08/22/2025
Truth, being a parent means you have to make decisions that children aren't happy about, being a dog owner means you have to take responsibility for the training that's required and become that owner,,we all face consequences for our actions, be the leader your dog will love.
Often the thing your dog needs most from you is the thing your trainer is least able to “give”. All the technique, coaching, and cheering on in the world won’t cause a strong-minded, misbehaving dog to take a pushover of a human seriously.
This is your real work. Comparatively, the rest is cake.
PS, for all those eager to interject that they CAN coach/guide/make someone into something they’re not prepared/motivated/eager to become, you’re fooling yourself. You can’t make someone into anything they’re not ready to become—that’s not debatable. If someone changes with your help, then they at some point decided they wanted to change. Could you help that shift? Of course. The point here is that unless someone is truly ready to shift, all the great stuff you share won’t open the door—owners have to be ready, motivated, hungry. And that’s their work. You can present the possibilities and show the path, but like any healthy relationship, you can’t *make* someone change or want it more than they do, you can only show the possibilities and allow the person to be a self-responsible adult.