28/11/2025
Are you SURE your horse ' prefers' a stronger bit?
This is a statement that raises questions for me.
If someone tells me their horse ' prefers a stronger bit' or ' prefers a bit to bitless', I ask how they measure what their horse prefers.
Every single time I ask that question the reply is the same, with some variance in language.
' He/She goes better with it'
Or
' he/she argues less in a stronger bit'
Obedience is not a metric for preference. A horse being more responsive and obedient to something which inflicts more pain is to be expected. The trouble is, it also increases their anxiety.
When people come to me for help, they are very often dealing with an anxious horse. Very often, that anxious horse is ' going better' in a stronger bit.
I think we need to be clearer about what we actually mean she we say 'stronger'. Stronger means capable of inflicting more pain. That isn't my opinion, it is the actual meaning of the term stronger. When we strip away he candy coating.
For a prey animal to have the threat of pain in the most sensitive part of their body, they will be in a heightened state of anxiety.
They will be obedient, in the hopes of avoiding that pain, but it doesn't take much of an outside stressor to tip them over threshold. Once they tip to an adrenaline response all your ' control', which is really just an illusion of control, is gone.
You know how we read stories of 60kg Mom's lifting 2 ton cars to save babies, because of an adrenaline response? Imagine what a 600kg animal can run through in that state.
I know the adrenaline mom stories are often tabloid exaggerations, but adrenaline responses do push us past pain thresholds and make us capable of incredible physicality.
A horse in that state would take the risk of damage to their mouth and tongue, and your obedience runs out.
I, personally, would prefer calm communication and connection over obedience.
Obedience runs out when there is something scarier than whoever they are obedient to.
Connection is infinite.