22/10/2025
Such an important topic. You do not have to be present for euthanasia-even in a home setting. Your pet can still be in their familiar surroundings. There is no obligation to stay.
We do not know everyone’s backstory. There are many reasons behind choosing not to be present. And all are valid.
In the home setting, if a family member does not want to stay, they may choose to move to a different part of the house for the whole visit or just stay for part of the visit, perhaps stepping out when their pet is deeply asleep under anaesthesia. I’ve even had families leave the property.
You can absolutely see how you feel-and decide at the time.
My approach to caring for your pet does not change, whether you are present or choose not to be. And, trust me, your pet will get all the fuss and love from me.
Please remember: the posts that say, ‘You must stay’-and there’s one in particular-are wrong and outdated and ignorant. And, quite frankly, cruel.
It’s what has gone before that matters, nothing else.
🌙 As the Days Grow Shorter — A Time for Reflection
As autumn deepens and we move into the darker months of the year, many of us find ourselves reflecting more deeply on life, love, and the companions who’ve walked beside us.
Among the most difficult and emotional questions we face as pet owners is this one:
“Should I stay with my pet during euthanasia?”
A recent article written by Dawn Murray BCAh, Founder of the Association of Pet Bereavement Counsellors, revisits this very topic with clarity and compassion.
Viral posts have circulated for years claiming that pets “search for their owners” in their final moments, implying that anyone who couldn’t stay was a coward or unloving.
Dawn reminds us that this is not only untrue; it is deeply harmful.
💬 “No one should ever be made to feel guilt or shame for the choices made in moments of heartbreak.”
As pet bereavement counsellors, we understand there are many reasons why someone might not be present at the end: illness, distance, trauma, or circumstances beyond their control.
Love is not measured by presence in one moment, but by a lifetime of care, companionship, and devotion.
💜 Truths to Remember:
🟣Your pet did not die “looking” for you.
🟣Your pet knew they were loved.
🟣Veterinary teams provide comfort, safety, and compassion in those final moments.
🟣You are not a coward for finding it too painful — you are human.
This reflection is a gentle reminder to treat ourselves and others with kindness.
If you’ve ever faced this decision, please know, you did what you could, with love in your heart.
💜 If you’re struggling with these thoughts or feelings, you don’t have to face them alone.
Our Registered and Accredited Pet Bereavement Counsellors are here to offer understanding, comfort, and guidance.
We know what it means to love deeply, to lose, and to heal.
👉 Visit our page to connect with a counsellor near you, or reach out for confidential support and reassurance.
You deserve to be heard and supported, with compassion.
