21/03/2025
We might be unsure, worry or have been told that comforting our dog when they are anxious or frightened we could reinforce their fear or be rewarding them.
However, imagine if something has scared you, feeling afraid, and your friend just ignored you or told you shouldn’t feel that way, we might find that odd, possibly up end feeling worse, feeling alone, and not trust that friend, maybe reconsider how long you might keep that "friend" around.
For us, when Murphy has been frightened by a noise, he was not interested in anything else, except needing to feel safe, and I offer him the same support and security as I would my human friend or my child.
It’s ok to acknowledge our dog’s emotions, creating a safe space to allow them to process how they’re feeling, offering our support by reassuring them, for them to feel less alone in their fear.
Depending on an individual dog, they may feel comfort from you sitting in the same room, speaking in a calm voice, allowing them to choose what safety they are seeking, sometimes just being present in the moment is all they need.
Our dogs may not always want to be touched, but creating an environment where they feel safe, supported and secure is the most important thing we can offer, so it’s ok to comfort your dog when they feel frightened, just the same as you would want your friend to comfort you.