15/04/2022
Saw this and it rang so true to me. I've learned new skills and methodology in regards to training in recent years, and yes, there will always be those that ridicule the 'nandy Pandy' way, but the science and the results confirm its the not only the best way but the most effective π
When I first had a dog in my life 22 years ago, I thought these things were not only ok, but absolutely desirable (please read to the end, I've changed my opinion)
1. Using choke chains, prong collars and slip leads
2. Using ecollars
3. Pinning my dog to the ground
4.Taking my dog's space by moving quickly into it
5. Having to be "dominant" (whatever that means), having to be "alpha" (again, what?)
6. Moving my dog if they were lying on my path
7. Demanding my dog do exactly what I wanted at all times
8. Believing harnesses are the cause of pulling
9. Thinking clicker training and positive reinforcement was a joke and would never work
10. Thinking dogs need a negative consequence for "bad" behaviour- they don't
11. Walking out the door before my dogs, every time, you know, to show I was in charge
12. Kneeing them on the chest for jumping up
13. Not giving them attention when they asked for it, only on my terms
14. Ignoring them for 10 minutes on reunion, every time.
15. "No" was a word they heard all the time.
Be the pack leader. Dog "psychology".
And on and on. These were all things I'd learned from "experts", people who had been training and owning dog's since nineteen diggidy two. They knew. Or so they thought.
Unfortunately, if you look at many online forums and groups, you'll see that same, ancient, abusive advice. No progress, no growth, no examination of self or anything.
No fun, no love, just harshness and coldness.
Then in 2006, I start on another path. The path had been forged by others buy the entrance was overgrown with the poisonous weeds but I managed to poke a hole through, then get my foot in and open it up.
As I write this, Logan asked to get up on the bed next to me. My window is open, it's cool in my room so I put the blanket over him. He wants to be near me, and he wants to be warm. I can give him both. He has nightmares as a result of the trauma of his previous life before he came to me. I learned about trauma and how long it takes to heal, sometimes never fully. When he has nightmares, I sooth and settle him, put his heavy blanket back over him. He is mine to take care of, not to bully and intimidate. His nightmares are not "bad" behaviour.
I've come a long way. Now
1. I believe our dogs need safety and security and we must provide that for them
2. I play with my dog a lot. In the house and out
3. I pet him when he asks for it, and teach him to settle when I'm unable to (such as working on the computer or if I've petted him and tell him I'm done)
4. Use positive reinforcement based training solutions every single time I can.
5. Make sure in the occasions I do something he doesn't like e.g. having to get him out of bed in the morning before I go to work so he can relieve himself, I make it up to him my having more fun.
6. Never correct him and teach him the rules kindly, fairly and consistly.
7. Teach him what my actions mean so we can communicate effectively
8. Listen to his needs.
9. "No" is not a word in our vocabulary, we learn rules without it.
These changes didn't happen overnight. They tool learning, work and self examination. I stopped projecting my own issues on my dog. We all need to do the same.
If you want to learn how to do this, we'd love to have you with us on this amazing journey. Let me know if you want to join us and I'll tell you how. It'll just take a little investment of time and won't cost the earth financially.
Love and peace.