routine infant circumcision is in direct violation of.

Circumcision as a means of continuing tradition, religious or otherwise

I think as a species, we’ve always been in a position to choose which traditions to pass on and which ones to let go of. My personal belief is that this is one that is better left behind.
Are you considering circumcising your child?

If you are deciding whether or not to circumcise your son, I urge you to take the time to really learn about the process and its risks, what the benefit claims and realities are, and its implications for physical and emotional well-being. Invest some energy into evaluating your opinion on the subject! I encourage you to do some research, and to talk about it with doctors, your peers and other parents, including those who’s opinions differ from yours. If you don’t have a son, talk about it anyway! And dig deep to make sure the decision you make is coming from a place that values the well-being of your son, and our world.

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Why Circumcision Debates Matter by Jessica Austin on March 8, 2012 in Circumcision, Newborn Care • 7 Comments http://www.flickr.com/photos/lsuchick142/ Ah, circumcision, such a firey topic you are. Write an article or post an opinion about circumcision, and all sorts of feathers are bound to...

Dr. Michel Odent is still teaching me.  Quote: THE DECLINING NEED TO SURVIVE THROUGH PROCREATION There have been two rec...
10/15/2024

Dr. Michel Odent is still teaching me. Quote: THE DECLINING NEED TO SURVIVE THROUGH PROCREATION

There have been two recent turning points in the history of Homo. Which one preceded the other? Is there a cause-and-effect relationship between the two? Are they two facets of the same phenomenon?
The first turning point was nearly established at the dawn of the twenty first century when the love hormones women used to release to give birth to babies and placentas became redundant. From that time, many babies and placentas were delivered through the effects of pharmacological substitutes for natural hormones. Others were delivered by caesareans. In other words, most women no longer give birth.
The second turning point came abruptly around 2015. While demographers and governments were going on updating their strategies for adapting to the continuing ‘demographic explosion’ that had begun around 10,000 years ago, the onset of demographic collapse took them by surprise. The media were not conditioned to assess the importance of the subject: conflicts between human groups, global warming, ocean pollution, the future of astronauts, etc. were sufficient subjects to ensure a solid audience.
Today, some politicians are beginning to think that it is part of their role to control this unexpected phenomenon. They seek the advice of experts who do not go beyond simplistic economic, financial and sociological interpretations. We should first realise that the power of governments on demography is probably insignificant. For example, in China, the politic of “one child per family” was associated with a growing population; today while Chinese women are encouraged to have several children, it is difficult to correct the unexpected demographic collapse.
The real issue might be a declining “need to survive” among human beings. This basic need has two components: surviving as individuals and surviving through procreation. We cannot ignore the current declining need to survive as individuals when considering the dramatic increased prevalence of self-destructive behaviours (suicides, drug addiction, etc.). At the end of the twentieth century, valuable epidemiological studies have detected obstetrical interferences as risk factors for self-destructive behaviours (Jacobson B, Nyberg K, Lipsitt LP, Salk L) . Today we need similar studies about the other facet of the need to survive.
What is the future of the human species if there is a sudden and profound decline in the need to survive through procreation?

CHEAT SHEET FOR PARTNERSBreastfeeding SupportThis is a brief list of ways to make a big difference for the woman who isb...
10/15/2024

CHEAT SHEET FOR PARTNERS
Breastfeeding Support
This is a brief list of ways to make a big difference for the woman who is
breast feeding. Do one, some, or all, everything matters.
1. When the breast comes out, you run to get a big glass of something for
her to drink. (Trust me, the minute the baby latches on, her throat will go
dry).
2. Find (or buy) a low foot stool for her. (Rubbermaid makes a good one and
Ikea has a cheap, functional one). Putting her feet on a stool brings baby up
to the breast so she doesn’t have to hunch forward.
3. Watch her shoulders, if they are hunched forward, she’s not relaxed. Find
some pillows to bring baby up higher or support her arms. She’ll forget
about this so you keep on top of it.
4. Tell her what you authentically appreciate about her feeding the baby.
E.g., Thank you for all you do to make our baby healthy. You look so
beautiful when you’re feeding the baby., etc. etc.
5. Put a snack beside her, she needs extra calories to produce milk. A plate
of sliced apples, toast with almond butter, cheese and crackers, etc.
6. While she’s feeding, scan the environment she’s looking at. When she’s sitting, you’re moving. Empty the trash, clear the clutter, mop the dust bunnies, water the plants.
7. Give her a shoulder massage.
The partner being an active participant in the breast-feeding support can
strengthen the family. Please add your ideas in the comments section.
A partner who actively works to make the breast feeding go smoothly is a
treasure.
Gloria Lemay

Tips and tricks for the natural birth of a pokey placenta.  I have a rule when at a birth.  "No one can mention the plac...
10/07/2024

Tips and tricks for the natural birth of a pokey placenta. I have a rule when at a birth. "No one can mention the placenta or say the word placenta in the first 30 minutes after the birth. If they do say the "p" word, the other birth assistants will pinch the speaker's bum hard enough to leave a bruise.
Most placentas are ready to be pushed out at the 30 minute mark after the birth. Then, there are some that need an hour. Then, there are some that take even longer AND they all come out. There are some tricks that
can be used to coax the placenta out that don't involve any pharmaceuticals. E.G.
1. Get the woman up to the toilet and let her be private in there. It will probably just fall in the toilet.
2. Remind the woman that it doesn't hurt to push the placenta out. There are no bones in it. It just feels like
a soggy tampon coming out.
3. Put some pepper near her nose and the sneezing will make the placenta come out.
4. The woman can blow into a narrow necked bottle.
5. She can insert her fingers into her va**na and see if she can feel the placenta. If she can, she can be encouraged to pull on the umbilical cord while sitting on the toilet or a birth stool or even in her bed. She won't use too much force if she does it herself.
6. One of the most novel methods I heard happened up in the far north of Canada. A young (17 y.o.) woman gave birth in a clinic. Her elderly grand mother was with her through the birth. The midwives waited for a time for the placenta but, then, decided to go to the pharmacy for an injection of Pitocin. The old grandmother didn't speak English so she asked her grand daughter "Where did those 2 go?" The grand daughter explained what was going on. The old grandmother stood up, shoved 2 fingers to the back of the young woman's throat. She gagged and the placenta was out before the midwives could get back." by Gloria Lemay

A beautiful acknowledgement to a doula.  This was a comment on one of my FB posts from Rosie Siebenthal.  Quote:  "YES. ...
10/07/2024

A beautiful acknowledgement to a doula. This was a comment on one of my FB posts from Rosie Siebenthal.
Quote: "YES. My doula provided me w/ strength just from her very presence in my hostile birthing space with my daughter (4th hospital birth, 1st vbac (with J scar). She gave me confidence (taking the cords out of the machine and handing them to me so I could wee lol when the nurse said she'd be back in 20 mins and never came back and I had to use the rest room...always striving to be "the good little patient" in the past I would have never done that on my own - and showed me in that moment I was in fact in charge of my own birth)...then she brought me water and kept my cup full. With 15 minutes left to go I had got bullied by the on call OB while my body started to push my baby girl out. I was able to argue birth rupture stats/numbers b/c my doula was by my side on MY team and I knew she was there. She not only agreed w/ me but believed IN me she stayed close, offered her hand for me to squeeze the living daylights out of (lol), and then simply offered in a quiet whisper "YES, you CAN" when I whispered quietly and privately really (b/c that pompous know it all jerk OB who just bullied and belittled me for having the audacity for going for a vbac with my J scar was standing there watching me w/ his arms crossed and his lips pursed, face red w/ anger b/c I quoted correct rupture stats to combat his fear mongering techniques), "I can't push her out." (Transition). I had to whisper my fear b/c I was afraid in that moment that OB might have some superpower and be able to wheel that bed right to the OR w/out my consent somehow so I couldn't even properly vocalize my deepest in the moment fear as my body was trying to birth my baby girl. My doula was there, she heard me, validated my feelings by squeezing my thumb, and then set me straight all in one momemnt w/ her own strength, helping me find mine in the moment I needed it most. It was all I needed, those three little words to do what I needed to do. My baby girl was born a few minutes later...all natural vbac with J scar in the midst of complete unnecessary chaos created out of fear. My doula did nothing but help me help myself when I needed to do so the most. She never said a word to anyone on staff or my midwife. She only spoke to my hubby, photographer, or me. After the birth when the nurse was trying to coerce me into doing things (IV fluids after birth b/c she had forgotten to give me an IV during labor - hehe) and issues w/ placenta etc. etc. my doula was a support by just sitting there helping me reiterate what I preferred and was and was not comfortable with...more of a sounding board in front of the nurse, never speaking to the nurse directly. She was worth every single penny my hubby and I had to dig deep to pay her. So thankful for her. My next birth happened in my own home in my tub for obvious reasons, lol." end of quoted material, thanks Rosie.

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Interventions in birth“The first intervention in natural childbirth is the one that a healthy woman does herself when s...
10/03/2024

Interventions in birth

“The first intervention in natural childbirth is the one that a healthy woman does herself

 when she walks out the front door of her own home in labor.”

Michael Rosenthal, OB/GYN

This quote is an attention grabber and one that should set us all to thinking. We know about the “cascade of interventions”

that sends most North American births down a tunnel of medical mishaps strip membranes, Pitocin gel induction, continuous

fetal heart monitoring, pain medications, distress in the infant, cesarean, post-surgical infection, breastfeeding problems,

postpartum depression, etc., etc., etc. Iatrogenic meddlesomeness at its most blatant is easy to spot and condemn.

We like to shake our heads, point our fingers and tut-tut-tut about this type of intervention.

But what of the interventions that we don’t see, the ones we are guilty of ourselves? The Oxford dictionary defines

intervene: “to interfere, modify course or result of events.” Something that seems as small as turning on a light

could be classified as “an intervention.” Is it an intervention to wear perfume to a birth? To monitor the heartbeat

of the baby every half-hour? To leave a clock within the mother’s view? To watch the mother? To speak to the mother?

To ask her to take a walk outside? To tell her husband to get in the water tub with her? Do midwives take any time at all

to ask themselves these questions?

What would “the course of events” be like if we weren’t there? How could we possibly know?

Recently I came into possession of an amazing video. This video is the raw home movie footage of the births

that are shown in the unassisted birth film A Clear Road to Birth. There is no attendant present at the births.

The families have, for the most part, just put the video camera on a tripod and let it run. The result is an amazing view

into a place that I have never been privileged to enter–a birth that follows the natural course of events.

I found it difficult to watch because it is so very intimate, and I wasn’t sure that they’d want me to ogle

their beautiful, private family moments. It is a sacred film. I came away from it with questions about how my presence at

a birth affects the behavior of all the participants. The women on this film are not asking, “How much longer will it be?”

They are not saying, “I can’t do it anymore.” There is no illusion or possibility of some other woman “saving” them.

They are going to do it themselves, and they seem to have an inner core of resolve about it. Their husbands and children

mostly seem “surprised” that the baby is really there. This is unlike births where there is an “expert” present,

and the waiting and watching seem to go on forever.

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This film of unattended births leads me to question, “What about women who have unassisted prenatal care?”

We are told that prenatal care is essential. We believe it is a cornerstone of good maternal/natal health.

But is this true? Are there interventions that take place in childbirth classes that are subtle and affect

the course of events? If we think of the spoken word as “an intervention,” we must wonder if we are causing changes

in the course of the birth long before the membranes release. I cringe at some of the “meddlesome midwifery messages”

that women are given at prenatal checkups. Messages can be imparted both verbally and nonverbally. I remember when I

took prenatal classes 25 years ago, the nurse managed to impart the message that she didn’t approve of breastfeeding

with just the look on her face when she said, “How many of you are planning to breastfeed?” Her attitude changed the

course of events for a lot of the women in that class. It was absolutely an intervention.

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I have learned a lot about how to question my own interference in birth from listening to Michel Odent. His message is

repeated over and over: “The most important thing is do not disturb the birthing mother.” What does a nice midwife do that

would disturb? Several years ago, I went to a birth as assistant to the midwife. I was assigned to take a video of the

birth and so I familiarized myself with the family’s camera and began to do a little filming of the mother while she

was in the water tub. I was getting some nice footage when, all of a sudden, the room went completely black, and I couldn’t

get an image in the camera. I looked up to see what had happened: the brother-in-law of the birthing mother had turned

out the lights. I went over and turned them back on so I could get on with filming and, presently, the man came back and

turned them out again! I was very annoyed and, in that moment, I realized that he was right! He was more in tune with

what his sister-in-law needed than I was. Birth seems to flow best for human beings in the same conditions as most other

mammals. Darkness, familiar smells, privacy and quiet are the main ingredients for a smooth birth.

Who in North America can give these simple things to a birthing mother? Are we willing to trade monitoring and charting

for births that truly flow along smoothly? Are we willing to sit, out of view of the woman, completely still while she

focuses inward and makes her own journey to meeting her child? Can we forgo the acknowledgement and appreciation for

all we “do” and be deeply satisfied with “being” unobtrusive?

… I believe that the “3 Ps” of obstetrics should be “patience, patience, patience” and not “passage, passenger and powers.”

I am fond of the Buddhist words from The Tao of Leadership:

Being a Midwife

Remember that you are facilitating another person’s process. It is not your process. Do not intrude. Do not control.

Do not force your own needs and insights into the foreground. If you do not trust a person’s process, that person will not

trust you. Imagine that you are a midwife; you are assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss.

Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, lead so that

the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the baby is born, the mother will rightly say: “We did it ourselves!”

–The Tao of Leadership by John Heider

This is an exerpt from an article originally published in Midwifery Today (22 September 2002).

Through the magic of FB memories, I getto remember conversations I had with my birth partner, Jessica Austin, before she...
09/28/2024

Through the magic of FB memories, I get
to remember conversations I had with my birth partner, Jessica Austin, before she died of breast cancer. This is one of her posts:
Quote: Jessica Austin 2016
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The most most important lesson my teacher and friend Gloria Lemay has ever taught me (and continues to teach me) is “One Birth”. There is only ever the birth happening in front of me to give my absolute best to. I can’t do two births at once, I can’t drag my last birth’s baggage into this current one, and there are no future births. There is no sacrificing the birth before me for the hypothetical benefit of some mythical future birth. There’s no doing good “enough” or compromising anything, major or seemingly subtle, blatant or insidious, about the birth before me for any reason. There is only ever ONE birth, and it’s whichever birth I am at right now. This is a lesson that requires constant practice and constantly opening my eyes to the ways I can improve on it in my work. And it’s the most important lesson there is. " end of quote.
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09/26/2024

Quotes to remember as you work to protect women and babies in birth. Dr. Dermot W. McDonald of the National Maternity Hospital in Dublin, Ireland suggested that the medicolegal pressure to perform a cesarean may abate only when mothers begin suing physicians for assault, alleging that they were not given fully informed consent…

“’If one went to the extreme of giving the patient the full details of mortality and morbidity related to cesarean section, most of them would get
up and go out and have their baby under a tree,’ [Dr. McDonald] said.”
[Neel J. Medicolegal pressure, MDs’ lack of patience cited in cesarean
‘epidemic.’ Ob.Gyn. News Vol 22 No 10]



Irish physician McDonald’s remarks accord with the 1990 findings of British research statistician Marjorie Tew who concluded that the British maternity system is run by obstetricians who “withhold and pervert knowledge in order to maintain public ignorance and delusion.” [Tew M. Safer Childbirth? A critical history of maternity care. London: Chapman and Hall, 1990.]

Poem for those who are waiting for a baby.WaitingDear Baby, here beneath my heart,I thought that you might come today;Th...
09/19/2024

Poem for those who are waiting for a baby.
Waiting
Dear Baby, here beneath my heart,
I thought that you might come today;
The timing seemed just right.
But the stars are out
And the moon is high
And sheepishly I wonder why
I try to arrange the plans
Of God.
For now I know
You will not come
Until the One who holds eternity
Rustles your soft cocoon
And whispers in tones that I will not hear,
“It’s time, precious gift.”
“Now it’s time.”
-by Robin Jones Gunn. Thanks to Lara Nabours for passing this poem on

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