Trudi Dempsey: Equine Trainer and Behaviour Consultant

Trudi Dempsey:  Equine Trainer and Behaviour Consultant Positive reinforcement training and behaviour consultancy. Considered equitation for horse and human. Positive reinforcement training, clicker training.

Trudi Dempsey offers Creative Equine Training, a personal coaching experience on your own horse at your own yard in and around Somerset, Dorset and Devon. Creative Equine Training offers the same attention to detail through online distance support. Video feedback lessons or follow a structured training course without the need to leave home.

Am I the problem?Over the years, I’ve found myself grappling with the delicate balance between caring too deeply about w...
18/01/2025

Am I the problem?

Over the years, I’ve found myself grappling with the delicate balance between caring too deeply about what others think and protecting my own sense of self. For someone in my profession, where kindness, consideration, and trust are at the core of everything I do, it’s an ongoing challenge.

When you care about your work, particularly the animals you work with, worrying about what others think is just one more weight you don’t need to carry. Yes, feedback is good for growth, and listening to others can help me refine my skills, but there’s another side to it: assumptions and judgment, often from those who don’t know me at all.

For me, the hardest to stomach have been the times when someone felt I was being unkind. It’s crushing because I really believe that kindness isn’t optional, it’s essential. It’s the thread that runs through my work, my teaching, and how I interact with horses and humans alike. But sometimes people misinterpret. And, in moments of vulnerability, those perceptions have hit me.

I should probably toughen up and not give any f’s, but the truth is I do care. That one YouTube dislike, that one smiley face on a serious post do matter.

The problem isn’t just me. The problem is just people.

We’re complex, emotional creatures who often project our fears, insecurities, and misunderstandings onto one another. That projection can come across as judgment when it’s just miscommunication because of fear, lack of skill, or past experience. And while that doesn’t excuse unkindness, it does help me recognise that I don’t have to carry every judgment as though it’s mine to bear.

So here’s where I stand now: I want to care less about how I’m perceived, but I want to do better where it matters. I don’t want to be numbed by assumptions; I want to remain open, curious, and kind. Not because I’m trying to appease critics, but because that’s the kind of person and professional I strive to be.

If you’re someone who also works with people, animals, or both, you’ve probably felt this too. Maybe it was a throwaway comment on your training methods. Maybe it was someone taking something you said out of context and twisting it. It’s easy to retreat, to shut down, and to decide that caring isn’t worth the hurt. But the truth is, we do need to care.

For me, that means continuing to focus on the horses in front of me, the clients I’m mentoring, and the students I’m teaching. It means being honest when I get it wrong and being humble enough to keep learning. It means showing up fully and accepting that I won’t always get it right in everyone’s eyes, but that’s fine.

The problem may be with people, but the solution isn’t trying to fix everyone else. Nor is it about fixing yourself. The solution is that we all remain curious and open, prepared to discuss and understand.

To anyone else navigating this: keep caring, but care wisely and look after yourself.

My Horse Trainer Foundation Certificate course at Understand Horses is now fully booked for 2025. I'm so grateful for th...
11/01/2025

My Horse Trainer Foundation Certificate course at Understand Horses is now fully booked for 2025. I'm so grateful for the incredible interest and excited to welcome such a fantastic group of students. I can't wait to get started and see the amazing progress everyone will make together. Thank you for your support!

There's been a lot of 🍆 talk on the socials lately. This is one way to reduce training tension around food by providing ...
10/01/2025

There's been a lot of 🍆 talk on the socials lately. This is one way to reduce training tension around food by providing alternative ways to get the food.
In my latest quick podcast I talk more around how I deal with male horses dropping during training. Find it at Lead a Horse to Water on all your fave platforms.

Is it...

A) Before and after castration
B) The top Freddy is more respectful
C) The Freddy below has freedom of choice thanks to the alternative resource (snuffle mat). This way, he can regulate his emotions more easily and participate enthusiastically.

(I swear I'm not a prude, but it felt weird having to think about how to draw his nether regions)

(Also I promise the eggplant looked even weirder the other way around)

Feeling bogged down by winter?Winter training isn’t all about training in the accepted sense. The mud, the rain, the col...
08/01/2025

Feeling bogged down by winter?

Winter training isn’t all about training in the accepted sense. The mud, the rain, the cold, and the endless layers can make it feel like a slog. You might not look like the TikTok horse folks with immaculate arenas and perfect horses, but that’s okay.

Turning up is enough. It’s about the small, meaningful moments:

Working on your calm stand (stand still and chill)

Watching your horse explore a novel item

Offering enrichment, or simply sharing space

These little things build connection, trust, and progress in ways that big training sessions might not. Show up for the small things because they’re the foundation of everything.






Teaching a ‘Stand-on-Mat’ with front hooves There are MANY ways to do this- here is one.Before training: Are you both re...
07/01/2025

Teaching a ‘Stand-on-Mat’ with front hooves

There are MANY ways to do this- here is one.

Before training: Are you both ready? Is your horse comfortable, healthy, and relaxed? Living their best life?

Start with (stand still and chill) SSC: Teach your horse to stand calmly in the training area. Reinforce this frequently at first, gradually reducing the rate.
End by: Walking a few steps away and scattering food to maintain relaxation while you leave the training area for a few minutes.
Core Behaviour: Introduce movement with a few steps in a small circle or a return straight line, always reinforcing back at the SSC position.
Introduce the Mat: Place a mat passively in the area, gradually move the mat closer to the core behaviour.
Mat becomes part of the core: Mark as the front hooves touch the mat, walk to the SSC position to give reinforcement → this sets you up for the next attempt. Feed for behaviour, reinforce in a position that sets you up right for the next behaviour!
Refine and add a cue: Shape precise hoof placement and gradually add a cue to step forward onto the mat. Build a smooth pattern: wait (SSC) → walk → step onto mat → mark → move away to start of pattern to reinforce → wait…. repeat
Expand the Behaviour: increase duration on the mat, adjust your position, and introduce new locations and new 'mats' gradually. Keep reinforcement points strategic and criteria manageable. Every learner needs as many reps as they need!

Thanks to LGS and model Reggie

Fresh starts and endless possibilities.Here we are at the start of another year. It is so easy to feel the weight of exp...
01/01/2025

Fresh starts and endless possibilities.

Here we are at the start of another year. It is so easy to feel the weight of expectation. Some of us thrive on setting goals and planning ahead, while others might feel overwhelmed, uncertain, or simply content to take each day as it comes. Wherever you find yourself, know that there’s no right or wrong way to begin.
It isn’t about achieving perfection or ticking off endless checklists, it’s about small steps and sometimes just taking the first step. Whether you’re ready to embrace ambitions or prefer a slower, more reflective path, your journey is uniquely yours- do you!

Let’s be kind, first for ourselves, for those around us, and for the incredible animals we share our lives with.

Here's to the possibilities, big and small, that lie ahead!

Want to be a certified professional clicker trainer? Last chance (31st December) to apply for the scholarship place on m...
30/12/2024

Want to be a certified professional clicker trainer? Last chance (31st December) to apply for the scholarship place on my course.

Want to know more? Drop me a message and I can set up a chat.

Horse trainer and behaviourist Trudi Dempsey presents this accredited course, giving students the knowledge and practical skills necessary to become a skilled professional equine trainer.

15/12/2024
Love collaborating with Becky at LGS
11/12/2024

Love collaborating with Becky at LGS

💜🐴Collaboration Appreciation Day 2🐴💜
🙏This week I’m going to post each day about the wonderful people I collaborate with on a daily, weekly, monthly & yearly basis 🙏

🥰It’s a gratitude week, dedicated to my wider team & colleagues 🥰

🐎Second up is the AWESOME Trudi Dempsey 🐎

🐴Trudi supports me with my own horses, mainly Rum, Reggie & Prince 🐴

🐎We train weekly, & it’s the highlight of my week 💕 I am always fighting time with juggling work & my herd, my training sessions are so important for my herd, myself & my learning, they keep me & the boys smiling 🐎

🙏Trudi expands my riding boundaries, challenges thought processes & makes me a better horse person, she is an instructor Jedi 🙏

🐎We share several clients, collaborate on podcasts, clinics & workshops & we have sooo many important discussions on pain, behaviour & horse welfare 🐴

🎄 🙏Trudi you are one FANTASTIC Human 🙏🎄





Are horses are our greatest teacher?No single horse can teach you everything about being a trainer. Each one brings thei...
03/12/2024

Are horses are our greatest teacher?

No single horse can teach you everything about being a trainer. Each one brings their own challenges and lessons.

The quiet ones teach us to look harder, the sharp ones develop our creativity. Horses who don’t follow the script remind you that training is always about us getting it right, never the horse getting it wrong. Our script was wrong not their reading of it. Even after working with hundreds of horses, there’s always lots more to learn.

Every horse adds something unique to your understanding, but none of them complete the picture. how do you keep adding chapters to your knowledge base? What has a horse has taught you recently?

30/11/2024

This session immediately followed a container odour search, Rum was chill but you can still see his moments of distraction. Dealing with those moments can be hard, we can cue too soon, try to rush the horse to pay attention. Working at their rate, respecting their need to wait and giving clear cues once they are ready will help them engage more.

We add a mini chain and some distance from me.
This calmness came from building a distant food reinforcement routine, for those who fear this...notice I'm wearing the food here.

I continue to be shocked by how little people see/listen to the subtle signs of stress, pain and discomfort in horses.  ...
29/11/2024

I continue to be shocked by how little people see/listen to the subtle signs of stress, pain and discomfort in horses. On my recent firework video several people thought the horses were doing fine and would get over it. If we talk about listening to our horses we can be labeled as 'snowflakes' but if we do listen to the subtle signs we can build great communication and that is mutually satisfying.

I love Fed up Fred's work, always great conversation starters. If only horses could talk to us, gosh just imagine!

I wish horses would yelp like dogs do

Can we balance respect for humans with our responsibility to improve understanding of a horse's true needs?It’s a tricky...
24/11/2024

Can we balance respect for humans with our responsibility to improve understanding of a horse's true needs?

It’s a tricky balance, isn’t it? On one hand, I absolutely believe in letting people have their own ideas, respecting their choices, and knowing that there’s no one-size-fits-all in the way we approach things. We all come to our personal understanding from different places, and that’s something to appreciate.

But then there's the issue of advancing the welfare of our horses, which might mean stepping on toes. We all want what’s best for them, but that can sometimes put us at odds with others. And trust me, even as someone who’s naturally sensitive, a bit of a people pleaser, I often find myself walking that fine line of being considerate of others while pushing for better treatment of horses.

It’s hard not to worry about stepping on someone’s toes or saying something that might be taken the wrong way, but if WE aren’t honest and pushing for better, who will? The worry of wanting to be kind and respectful, yet also being firm in my belief that horses deserve the best we can give them can weigh very heavy. It feels like I’m caught between the urge to be gentle with people and the responsibility I feel to speak up when I see something that isn’t quite right for the horse.

It's about striking a balance, being true to what I believe in while remembering to respect that others might be on their own journey too. And yes, sometimes I get it wrong, but I’ll keep trying to get it right. I try to let go of the times I got it wrong, to cut myself some slack and forgive myself (even if others don't) but in a way those errors guide me to be more understanding in future.

I will keep on working towards changing how we all view horses. They are sentient beings with intelligence, preferences, and the capacity for deep connection with us. When we treat them with respect and understanding, we elevate the relationship for both parties. It’s not just about training; it’s about building trust, offering choice, and fostering kindness in our interactions.

I read a post last week where someone was horrified that some of us allow autonomy to horses, that we offer choice and control to them. The argument was that horses are offered no autonomy in wild situations. I don't even need to discuss whether there is any truth in that assumption because in asking horses to adapt to our human world autonomy can give them back a tiny degree of 'self' that we otherwise deny them.

If you're out there, up against the coal face of change remember, you're not alone!!

Thanks to Henry, supermodel!

Sam is brilliant and this will be excellent 👌
16/11/2024

Sam is brilliant and this will be excellent 👌

Understand Horses presents a webinar with equine ethologist and behaviour consultant Samantha Couper on the benefits and behaviours of play in horses.

Hello to all my regular readers and a warm welcome to those who are new to the page. Here’s an update on my latest cours...
11/11/2024

Hello to all my regular readers and a warm welcome to those who are new to the page. Here’s an update on my latest courses, events, and opportunities to get involved.

𝗜𝗔𝗔𝗕𝗖 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗖𝗼𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲– Starting Today!
Join Gabriel Lencioni and me in a 4-week journey through husbandry techniques that give horses choice and control. You’ll develop training plans, complete assignments, carry out hands-on training, and receive personalised video voiceover feedback to refine your cooperative care skills. It’s an intensive month, designed to build practical, confidence-inspiring routines for you and your equine learner.

𝗦𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗢𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗛𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲
Applications are now open for a scholarship covering 90% of the course fee for my upcoming Horse Trainer Foundation Certificate course, beginning in April 2025. To apply, email us at [email protected] by 31 December 2024. In 300 words or less, tell us about yourself, why this course matters to you, and what you aim to achieve with these skills. The scholarship recipient will be announced on Understand Horses social media on 21 January 2025.

𝗜𝗔𝗔𝗕𝗖 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: 𝗣𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 – January 2025

More than just identifying pain markers, this 4-week course delves into the distinctions between pain, discomfort, and stress in equines. Bring your own case study and work through it with my support, building an informed approach to managing and interpreting equine well-being.

𝗛𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲– April 2025
This 20-week, accredited course offers a blend of theory and practical training to build comprehensive horse training skills. Covering equine learning theory, non-ridden activities, key husbandry practices, the course draws on my 30+ years of experience, plus insights from equine behaviourist Justine Harrison. You’ll emerge with the knowledge and skills to work effectively with horses and their caregivers using modern training methods.

𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗗𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀

𝗠𝗮𝘆 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟱 I’ll be presenting at the IAABC Foundation Conference in Colorado.
𝗝𝘂𝗻𝗲 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟱 Trainer’s Exchange SW England Kate Banfield-Rickard and I are hosting a networking and learning event for trainers in South West England. If you’d like to attend, present or demonstrate, please get in touch very soon as spaces are limited.

𝗖𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽𝘀

I have limited availability for weekend clinics and workshops on clicker training or scent work for horses. If you’d like to host in 2025, please get in touch soon to secure a date.

𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗠𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗔𝘃𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆

Currently, I’m unable to take on more in-person students but can add interested people to my waiting list. Online mentoring slots are very limited, including voiceover feedback and live video support, get in touch if you’re interested.

Don’t forget to tune in to my Lead a Horse to Water podcast for more insights on training and equine behaviour. This gorgeous photo is of Chess Watts and her Exmoor pony Gambit- tune into the latest episode to learn more about their story.

Thank you for being part of my community—here’s to a fantastic 2025 of learning together!

So excited to be teaching this course next year, there's a huge scholarship too. If you have any questions drop me a mes...
07/11/2024

So excited to be teaching this course next year, there's a huge scholarship too.
If you have any questions drop me a message.

Horse trainer and behaviourist Trudi Dempsey presents this accredited course, giving students the knowledge and practical skills necessary to become a skilled professional equine trainer.

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