01/27/2021
Yes there are exceptions. Yes there are dogs who have genetic or early development issues. But these are the outliers. Over and over, the same issue is at the core of almost every client we work with and every dog who is struggling...
Humans who are unable to be firm, strong, tough with their dogs when needed. This creates a vacuum that the dog will fill with whatever suits them. Name the behavior issue, and almost every time you can trace it back to an overly-soft human/dog dynamic which invites poor behavior and does nothing to truly prevent or stop it.
Dogs will happily take advantage of you, if you’re available for the taking. If you don’t believe this, or aren’t aware of it, it’s high time you looked closely and honestly at your dog. That said, you CAN have a fun, playful, super affectionate life together—but it comes with a price. That price is balance. You don’t get the good stuff without doing the hard stuff. That’s called being delusional and selfish.
If you’re struggling with your dog, ask yourself if you’re a truly strong, firm, tough leader when needed. Ask yourself if your dog is keenly aware of the social hierarchy between them and you. Ask yourself if your dog knows consequences—both the pleasurable and the not-pleasurable—come from you. Ask yourself if your dog views you as something to have a healthy fear of if they were to engage in unwanted behavior.
No one wants to be the heavy. I get it. I’ve been there. But life, and your dog, doesn’t much care about your wants—it and they simply do their thing. You can dislike this reality all you want, but it won’t help you and your dog have the life you truly want.