30/08/2024
Rachel's journey with Panther. It's such an honest post. Have a read, guys.
They say it takes 3 months for a dog to settle in to a new environment.
Having had Panther for coming up to that now I figured I would explain how it’s been for us. I already had some back story and a heads up it may be challenging with her, but I wouldn’t say it’s been all that much different than any experience with any new dog, puppy or rehome. I think there’s all the same challenges, they just show up a little different
Similar to the 3x3x3 advice I’ve split it into three areas. These areas would have different lengths of time and severity depending on the individual I would guess
1 - “the false dog” this first dog is not the same one as the one at the end of the three months 😀 it is a facade of who they are. For us, it was the “perfect dog”. I almost didn’t know I had her. This lasted about two weeks for us. This is common in new dogs and not to be assumed that is the dogs actual personality! During this time we had a real hands off approach and just allowed her to quietly find her feet and learn. Her entire life was changed one random day and she had no idea who we were, where she is, where she’ll be tomorrow, where she sleeps,eats etc. it’s a huge trauma. So we did our best to help her adjust at her own pace, but never assuming her personality through that time was her
2 - “the conflicted dog” this is the second phase, and this is the tricky one. The one where the dog has found it feet enough to express itself and not always positively. They may start to be reactive, not sleep perfectly, show signs of separation issues, change the dynamics within the household, become more confident/reactive on walks etc. behaviours that weren’t there at the beginning are starting to surface. They may also show their personality more, and you get a better glimpse into the actual dog.
This stage is very much inconsistent in terms of behaviour; 2 good days, a bad day, a quiet day, an overtired day…
I would definitely say this part is hard, and you again have to appreciate that this is just all such a big switch, keep working away, being sympathetic but also setting the criteria for the new house
3 - “the real dog” this is a slow progression throughout. But coming towards the three month mark now I can see how this one has developed
Neither of the first two dogs she was were her. That perfect dog at the beginning was a total lack of expression, the second one was a total conflict in her head. Now she knows she’ll be here tomorrow. She knows she’s fed, loved and kept safe. She knows and understands the other dogs in the household and knows what’s expected of her. She can jump on the sofa. She can’t jump on top of the oven.
I have no idea what her previous rules have been, and we never knew each other until we moved in together so it’s been a real compromise in some ways. Kennel life has pros and cons, but it’s so hard to assess a dog for home life through a kennel lens. I’ve had to be patient with her in some aspects and she’s had to do the same. I’ve learned when I can push her, and I’ve learned when i can’t. We have areas that we have worked really hard on in our relationship, and others where we will deal with it later.
Now to be honest. It’s been hard, like, really hard. It’s been hours and hours and hours of work in and out of the house. Stress, feeling like a failure. Feeling like I’m on my own and not good enough. Wondering if she’s happy, everytime she’s not perfect over analysing and worrying I’ve done something wrong. Constantly looking at others and feeling like she’s not progressing fast enough. Having leaps forward in progress followed by days of set backs. I’ll be honest, I can see why so many adolescent Malinois are just stacked up in rescues and kennels. They’re HARD WORK. And when there’s a set back it’s a big one, it’s not just a chewed cushion or an accident in the house.
It’s a huge responsibility to take on a dog, whether a puppy or an adult. But if you do your research, expect these highs and lows, expect the work and the commitment, I can promise you it’s worth it in the end ☺️
People often come to my puppy classes and assume it’s 6 weeks of work to train a dog, but my goodness it’s so much more, so you’ve got to enjoy the journey!!!