15/07/2024
Two by two they came.
Recently, we welcomed “newbies” Rebus & Shamalak, Harvey & Tupsy, Sheldon & Timothy , Claude & Mathilda, Lily & Daisy and Mowgli & Titan. Cats who arrive in pairs or a clowder often appear to have developed a friendship between them that serves to support the individual cat, whatever their temperament and personality.
Rebus & Shamalak
These two older gentlemen came to stay with us for just 4 days. Although very different in character, there was always a wonderful feeling of calm when we visited Rebus’ and Shamalak’s pen. Rebus, a little reserved but not unfriendly, mostly preferred to keep himself to himself. He enjoyed his space on the top shelf in the bedroom. He took his time to develop enough trust in us to enjoy physical contact, but we got there! In contrast, Shamalak was extremely sociable and always came out to greet us. He loved physical contact and responded very affectionately with lots and lots of purring. But, after a good cuddle with us, Shamalak always returned to the bedroom to join Rebus back on the top shelf. Rebus and Shamalak will be returning for a longer holiday this time next year, and then they will be bringing their sister, Lady.
Harvey and Tupsy
These two quiet and unassuming little cats had not been in a cattery since they joined their new family from a rescue centre. So, we knew that the most important part of this stay for these two guys would be to realise that we were not yet another rescue centre, that their mum and dad had not abandoned them; that they would be collected and brought home again. Quietly confident, Harvey and Tupsy settled in very quickly. It was clear that these two little cats were used to relating to strangers, but initially it somehow felt as if it was in quite a superficial manner. -A little as we can imagine happens in a busy rescue centre, where the basics of feeding and cleaning litter trays and maybe a brief cuddle could be the extent of their contact with people. They didn’t expect more from us. However, as we spent time with them, we saw both boys “warm up” and begin to “invest” in their relationship with us. We were eventually treated to lots of affection, head rubs, twirling around our legs and purring. Harvey and Tupsy had brought their own rug from home, as well as a rather luxurious doughnut shaped tunnel. They proved fantastic tools to help make the boys feel at home, comfortable and safe.
Sheldon & Timothy
These two little cats were some of the very first guests to be booked in with us, shortly after we had started trading in the summer of 2023. -And they were well worth waiting for! They were the perfect guests, settling in quickly and showering us with love and affection. They were just so pleased to see us when we came to their pen, rushing towards us for strokes and cuddles ….. and treats of course! Timothy had this quirky habit of stretching out his paw and trying to pull us in towards him for attention. The atmosphere of these two cats’ pen was always joyful and so extremely loving. Although quite agile, Sheldon preferred to sleep in the igloo on the floor in the front pen, whilst Timothy usually hung out on the top shelf in the bedroom.
Daisy & Lily
These two wonderful, and again very different, little cats had never been to a cattery before. Because of Covid lock-down, and a number of other circumstances, neither cat was particularly used to strangers. -And Daisy in particularly was naturally extremely anxious and timid. Their mum had wisely decided to allow them to stay with us as a kind of trial run, for 4 days, in order to allow the girls to become familiar with our cattery and with us, before a much longer stay planned for October. An important part of a first stay for most cats, is to learn that they will be collected and go home again.
Already the first evening, Lily decided to venture out and have a little look around the pen. She was a friendly and quirky little character and quickly allowed us to stroke her. She began to eat within a few hours. Daisy, however, would prove much more of a challenge and, frankly, a concern. Whilst she fairly quickly came to trust us, and developed enough confidence to come out of the bedroom at night, we struggled tremendously getting her to eat. She was offered a whole range of different types of wet -and dry food, but nothing had interest. Her hunger had simply shut down alongside her increased anxiety levels. We regularly liaised with the cats’ mum about food, and we must have tried in excess of 15 different types, none of them with any great success. We did well if Daisy had a few nibbles. But a few nibbles she did have, and that meant that her digestive system also stayed active. The amount Daisy ate over her four days with us did increase, as she began to relax. However, we were nevertheless mightily relieved when she went back home and her mum reported that she had enjoyed a good meal!
Since Daisy’s and Lily’s stay with us, similar experiences with other little guests have taught us that they do indeed eat much better on their second stay with us, so we feel optimistic about the girls’ pending October stay with us.
Claude & Matilda
Very young and coming across as quite inexperienced, Claude and Matilda found strength and support in one another when they were first introduced to Wolds Retreat. Both cats were very friendly but also very shy. It initially took quite a lot of time and effort to help them develop trust in us, and for us in turn to help them become confident with their new environment; all the unfamiliar sights and sounds, and the new routines of the cattery. Tilda was the bravest, the one who first came out of the safety of her igloo bed and always the one who took the lead. We saw little Claude reference a lot with Tilda; whatever she did, he knew was safe to do too, and again and again we saw him follow her paw steps. Throughout his stay with us, he preferred to sleep and rest “under cover”, either a blanket or a soft bed turned upside down. But he too came out to eat, study the cattery garden, have cuddles with us and even to play. Claude and Tilda represented cuteness in overload. Everything they did, and the way they did it, was super charming and would melt anybody’s heart.
Mowgli & Titan
The owners of Mowgli and Titan were quite concerned about how their two little cats’ stay with us would go. More specifically, they were concerned about Titan, a handsome rescue cat carrying a lot of complex “baggage”, which manifested in a range of behaviours many of which seemed to contradict one another. Titan would come across as moody, dismissive and potentially aggressive, but at the same time he craved human company, love and affection. On top of this, he too needed help to adjust to the cattery environment and routines, and learn to trust us. Meanwhile, little Mowgli, still just a big kitten, navigated beautifully around Titan and his unpredictable moods, and strangely provided him with much needed friendship.
Because we judged that Titan needed 100% consistency, we decided that, in his case, he would be best served to have only one carer, me. We put together a “programme” for him. Everything was focused on providing Titan with company and opportunities for affection, and in doing so showing respect of his boundaries and allowing it to be on his terms. The only counter rule we had was to not reward “undesirable” behaviour. So, when Titan hissed, or displayed aggressive behaviour, I would respond with a sharp “ah ah” and then withdraw from the situation, often leaving the pen. A short while later, I would return and we would try again. I saw Titan quite taken aback at this approach; it stopped his behaviour in the moment and appeared to give him time to have a little think. He was an intelligent cat, and I actually believe that he began to make the connection, as he gradually started to adjust his behaviour and appeared to really put an effort into “being friendly”. When displaying “desirable” behaviour, he was immediately rewarded with a “good boy” and little treats, which he super gently accepted from my hand. It was a delight to discover that Titan had a lot of love to give, and he really worked hard at getting it right.
Although somewhat living in Titan’s shadow, I made sure that little Mowgli was not left out. He loved cuddles and sometimes had sneaky treats when Titan was asleep in the bedroom. However, playing with Mowgli was difficult, as Titan wanted to join in and quickly became jealous of Mowgli and would see him off. So, I provided the boys with a good selection of toys which Mowgli could play with independently. Next time they visit, learning to play well together may become Lesson no. 2 for little Titan.