09/14/2025
đžGreat info from Michelle Stern - her website is in the comment section
âHere are SEVEN unfiltered lessons from coaching families raising kids and dogs together in 2025.
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1. Supervision Isnât Optional â Itâs the Whole Job
Parents often think they can âteach the dogâ or âteach the toddlerâ enough to leave them alone together. Thatâs a dangerous myth. Kids donât have the judgment, and dogs shouldnât be set up to fail. True supervision means eyes-on, ready-to-intervene, every time.
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2. Baby Gates Arenât Bandaids â Theyâre Lifelines
Many parents feel guilty about âblocking off the dogâ as if it means theyâre failing. But separation tools like gates, pens, and crates are how families prevent accidents. Keeping your dog and your baby safe is not a training shortcut â itâs smart parenting. A gate isnât a failure, itâs a seatbelt.
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3. Your Dog Didnât Sign Up for Parenthood
When the baby comes home, the dogâs world shifts overnight. Less attention, more noise, unpredictable routines. Expecting your dog to instantly love the baby is unfair. Your dog deserves patience, management, and proactive support, not punishment for struggling.
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4. Parents Often Worry About the Wrong Things
Most parents ask me about jealousy â âWill my dog be jealous of the baby?â But jealousy isnât the problem. Overstimulation, fear, stress, and lack of escape routes are the real dangers. Focusing on âjealousyâ distracts from what actually keeps kids safe.
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5. Kids Are Wildcards, and Thatâs Okay
You can train your dog perfectly, but toddlers still toddle. They scream, grab, wobble, fall, and break rules. Dogs experience this as chaos. Your job isnât to make your child âperfectly gentleâ â itâs to buffer the dog from normal child behavior.
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6. Bites Rarely Come Out of the Blue
Most dogs give plenty of warning before they bite: lip-licking, yawning, walking away, stiffening, growling. Parents often miss or dismiss these signs. If you only react once the dog snaps, youâve ignored the whole story they were trying to tell you.
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7. Good Parenting Means Managing Both Species
Raising kids and dogs together isnât about being the perfect trainer or the perfect parent. Itâs about recognizing that you are responsible for both species. The safest homes are the ones where parents admit: âI canât do it all, all the timeâ â and then use tools, structure, and support to make life easier.â
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