First touch after 11 years only touched by the owner while feeding him.
Coolio fiest touch.
Most important he made the last step and took the decision to touch my hand. That was the most important decision for Coolio, the eleven years old stallion that was closely to be killed because of his untamed nature and from the human view “violent” behavior. When the veterinary office called me to help in this hopeless case I didn’t expect to meet such a courageous, sensible and open horse. The way this horse opened up after a whole life closed inside himself has no example. Still proud of him.
Another thing which is vital in a good dialogue - a thing I struggle a lot with because of my fear to be abandoned - is to let the other express himself the way he or she is. Don needs the feeling that he’s total free to run away and come back without negative feelings. I needed to learn to trust his coming back, he’s a horse that deeply needs to feel his free will and at the same time he’s teaching my inner child that it will be never abandoned. He’s training it, because he feels that there are issues inside of me with this topic. Since some time I try to trust him always that he’s coming back. Not because I trained him to do so, but out of his free will. Because he wants to. That makes a huge difference in a relationship, but that means too: you have to fully accept the other within her or his otherness - even though I’d wish he’d stay, I accept he needs to run away even because of me being his dialogue partner. He might can’t stand my strong, often not resolved, highly intense energy, how could I dare to punish him for that, would be punishing also myself. What a great feeling every time he comes back. And if not, it’s fine too, he just needs something else in that very moment for himself. #relationalmovement #sandrahauser #donorèo #horsewomanship #horse #human #dialogue #thelettinggo #klausferdinandhempfling
Here you can perfectly see what I mean with “relational movement” It’s a constant dialogue. Don communicating very precise, while I could improve still the time of reaction and my quasi not existing trust! Sharing this video, because you also can perfectly see, what I mean with “negotiation“ We’re negotiating - since two and a half years - our rank hierarchy. A dialogue has not to be „perfect“ but it needs the deep fundamental consensus and will to understand the other, regardless how different the languages are. This is what most horse owners are not willing to do: to listen and learn the language of their horses. Often they are angry because the horse is not answering adequately…but if the question was in the wrong language or even more if there was no question at all…how should a horse respond? November 2022 #relationalmovement #sandrahauser #donorèo #horse #horsewomanship #art #trust #klausferdinandhempfling
To fully accept how violent, anchorless and cruel my past is it’s the most difficult task I have till now. To look at it, to feel it in its full dimensions and to trust that it won’t destroy me accepting it for what it is. To show it and to stand with it. To be angry at the right persons, the perpetrators and not the ones that follow you down your path is immense. I was a lot times angry at Don, because it seems that he attacks when galloping fast towards me. But in reality he simply teaches me to feel my border and to communicate it in the right moment, not when it’s already too close or too late. It’s sometimes hard to not get angry at Don as he shows me in every second of our relationship with a pitiless love who I am. Without a filter. That’s love and thats not easy but authentic. Relational Movement #relationalmovement #sandrahauser #donorèo #horsewomanship #horse #human #dialogue #coaching #relationships
A relational movement is not always harmonic, but always with the intent to understand the other. Missunderstandings are just tools to spot not yet clear points. In classical horse training, a lot of expressions of a dominant horse are interpreted as “negative” or “against”. The jumps from Don and his layed back ears could be read in “human” language as aggressive, instead he is just figuring out how to accept me as a above position in hierarchy and his clear, demanding character teaches me to communicate beforehand where my border is. He’s perfectly respecting it, yet expressing himself with full freedom. Let them figuring it out just they do it in the herd. He’s just talking to me, we are in a negotiation whose the one that leads our herd. No negativity in here! As he was mistreated by incompetent humans he learned to fight, so he needs the feeling to be able to express himself his fully forth and dimension! #relationalmovement #sandrahauser #donorèo #horse #human #training #klausferdinandhempfling #horsewomanship
.. 11 years untouched versus 7 hours of training with the right language & heart …
That’s Coolio. He has been 11 years untouched, only by his owner he would let him feed, but nothing more.
As it was necessary to move him to another stable, and nobody was able to catch him, the veterinary office was thinking about letting him be killed …
Except one very intellegent person, that put me into contact with his owner! The owner was willing to invest one last time in him.
She did so well! Coolio is a magnificent horse. Trustful, courageous and strong in his mind.
He just forgot over all this years nobody spoke his language who he was. There we go, he’s projecting himself into his new future ❤️🔥
I will tell you his whole story next weeks!
Relational Movement is a way to be one with each other, in continuous flow with the changing and developing relationship.
