17/06/2025
🐾 ❤️ LOVE. IT ISN’T ALWAYS EASY ❤️🐾
Some dogs bring light and ease into your life 🥰
That’s Lochy. At 2 years old, she’s sunshine in dog form. Confident, happy, and balanced. She pretty much skips along on walks, greets her favourite people with joy, reads other dogs well (most of the time) and can coax even the less confident dogs into play.
She climbs all over you, snuggles in, rests her face against yours in a bid to be as close as she possibly can. All the while wiggling & her tail wagging. She’s a joy to be around, creates smiles & makes it easy to relax and just be.
And then there’s Sam ❤️
Sam is a different kind of gift. And I love him all the more deeply for it. But living with him is a complex, more thoughtful journey.
Every interaction is layered with awareness—of his boundaries, his comfort, his safety.
I employ the five-second rule whenever physically interacting him, pausing frequently to let him decide if he wants to continue. When he was younger, he would ask for touch, but could quickly become conflicted by the closeness of the encounter; a conflicted Sam isn’t a dog you want to be in close proximity with 😔
Some days he’s happy to have his harness put on. Sometimes he isn’t.
One day he’ll decide that being towel dried is the best thing ever, the next he’ll warn you not to put the towel anywhere near him.
Sometimes he wants the biggest, most intense cuddles, he can’t get close enough to you & doesn’t want it to end. Until he does.
Walking with Sam means constantly scanning the environment. Are there people or dogs nearby? Does he have the space he needs to feel safe?
Lochy’s sunny nature highlights this contrast. With her, I can just be. With Sam, I’m always aware, watching his body language, highly attuned to any subtle changes.
But, although I wish (for his sake) that he found life easier, I wouldn’t change my journey either of them. ❤️❤️ I would go back to the day we said ‘yes’ to having Sam & say ‘yes’ again & again. Every time.
Sam has taught me patience, empathy, and a profound respect for his boundaries. He’s made me a better dog trainer, a better dog owner, and a better person. And although I sometimes wonder whether things could have been different for him if I’d known then what I know now…
Would he feel less conflicted?
Would I have been able to help him more?
I’ll never know.
What I do know is that loving a dog like Sam is its own kind of joy.
It’s quieter, harder, but all the more rewarding.
If you’re living with a dog who challenges you in ways you never imagined, you’re not alone. It’s OK to admit it’s hard sometimes. It doesn’t diminish the love you feel or the bond you share.
Our dogs don’t come to us by accident. They shape us, teach us, and change us. Whether they’re sunshine or stormy skies, they’re ours. And we wouldn’t have it any other way. 🐶❤️🐶❤️