04/09/2025
Honesty.
We are Canadian: This means we are nice, and by we, I don't mean me. I'm a Brit. I find nice annoying.
How does this relate to dog training? A lot of my students train together and became friends: As relationships develop, frank and uncomfortable training conversations stop.
How do I know. This week I'm training with a friend that I haven't trained closely with in three years. Back then, information was free- flowing and honest, and in the moment.
Now information is guarded. delayed and philosophical once my dog was in the car. Who cares once my dog is in the car. The moment is over. Learning is done. Any information now just festers in my head and gets me focused on things I do not have, and now cannot fix.
If you are helping someone training their dog, you must give instant feedback. If you are clumsy with words, and unsure of what you see, commit. You can say 'It's better! That's accurate enough.
My training partners are not only allowed to be honest, but are required to be so. It is your job to tell me if I look stupid. Don't let me go in the ring in front of an audience and look daft because you didn't want to hurt my feelings.
Friendships are very valuable. Treasure them. The best way to do that is to be the friend that warns you that you have a giant chunk of pepper in your teeth. Or takes a photo of you in your beige pants to show you the camel-toe that you were unaware of.
Happy training everyone.
I miss you Sheila.
Monique Anstee
Author of As a Dog Thinketh and Lift Your Leg- the podcast.