29/08/2025
How Agency Helps Us
The other evening, Murphy and I went for a walk somewhere new with a couple of friends and their dogs. As we headed down a path, a sudden sound made Murphy stop and unsettled him.
Murphy stood still, head turning away, tail low, ears back. I offered Murphy time to paddle in the water, time to sniff. But nothing else mattered to him except feeling safe. So we turned back to where the car was parked.
He wasnât pulling, but it was clear he wanted to leave. Our friends came with us as we headed back to the car.
But instead of going straight to the car, which I thought he would do, as he would have chosen to do in the past, he walked past it, choosing a different route.
Turning back didnât mean giving up. It gave Murphy the space and agency he needed to try again in a way that felt safe for him.
Sometimes dogs choose to pause, needing more time on their walk. Sometimes theyâre feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or in pain, or just needing time to process their environment. Thereâs always a reason, theyâre communicating how they feel.
Itâs not about our dogs being spoilt or stubborn, but about us listening to our dogs, for them to communicate what they need and able to trust us.
All the dogs did wonderfully on their walk, sniffing, exploring with curiosity and confidence. Each dog showed us in their own way how capable to make great choices and felt very proud of them all.
By supporting our dogs with their choices, we can help build their confidence, trust and safety, engaging with the world at their own pace.