
03/20/2025
As many are familiar with myself and WREN, a large part of our discussion is how horses aren’t equipment. They aren’t hockey gear you wash and put away, dance shoes that neatly (or untidily) sit in their place, or any other inanimate objects used in other sports. They are your teammates, they need care, compassion, forgiveness, and MANY hours of rest.
I firmly believe in my lesson horses having excellent standards of living, and sometimes that means putting riding lessons second. Sometimes that means missing a competition, and for all my students that means learning to care for the living individual they are interacting with.
I ran a lesson program years ago, and got really burned out. My horses did too.
I did a lot of things wrong and I am trying to learn from those now -
A big part of what went wrong was not controlling the general attitude people took to riding and horses. The horses became a vehicle for people, or a tool, and as tools are used, they become used up. As horses respond to the poor feel they are offered, students describe these objections as the horses personality - “hes so stubborn, so ornery!” And so on - and this is how the cycle of poor feel, over aiding, and handling horses like a rock deepens, and continues.
Of course there will always be some “taking from” a horse we all do when learning how to post, how to steer, or how to manage problem solving issues. Mistakes will be made, horses will be bumped, thumped or accidentally pulled.
But the attitude makes up for a lot I believe. If the school insists on the general spirit being not just riding but riding even the school horse with feel, Handling the gentle horse with respect and tact, assuming nothing about their tolerance and being fair and smooth in our handling, that goes a very very long way.
Horsemanship is the art of managing the horse: from haltering to picking hooves to feeding to good riding - not just to get those tasks done, but to get them done in a way that can make a horse feel safe, feel good, feel honored. And even if an amateur makes mistakes here, the intention matters.
Slow down, pay attention, do all things with care and respect. Acknowledge your mistakes but don’t beat yourself up about them. Acknowledge when you get something right, you’ve made a horse feel better, move better, live better. That’s something to be proud of, and take back into the world away from the school.
That’s what riding schools should be teaching - and I believe if we could manage that, if we could insist on that, school horses and instructors both would last a lot longer.
Pictured is Tressa Boulden from Traditions Farm Classical Dressage explaining how to guide the horse with the whole body