01/28/2025
Earned Confidence vs. Fake Confidence in Dogs
Dogs are incredible creatures and can be incredibly difficult to understand for the average dog owner. As dog trainers, it’s essential to understand what drives these behaviors, especially when it comes to reactivity and aggression. One of the most common issues we see in reactive dogs is what we call "fake confidence."
What Is Fake Confidence?
Fake confidence in dogs is essentially a false sense of power or control over situations. It often develops because the dog hasn’t had to truly confront conflict in a meaningful way. Instead, they’ve learned to bluff their way out of uncomfortable situations. Here are some common examples:
The Delivery Driver Scenario: Your dog barks and growls at the door when the delivery driver arrives. From the dog’s perspective, the driver leaving after dropping off the package feels like a victory. They think, "I scared them off!"
The Car Defender: When your dog is in the back of the car and barks or growls at passersby, they’re creating a barrier of sound. The person walking away reinforces their belief that they’re powerful.
The Fence Fighter: Dogs who bark, growl, and lunge at the fence often perceive themselves as the victor when the other dog or person doesn’t engage further. Again, this reinforces the idea that their bluster is effective.
In all these situations, the dog doesn’t experience a real challenge or consequence. Their confidence isn’t earned through genuine interaction but instead built on a pattern of perceived victories in controlled or artificial environments.
What Is Earned Confidence?
Earned confidence is entirely different. It’s the type of confidence a dog develops when they face real-world situations and learn to navigate them effectively. These dogs understand what it means to resolve conflict, whether through appropriate social behavior or genetic predisposition.
The Confident Dog Spectrum
Genetically Balanced Confidence: These dogs are naturally confident but not reckless. They’ve had exposure to various situations and learned how to respond calmly and appropriately. They don’t feel the need to lash out because they’re secure in themselves.
Genetically Emboldened Dogs: Some dogs are born with a higher-than-average level of confidence. When they experience conflict and "win" (e.g., the other dog or person retreats), it further emboldens them. This can lead to increased reactivity if not managed carefully.
Genetically Extreme Confidence: A small percentage of dogs, perhaps 5%, are so genetically predisposed to fight or dominate that they can cause significant harm in their very first encounter. These are dogs with incredibly strong drive and intensity—a combination that requires experienced handling and training.
Why It Matters
Understanding the difference between fake and earned confidence is crucial for addressing reactivity in dogs. Dogs with fake confidence can often be rehabilitated by exposing them to controlled, real-world scenarios where they learn appropriate behavior. For dogs with earned confidence, the goal is to channel their natural traits in a safe and constructive way.
At Mango Dogs, our focus is on giving dogs the tools they need to thrive, no matter where they fall on the confidence spectrum. Whether your dog is bluffing their way through situations or is genetically predisposed to take charge, we can help.
Free Evaluation: Start Your Dog’s Journey Today
If your dog is showing signs of reactivity, aggression, or overconfidence, don’t wait until the problem escalates. Mango Dogs offers a free evaluation to assess your dog’s behavior and develop a tailored training plan.
Transforming the lives of thousands of dogs + owners since 2009.
