
16/07/2025
This!!
🐕 FOREIGN RESCUES PART 7 …. FORGET THE “RULE OF 3”!!!
❓What even is the Rule of 3? You’re asking me to forget it and I don’t even know what it is…😂
⬇️ Have a look at this image. It says that if you are bringing home a new rescue, you should allow the dog 3 days to decompress/de-stress; 3 weeks to learn your routine; 3 months to feel completely comfortable in their new home. It is something that is widely cited on social media by other dog guardians who are trying to be helpful and it is often something said by rescue centres to new guardians as they prepare to take their new family member home.
🙄 Let me tell you now… when Behaviourists hear this they are, at the least, rolling their eyes and, at the most, throwing valuable devices out of windows. Somewhere in the middle there’s a lot of sighing and swearing. Why? Because this sets the most unrealistic expectations for new guardians.
🙈 Don’t get me wrong, I’m not bashing anyone here - this advice is only ever handed out with the very best of intentions - a plea to allow your new dog some time, to not rush them, to not expect too much to begin with. But it is just SO unhelpful. It often comes with a little disclaimer (like below) that says something like ‘every dog is unique and will adjust differently’ but if you are simultaneously handing out the mantra of 3 x 3 x 3, THAT is what the new guardians listen to - “I just need to stick it out for 3 months and then it will all be fine.”
😔 And then when it isn’t fine after three months, doubts start to set in. You haven’t got the dog you thought you were going to get. You’re not sure you can cope with this dog - it’s too hard, it’s inconvenient, they’re too disruptive, you can’t do the things you thought you’d be able to do etc etc. Thoughts start to creep in about rehoming the dog (or worse).
🐕 Now, I know we’ve been mainly talking about foreign rescues over the last few weeks and I’m sure that you can start to see why this Rule of 3 might be such an epic fail when it comes to these sensitive dogs (and if you want a GREAT example of why the Rule of 3 is such a huge bugbear of mine, stay tuned for my next post where I’ll be discussing a foreign rescue case study of mine), BUT BUT BUT I don’t just want to get rid of this rule for foreign rescues, I want to get rid of it full stop….
‼️ Even our UK rescues who may not have experienced the same type of trauma as our free-ranging/street dogs and instead came from a loving home and weren’t mistreated in any way, but have now found themselves a victim of circumstance - divorce, house move, death etc - they may still need more than 3 months! Their whole world has just been turned upside down. Everyone that they knew and loved has gone. Their home with all its familiar sounds and smells has gone. They might find this event alone traumatising. They move into their new home but they don’t know they’re safe. They don’t know that they can trust you. They don’t know that they’re not going to be moved again. They don’t know that the branch always taps against the window in the wind or that the pipes make weird noises. They don’t know that you are going to protect them, care for them and love them. They don’t know they’re in their new forever home.
🛑 You just can’t rush any of this stuff and if you take on a rescue with the idea in your head that in 3 months life will be hunky dory, you may well be sorely disappointed. Going slowly, at the dog’s pace, being guided by them is what works. They will tell you what they are comfortable with and what they’re not, what they can do and what they can’t - your job is just to listen to them and let them take their time - however long that may be. And, yes, there are cases where a dog has moved into their new home and slotted right in from the get-go as if they’ve always been there - amazing, fantastic. Does it mean we should dismiss letting them take it slowly? Nope. You are never going to do a dog harm by taking it slowly, keeping the pressure off, and your expectations low but you could do a whole load of damage by doing the opposite.
🔂 So, I repeat… FORGET THE RULE OF 3. It doesn’t help anyone.
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