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Puppy Training, Dog Behaviour, Dog Training

📸 IT’S THE LAST DAY OF THE MONTH….Yes, that does mean it’s our photo day but I also want to know the results of the 30/3...
30/11/2025

📸 IT’S THE LAST DAY OF THE MONTH….

Yes, that does mean it’s our photo day but I also want to know the results of the 30/30 Challenge I set up at the start of the month. So…

1️⃣ Post the last photo of your dog in your camera reel in the comments
AND
2️⃣ If you took part in the 30/30 Challenge, let me know what changes you’ve seen in the comments

Here's Mr Alfie...

☺️ TESTIMONIAL TIME ☺️This is from one of my remote/online clients I worked with back in the good old days of Covid. Whi...
28/11/2025

☺️ TESTIMONIAL TIME ☺️

This is from one of my remote/online clients I worked with back in the good old days of Covid. While most of my work is done in-person, it is entirely possible to help people out online, too, as this goes to show…

“We initially contacted Emma for advice on how to stop lead pulling but ended up receiving so much more information which led to us having additional 1 to 1 sessions on other areas which we hadn’t initially thought about. We went into the initial session a bit apprehensive as we had had a previous experience with another trainer which we personally did not rate, and also were unsure how it would work over zoom due to the restrictions. However, we felt reassured after first speaking with Emma and each session has been fantastic.

Emma explains things clearly and gives you so much to think about. She always follows up with an email summary with handouts attached which are so helpful when putting training into practice. Emma ensures that all of our questions are answered at the end of the session, even if we have overrun.

Emma dealt with us being unable to meet in person when we first started working with her very well, sending us videos of her training with her own dog, and we were able to send her videos of us with our dog and receive instant feedback and advice.

Emma is very approachable and patient and is quick in responding to messages. We have contacted her about other things which have come up outside of our sessions and she has always offered detailed advice. We have had 3 zoom sessions and 1 face to face so far but it feels like so much more from the amount of support we have received.

We are moving out of the area soon but have already told Emma that we would like to continue using her services and I am sure that we will be in touch soon for more 1 to 1 online sessions! We have already recommended Emma to friends who have gone on to book with her and would continue to recommend her to anyone with a dog! We only wish that we had found Emma sooner!”

❓❓WHY MIGHT I THINK YOUR DOG IS IN PAIN…❓❓➡️ Research into the link between pain and behaviour problems in animals is in...
26/11/2025

❓❓WHY MIGHT I THINK YOUR DOG IS IN PAIN…❓❓

➡️ Research into the link between pain and behaviour problems in animals is in its infancy but in 2020 a huge and important study was carried out by Professor Daniel Mills who found that up to 80% of behaviour cases had pain either as the root cause of the behaviour problem or it was, at least, a significant contributing factor. So, as Behaviourists, we know the link is there and it’s real. Vets are a little behind in their understanding of this so it often falls to other dog professionals, like us, to advocate for your dogs and pick up on signs they may be suffering.

🧠 Science tells us the ‘networks for pain’ in the brain are highly complex, highly individual, and can change in different contexts. What we do know is that behavioural expressions of pain do not always present in the ways we might think. A dog in pain doesn’t always limp or yelp. They may not express pain during a clinical examination by the vet, either. We have to look for other signs…

🚩 🚩Red flags that indicate potential pain to me are:

- A change in behaviour for, seemingly, no apparent reason e.g. they used to be fine with something and now they’re not but there’s no identifiable trigger for the change
- A new behaviour e.g. your dog has started doing something that they’ve never done before
- A generalisation of a behaviour e.g. a dog used to just bark at the doorbell going but is now barking much more and at other things
- An intensification of behaviour e.g. a dog might have always struggled a bit around other dogs but now the behaviour has escalated / intensified. Or, it has generalised and the dog is now ‘reactive’ to lots of things
- A dog who is seemingly ‘on the go’ all the time and struggles to settle
- A dog who is described as ‘demanding’, ‘attention-seeking’, or ‘clingy’
- The guardian has ‘tried everything’ in terms of training for an issue but the training either hasn’t worked, or the results are short-lived.
- Anti-anxiety medication was trialled and it didn’t make a difference.

🙆‍♀️ But I can often hit a brick wall with guardians when I mention pain might be the missing part of the puzzle and that’s because there are lots of myths around what a dog in pain looks like. Here’s what I hear guardians saying to me:

“Oh no, my dog isn’t in pain because she tears around the park playing with other dogs…”
“No, honestly, he’s not in pain - he can chase a ball for hours…”
“But he’s always really happy to go for a walk…”
“She tears up and down the stairs like a lunatic…”
“He’s on the go all the time…”

‼️ MYTH BUSTER: Exercise and play releases adrenaline and endogenous opioids. Both of these have lovely pain-reducing effects, making a dog feel GREAT. In fact, some dogs will often seek out play/exercise in order to self-medicate. This is also where the ‘clinginess’ or ‘attention-seeking’ comes in - cuddles and fuss make you feel better, or the guardian gives the dog something to do which helps distract them and take their mind off the pain for a while. In terms of being ‘on the go’ all the time, pain causes changes to arousal leading to a dog who is seemingly ‘busy’ all the time.

Other things I hear:

“No, I don’t think he’s in pain - he’s just being stubborn…” I hear this one A LOT…

- He just refuses to get in the car
- He stops and sits if we’re not going the way he wants
- She’ll lie down and won’t budge because she doesn’t want to go home

‼️ MYTH BUSTER: No. Your dog is not being ‘stubborn’. Something is going on for them. Yes, it might be a worry/anxiety thing - maybe they had a bad experience near those woods, or they were scared by a loud lorry on that road previously. BUT it also might be because they’re hurting and need to rest. Those pain-relieving chemicals have worn off and now everything is a bit ouchy - I just need to stop for a bit.

And then the other things I hear a lot (and from Vets as well 😖)…

“Oh he’s not in pain - all terriers skip on their back leg - it’s a breed thing…”
“Oh she’s fine - all Frenchies have a weird sit - it’s just a Frenchy thing…”
“No, he’s not in pain - it’s just the Golden Retriever hip wiggle…”
“Oh I don’t think she’s in any pain, she’s always done that…”

‼️ MYTH BUSTER: Yes, certain issues are common in certain breeds but just because it’s common, it doesn’t mean a) it’s normal or b) your dog isn’t in pain. And yes, I have heard vets dismiss real musculoskeletal issues as a ‘breed thing’. I have heard vets say that because that luxating patellar is only a Grade 1 or 2, then it means the dog isn’t in pain. No, NO. NO!!

➡️ Neither you, I, nor the vet get to say that a dog isn’t in pain. The only one who can tell you that they are in pain is the dog and the only way they can express that is firstly, through subtle changes in their gait and posture (typically undetectable to the untrained eye) and secondly, through their behaviour.

❤️ So, if someone involved with your dog in some way (your Trainer, a Behaviourist, your dog walker, or a groomer) suggests your dog might be in pain, LISTEN to them.

➡️ Having a Dynamic Dog Assessment with me will allow me to analyse your dog’s movement and pick up those subtle signs that indicate potential pain/discomfort. I will then write a Vet Report and present undeniable evidence to your Vet that will allow them to start the process of diagnosing the issues, helping your dog feel better and, thus, improving their behaviour. ❤️

📧 Email me at: [email protected] for more information

🐕‍🦺 WHEN LEAD-WALKING JUST BECOMES A GAME OF TUG-OF-WAR…🦮 There are many reasons why your dog may be pulling on lead - o...
25/11/2025

🐕‍🦺 WHEN LEAD-WALKING JUST BECOMES A GAME OF TUG-OF-WAR…

🦮 There are many reasons why your dog may be pulling on lead - over-excitement, over-arousal, fear/anxiety, lack of training, even pain can contribute to lead-pulling. But sometimes, it’s just down to the walking equipment.

🐕‍🦺 The typical fixed length lead sold in shops is usually about 1m long. This length of lead is just too short. It doesn’t allow for the dog to walk in a natural, comfortable gait and not pull. It doesn’t allow for the dog to get their head down and sniff without pulling.

🦮 Even worse are retractable/extendable leads - in order for a dog to move forwards on one of those, they have to create pressure, or in other words…PULL

➡️ My favourite lead is a 3m fixed-length lead. This gives a dog plenty of freedom to move in their natural gait, sniff, and do doggy things, all without pulling. One simple change like this can be transformative for walks, making for a much more pleasant experience at both ends of the lead!

‼️ And remember... just because your dog is on lead, it doesn't mean they HAVE to be glued by your side in "Heel" position. Yes, a busy pavement or narrow path may require closer control but for the most part, let your dog have an appropriate amount of the lead. It's no good buying a lovely length lead but gripping it tightly half a meter away from their harness 🙈😂

😊 Give it a go and see what happens....

Licensed to practice 😁 👊🏻
24/11/2025

Licensed to practice 😁 👊🏻

🧀🍗 🥩 LIFE REWARDS WORK WONDERS❓Do we always have to use food rewards? Nope. The environment has its own very powerful re...
22/11/2025

🧀🍗 🥩 LIFE REWARDS WORK WONDERS

❓Do we always have to use food rewards? Nope. The environment has its own very powerful reinforcers…

🚪Opening that back door to the garden can be a reward in itself - Ask your dog to sit and wait at the door. The reward is getting to go outside.

🏞️ Getting released to sniff is an amazing reward - use it as a reward for some nice loose lead walking

🐕 Play with a doggy friend - use this as a reward for approaching their doggy friend calmly and not pulling to them

🤸🏼‍♂️ Play with you - getting to chase you or playing with a favourite toy with you can be a great reward for recall

I HAVE NEWS!! 😁😁😁‼️I am over the moon to announce that I have completed the Dynamic Dog Practitioner course with a Disti...
20/11/2025

I HAVE NEWS!! 😁😁😁

‼️I am over the moon to announce that I have completed the Dynamic Dog Practitioner course with a Distinction. In the words of the Principal “You have blasted your way through the toughest course in the industry” 😂

👉 A recent study stated that up to 80% of dog behaviour cases either have pain as the root cause or as a significant contributing factor. Given that the majority of my own behaviour cases over the last 2 years have had pain as a contributing factor, I know this is true.

👉 Now (to paraphrase Liam Neeson 😂), I have a particular set of skills, acquired over many, many months of hard graft, that make me able to help people like you. If you or I, or anyone else for that matter, suspect your dog is in pain, I will look for it, I will find it and I will hunt it down and take my findings to your vet so we can alleviate your dog’s discomfort AND improve your dog’s behaviour.

❤️ This gives me a uniquely holistic approach to working with you and your dog and I can’t wait to get started ❤️

➡️I will be taking some time off in December to regroup (and rest my poor brain 😂) and figure out what my service offer will look like going forward but watch out for a January offer in the New Year 👀 👀

🙏 A BIG thank you to all my clients who have put up with me and my brain melting over the last 6 months. I’ve turned up early to appointments (by a whole day 🙈😂), I’ve been late, I’ve forgotten appointments and had to reschedule, I’ve been late replying to messages etc etc. It’s not how I like to operate and it has frustrated me as well as you so for that I’m truly sorry but also grateful for everyone’s understanding and flexibility ❤️

➡️ If you applied to be a Case Study but were unsuccessful, I will be in touch with you personally in the New Year with a very special offer just for you.

➡️ If you are a trainer/behaviourist or other industry professional, with a client where you suspect pain is at play in the dog’s behaviour, I can offer you a stand alone Dynamic Dog Assessment to help you get to the bottom of any potential issues.

There will be more info/posts etc coming in the New Year but for now… YAAYYY and THANK YOU 🙏 ❤️

This is AMAZING news for dog welfare ❤️ Thank you Lorna for keeping on fighting the good fight 👏👏👏👏👏
19/11/2025

This is AMAZING news for dog welfare ❤️ Thank you Lorna for keeping on fighting the good fight 👏👏👏👏👏

🐕 CASE STUDY TIME… FEAR OF THUNDER & RAIN➡️ This write-up is going to be a bit different to other case study write-ups I...
19/11/2025

🐕 CASE STUDY TIME… FEAR OF THUNDER & RAIN

➡️ This write-up is going to be a bit different to other case study write-ups I’ve done previously because this story is more about dealing with obstacles during the behaviour modification journey, rather than the behaviour plan and results themselves. It’s about emphasising the importance of the client having a good supportive team around them to help them overcome those unexpected obstacles and about the client listening and trusting that team…

❤️ This is Stan - How handsome is he?! ❤️

➡️ Stan’s mum came to me in July 2024, having been recommended by her vet to seek the help of a behaviourist. Stan had been getting increasingly anxious about rain and thunder and had started barking constantly in the late afternoon and evening - alerting to every little noise.

Now, problem number one (for the Behaviourist) is that Stan’s fear of thunder had been present since he was a puppy and he was 9 at the time of our first consultation. His fear of rain developed about 2-3 years later. This means that both fears were very entrenched and had been present for most, if not all, of his life. Long term fears are very resistant to change and we are unlikely to solve the problem completely. So, why seek help now, I hear you ask…

❓Well, Stan’s behaviour was intensifying, for no apparent reason. Stan was picking up on the drop in barometric pressure and would start whining and crying before any rain had even started. Once the rain started, he would constantly bark and pace for the duration of the rain and for some time after; if it thundered, he was utterly inconsolable and would run around the house barking in a highly distressed state, and it would take some time for him to calm down afterwards. The alert barking in the late afternoons and evenings was a new behaviour and happened regardless of the weather. Which leads us to problem two….. why is it getting much worse now?

⁉️ When we have a problem behaviour that increases in intensity for no apparent reason, or a new behaviour that suddenly starts, the first thing to look at is pain. In addition, we know that pain is often behind increased noise sensitivities AND early studies are indicating that those with musculoskeletal pain can experience an increase in pain when barometric pressure drops.

💉 Stan had already been diagnosed with arthritis a year earlier and was on monthly pain-relieving injections but when I saw videos of him on walks and observed his movements in the home, I was concerned that there was something else going on, so I referred him to a vet physio (the amazing Amy Stone Veterinary Physiotherapy).

➡️ While we waited for Stan’s physio appointment, I put some lifestyle changes and management strategies in place to try and reduce some of Stan’s anxiety, and I contacted his vet to communicate my concerns, inform them of the plan going forward and ask for some situational and long term medication to help with any heavy rain and thunder. At this point, the vet agreed to the medication but stated that Stan had seemed fine on examination and that this was probably just a flare-up of his arthritis.

❌ It wasn’t.

🏥 After an assessment with Amy, some treatment and an exercise plan for a few weeks, it was agreed that Stan needed to go back to the vet for some X-rays. Stan had a Cruciate Ligament Rupture and required surgery. It was thought that this had happened a year previously when Stan’s mum had taken him to the vet because he was limping but it hadn’t been picked up by the vet. This is a really, really painful condition for dogs and Stan had suffered with this for a whole year. No wonder his behaviour was getting worse.

❌ But the story doesn’t end there… The surgeon pronounced the surgery a success but didn’t prescribe any physio as part of his rehabilitation. A little while after his op, we were still experiencing some issues associated with pain - some limping and skipping on that leg, and some barking and growling at bigger dogs (another new behaviour). So I sent him back to Amy. After a few weeks of physio exercises and a lot of roast chicken in the presence of other dogs, there were some improvements but not enough. Back to the vet we went…

😧 Turns out the operation wasn’t quite the success the surgeon made it out to be. In fact, the surgeon had repaired the ligament but not bothered to tidy up and remove the loose cartilage so this was flapping around the knee - now any human who has had to undergo an arthroscopy will know how painful loose flapping cartilage is - it catches and hurts, it makes the knee really unstable, it can become swollen and inflamed. It’s a whole world of ouchy.

🏥 So off to the specialist we go. This time, a proper job was done, and physio and hydrotherapy done as part of the rehab programme.

⏰ Roll on another 4 months and Stan was physically well. He was great around other dogs but still a bit barky from time to time and, obviously still worried during rain and thunder. I should add at this point that the vet had been trialling various different medications with Stan - all situational (meaning they are used at the time of the worrying event) - despite my recommendation to add in a long term medication. And it had been a battle with the vet to get some of these medicines trialled at all. But here we were with another drug that wasn’t working and so Stan’s mum came back to me to ask for help. I went back to the vet and asked (again) for a long term medication. And we got it…

🙌 Wow! What a game changer! Stan is now much calmer overall but, more importantly, has snoozed his way through all the recent rainstorms we’ve had, putting us in a GREAT place to start working on his fear of thunder.

✋ Now, before we get ahead of ourselves, remember what I said at the beginning? We are unlikely to resolve his fear completely - it is too entrenched. Our aim is to get Stan as comfortable as we can, so he can tolerate thunder better, and not be in that same level of distress he was before. That is success in cases like these.

‼️ So, the takeaways from this case are:

- Sometimes we have to push back at vets. We can’t always take their first opinion. If we hadn’t pushed and explored pain ourselves, we wouldn’t have discovered Stan had a Cruciate Ligament Rupture.

- Just because a surgeon says surgery has been successful, it’s not always the case - If we hadn’t continued to push after Stan’s op, we wouldn’t have discovered he needed a second op because the first one wasn’t done properly.

- ALWAYS get physio after an operation, even if it’s not recommended by your vet.

- Not every drug will work for your dog. Sometimes we need to trial lots of different ones before finding what works. And this goes for pain relief meds, as well as behaviour meds.

- As a client, you want a good support team around you who are prepared to advocate for you and your dog. If you have that team, listen to them - Stan’s mum did.

✅ From my point of view, I LOVE having a network of good dog professionals around me who I can trust. Whether that’s other trainers or behaviourists, physios, groomers etc. But me having this amazing network only works if the client trusts me and takes my advice to use them. Thankfully, Stan’s mum did and it meant that Amy and I were able to work as a team and push to get Stan the treatment he so badly needed. But the biggest thing for me is that, YET AGAIN, we have pain playing a key part in the behaviour I was asked to help with. Pain that had been missed by vets for a whole year. If I ever needed a reminder (which I don’t 😂) of why I am taking the Dynamic Dog Practitioner course, this is it. 15 months after his mum first contacted me, I received this message from her “I am very happy - he’s like the old Stan!” ❤️ I can guarantee we wouldn’t be here if we hadn’t resolved that pain first.

❓❓DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?🐕 You need to help your dog generalise their behaviour…🤔 Your dog may be brilliant at their t...
16/11/2025

❓❓DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?

🐕 You need to help your dog generalise their behaviour…

🤔 Your dog may be brilliant at their training in the home but not so great out in the real world or in new places. And that is completely NORMAL. Annoying but still normal.

➡️ Practice your training in lots (and I mean lots) of different environments to help it really stick in their mind. Set them up for success by starting in easier environments first with fewer distractions. Go back to the early stages of the training - your dog doesn’t understand that “Sit” in a new environment is the same as “Sit” in the kitchen. YOU need to teach them that it is. Eventually, your dog will say “Ohhhh I get it - it doesn’t matter where I am, when you say ‘this’, I do ‘that’. GOTCHA!!”

14/11/2025

Why can’t people see the Tw*t in the Cravat doesn’t know what he’s talking about???

This is not how you begin to train a Drop/Out/Off - whatever you want to call it. This ⬇️ is the final stage after hundreds of repetitions, starting easy and setting the dog up for success before building to a game of Tuggy with my favourite toy 🙄

The fact that he is so obviously lost, confused, and non-plussed with no idea how to handle this dog (other than to knee him in the shoulder and ask the guardians for help) should be a whopping great red flag to everybody. 🤦🏼‍♀️

How about we look at the dog’s unmet needs first? The dog’s emotional and physical health. Outlets for chewing or sniffing, mental stimulation yadda yadda yadda. Then let’s teach ‘out’ properly….

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