06/12/2022
Same goes for dogs...and all nature really. Beautifully said.
When we talk about building confidence with a horse, we must realize that we bring at least fifty percent to this equation. We people tend to forget that.
Less confident riders require a horse who is willing to meet them more than half way. It takes a particular sort of horse who is calmly capable of filling in a rider's gaps, without taking advantage of unclear leadership.
Less confident horses require a rider who is able to meet them more than half way. Yes, the slight change in wording here is on purpose. Many a horse(wo)man would perhaps like to be braver but simply cannot!
Will an unsuitable horse 'make you a better rider'? He well might. That is, if he doesn't hurt you, first.
When we explain that our horse is spooky, or nervous, very often weāre saying that we, ourselves, are feeling unsure or afraid. Like a virus, the fear thing is easily spread. We must either put more training into the horse and also into ourselvesā¦ make the heavy promise that this horse will never be put into a position where he cannot cope with usā¦ or allow the horse to go on to someone who can offer the stability of grounded courage.
I realize that saying these words aloud is heresy to some of you.
In this era of insisting upon āforever homesā for all horses, the altruism of finding them their best matchāshould we not be the oneāis something I urge you to think about. Without guilt, without beating yourself up, without fear of judgment from others. Forever ownership is not always the kindest or most loving option.
When a worried horse is held in tense or frightened hands, forever is a very long time. When the partnership is right and balanced, howeverāas so beautifully portrayed by my friends Tammy and CBāforever is not long enough.