08/26/2024
From Suzanne Clothier.
"Today's Dog Training Myth of the Day: "Only tell them once!"
What if you ask a dog (whatever age, breed, s*x, background, training level) to do something, but there is no response?
Set aside the myth of "only tell them once." Good rule of thumb: if it were a toddler, what would you do? Probably wait a few beats, be sure you had the kid's attention, then ask again.
Just like us, dogs may not be tuned in 100% because they are busy having their own experience of life which may or may not include you at any moment.
If you *do* have the pup's attention, and they did hear you, next step is to consider that they do not understand and/or don't see the point!
I've often asked clients to stand on a chair and sing happy birthday. I've done it while they were trying to take notes. Result: no compliance, and they say usually say, "Sorry - I was focused on taking notes. What did you say?"
If they are paying attention to me but look at me as if I'm crazy, I ask, "Did you understand what I asked? You did? So why aren't you doing it?" Inevitably the answer is, "I don't want to" or "Why would I do that?" It helped them understand how their dogs might be responding.
So give your dogs the courtesy of clear communication, engage attention first, be sure there is understanding, and make it worthwhile for the dog to work with you. Respect, courtesy and taking responsibility for what we are communicating and how we are communicating -- those are all supportive of healthy dog/human relationships.
This does not mean repeating, Sit-sit-sit-sit-sit-sit which is not good communication no matter who you're talking to! đ
If you want and need response to just one request (and this has great value!), you first have to teach understanding, understand that connection and attention must come first always, then develop the skill, tighten the criteria and make it worthwhile. Then practice!!!"