27/11/2024
Do you like every person you meet? Probably not.
With some people we can just hit it off, others we want to avoid like the plague, but most people we can be sociable with though we are never going to be best friends.
How would you feel if I told you, you must be best buds with every person you meet?
Dogs are just like us - most dogs actually don't like every dog, and we should not put that expectation on them either, because it just creates conflict for the dog and in our relationship with our dogs.
Dog sociability is a spectrum that follows a bell shaped distribution.
On one end you have the antisocial dog that doesn't like dogs and prefers human company. Those are the dogs often classed as dog aggressive. They're not.
At the other end of the spectrum you have the oversocial dog, or social butterfly, that literally could and would like to be best mates with everyone. Just like the antisocial dog, they're not that common - we just think they are, because these dogs can go anywhere!
In fact, most commonly, dogs are selectively social, they may like some but not other dogs, they may play with some dogs and with others they decide 'no, thank you'.
However, at every part of that spectrum dog interactions can break down and we can observe reactivity struggles.
Antisocial dogs can often end in situations where a more sociable dog approaches and make them feel uncomfortable.
Social butterflies may be frustrated because they cannot get to another dog.
Dogs may feel conflicted - Even though they generally like other dogs, they lack the confidence or skills to have an appropriate conversation.
There are many facets to dog interactions and reactivity - the key is that we do not put unrealistic expectations on our dogs, and if you're struggling with reactivity, get in touch for advice.